Hello! For me, the situation is as follows - I have a friend of 7 years, but the relationship between us is no longer what it used to be. Somehow the "sweet" part of our relationship is missing. I soon met his colleague. I want to clarify that my friend is the boss of the boy in question. So, we met, we started going out once a week, my friend, my colleague and one of their mutual colleagues. It so happened that I fell for my colleague. When I talk to my friend, he usually sends me greetings and sometimes wants to hear me. We don't talk to him seriously, we joke in principle. I don't know if he likes me too or wants to hear me talk nonsense. I'm confused. When he sees me he says - I am very glad to see you or I am very glad to hear you. The last time he said, "I'm very happy to talk to you," and he laughed. I told him - I didn't understand that, and he answered me - because I'm hiding. How does that sound to you Does he like me too or were his words just a stone thrown into the big lake?!?!? It happens to touch me by patting me on the shoulder or back. He looks at me, smiles. Sometimes, however, he is serious, a little nervous and a little grumpy. I don't know what to think. I don't think he will do anything. I want to know if he has something to do with me. When he sees me, he smiles at me, tells me that I like him, that I'm very cool, makes various nice gestures. He is too secretive and delicate, perhaps hurt by women, and is now quite careful. How do I know if he feels something when we see each other? He had started calling me on the phone more often / 1-2 times a week /. The last time he called, his colleague called on the other phone at the same time. I want to note that she also falls for him, has a child and is 6 years older than him. He hung up. I told him "if you want us to finish so that there is no talk, then I should be guilty" / possibly if he tells her that he is talking to me /. Then he told me "I don't have to call anyone" and he really hasn't called since. Yesterday, as he works in the same room with my friend, I sent him a text message that read "is it convenient to call?". He called me and said "what is this sms, you pick up the phone and call". As far as I understand, he didn't tell my friend (he wasn't in the room) and that's fine. I don't know if I offended him with something when he called. What can I do, am I guilty of wanting to be with him? A few days ago I went to the company where he and my friend work. The two of us (my colleague and I) stayed alone in the room. I asked him to look at something on the computer. He came. I was sitting, and he passed behind me and began to rub me gently on the back. At that moment, my friend came in and the colleague jerked away. My boyfriend didn't see anything because it all happened too fast. His colleague is a really great person, believe me! I know he won't do anything, because this is about his job, and it's about my friend. Maybe I'm the person who should take the first step. But what should it be?!? I found out that the colleague is registered on a dating site, where he is actually looking for a girlfriend. Horror! Please give me advice - I want to be closer to him, to call me again. What to do? Would it be convenient to ask him about coffee now? but by phone / so that there is no evidence / or will it be audacity on my part? Or how do I get him to invite me for coffee? Is there a way to know if there is something to me? I think about him all the time! I wonder if there is a difference in falling in love between a man and a woman? Do men have the same feelings as us? Thank you!
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It's not easy for you, but think carefully about what exactly you want from this person - flirting, relationship, fun ... And think about what you look like in the eyes of this colleague - you have a serious relationship for 7 years and flirt. Wouldn't he think you wanted to cheat on your friend only once with him? My advice is to talk to this boy about exactly how you feel and to hear his opinion.