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By pallyberry November 05, 2020 9 answers Last updated November 05, 2020

Hi. I write here because I just don't know what to do anymore and how to act, I feel hellishly depressed sometimes. F for 24 years. I am and have been living with my boyfriend for 5 months, he is 31 years old. lately we fight almost constantly where for something small, for money I am angry that I smoke a lot, according to him I dressed like a light woman and at the very beginning of our relationship it was my clothes and manner of behavior that attracted him and impressed him. And I think all this is not so, I do not spend much, I smoke a box at most a box and a half of cigarettes a day, my clothes are like a girl my age, I like to wear skinny jeans and that kind of clothes . All this irritates him and then he behaves badly and does everything possible to make me sick

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kirametissedusud answered · November 05, 2020

   He is right about smoking. If he doesn't smoke, he's hardly happy to kiss an ashtray. It's time to think about your health and the health of the people around you who are passive smokers.

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izabella0605 answered · November 05, 2020

   I speak a little by heart, because I am a loner and I have not had a girlfriend for 4 years, but a pack of cigarettes a day ??? I'm 24, too, and that would annoy me. The clothes too. Apparently the man has already begun to hold on to the patriarchal and knows very well that just as one has loved you for them, so another will love you for the clothes. He probably realizes the age difference and is afraid that you will leave him because of one of our peers.

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LauraSweetLove answered · November 05, 2020

   Box, box and a half a day. Apparently you don't judge things adequately. I won't say anything about the other problems, but with so many cigarettes, don't be fooled into how someone smokes and has nothing. You are only 24, at 40 cigarettes will have left their mark. My friend with cancer stopped smoking and only a few days later, regardless of the diagnosis, I saw her hands and face clear and regain their natural color.

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afro.vogue answered · November 05, 2020

   I really like wide blouses with dropped shoulders, I wear a bra and a bustier / bodysuit underneath to know that nothing will show, I do not bend left and right, I usually combine this type of blouses with tight jeans. I don't let the blouse get on my shoulders and fall off the front like a neckline. My friend said it was a deep neckline. Guess if I stopped wearing my blouses? And we have been living together recently, but other people are staying with us at the moment, the first week was fun, then we started picking on small habits. I guess it's normal to take longer to get used to someone. We sat down, talked, threw away some clothes he didn't like, and agreed to his reasons, but left many more. I only go out with a wedge if I'm going to play sports. I would advise you to do the same, because these are really very pointless scandals and it is more important to understand each other than to go out with clothes that make him insecure and slightly aggressive. I'm not telling you to completely change your style and walk around dressed like a much older woman, but make a compromise. I would reduce cigarettes in your place, I say it like a smoker, now I have reduced them to half a box, I think to stop them, the smell itself starts to irritate me too, so I understand when someone is dissatisfied with these things, I smoke on the terrace, I ventilate often . No one is obliged to comply with smokers. My friend is a smoker, but if he wasn't, I just wouldn't run into him after I smoked. Your disputes about money are a completely different topic, I usually do not spend more than BGN 5-10 per day. Keep in mind that his accusation may be precisely because of the cigarettes, because a box and a half a day is 10 BGN, and you spend separately for lunch. It's the other way around with us, I announced that he wasted a lot of money on nonsense, I stopped caring the moment we agreed to set aside some amount per month and not touch it, we set aside for bills and rent, the rest are kind of pocket money we share. We shop together, discuss on the spot in the store what we need and every unnecessary thing is a compromise on the one hand. Honestly, after the third month I stopped caring about the little things that annoyed me. If he's doing something, I go to the other room and do what I feel like doing. We are not tied to each other, after work we usually have a coffee with colleagues and in the evening we decide whether to go out or to be lazy. At one point I found that we argue most often, when, for example, we both need a computer or TV at the same time, when one wants to listen to one piece of music and the other wants to listen to another - not that it is a global problem, obviously we are just used to being alone and ours, and now there is no way. We use headphones, we take turns for TV and computer, we do not hang the other when he is focused on something. The scandals subsided sharply when we stopped behaving as if the other owed us something just because we shared a room. There is no way to avoid the nasty period of cohabitation, accept that it is almost mandatory to fight for milk or for a distance, it just takes a little effort on both sides. However, you have made such an important decision, now is the time to resist the urge to give up and find the golden mean. I had a girlfriend who lived with her man for 4 months and they eventually broke up, the reason was a scandal, after he woke her from sleep specifically to scold her that a colleague of hers was writing to her at work at 1 o'clock in the morning. Absolute nonsense, don't get too angry, try to care less and try to compromise together. Probably, if you work a little, everything between you will be smoothed out in a few months. In time, even these arguments about your arguments will be fun.

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blondebaby12 answered · November 05, 2020

   For the clothes to look after his work, he liked you like that, and now I will change you, lest someone else "catch" you. Their complex work, a young girl wants, a young girl in a nanny will turn buahahahah. However, you really smoke a lot for cigarettes. I'm a smoker too, but a box and a half a day is an awful lot. At least try to reduce them, for your own sake.

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sivisacrieru answered · November 05, 2020

   This is not normal, I have been smoking for 12 years, I am a 33 year old woman. I smoke no more than 2, max 4 cigarettes a day, you are talking to me here BOX, BOX AND HALF a day ??? 1 - you are seriously harming your body, but I guess they have been beating it on your head for a long time, I will not give you lectures - you know, 2 - there is a good chance that your child will have problems, although not serious at first, 3 - if the man you don't smoke, he doesn't like to kiss an ashtray - as number 1 said 2 beers 15 beers and to come home drunk, you watch how it hurts, you feel sick and maybe you will be angry that he comes home drinking like a galosh Stand in his place from all positions, think and cut your cigarettes sharply, please!

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CasyeStar answered · November 05, 2020

   I don't understand, what exactly are you asking?

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jaylamccoy_bisexual answered · November 05, 2020

   If your question is whether to stay with this person, I will ask you other questions, and finding their answers you will decide for yourself what to do. Didn't your friend know that you smoked when you first met? Didn't your friend know how you dressed from the beginning? Do you manage to cover your own expenses, be they small or large? Since I am much older, I will share with you a little personal experience - the nastiest scandals are about money. From the beginning of the marriage my income was 3 times higher than that of my wife, but she wanted to distribute the money to the family, respectively the money was still not enough, respectively every month 3-4-5 days before the salary there was a money scandal - it was the money scandals that ate at our marriage. I never had any pretensions about how my wife dresses, on the contrary, I've always encouraged her to dress sexy - it's great to see that the chick next to you attracts men's eyes. I also made remarks (strongly said) when I saw that something was wrong with her, whether it was some protruding fat, whether it was some unnecessary trickle, whether it was too heavy make-up, I finally waved my hand and said to myself "if you want to look like pig with a bell, how can I stop you ". I've always enjoyed good-looking, well-dressed women, and if mine surpasses them, it's even more fun - it's abnormal to want to walk around with a muffin, with disheveled hair and pajamas. We divorced because of money scandals, and now I'm with another woman - everyone knows their income and expenses, no one cares how much the other smokes, what drinks he orders, how he spends his money outside the family budget (total household expenses). She doesn't put on make-up in front of me because she knows that make-up is not important to me, she always puts on make-up for the outside, but I don't mix there, I don't even know how to put on lipstick and how much it costs. She never told me what deodorant to buy, we agreed not to give each other perfumes. If we find a store with readable shoes, we recommend it to each other, but the choice of model is personal, I just say if I like the way these boots or shoes look. I remember one Christmas, she was returning from a company party with a provocatively short dress - well, I was amused by the look and, no longer wearing it, she decided that she was no longer going and gave it to her acquaintance. So, men and men, but I don't like your friend with his claims about your clothes - you decide on the cigarettes yourself, if you take the money for cigarettes, alcohol, extras (things just for you), if you cover the general expenses, I don't see what there can be arguments about in a relationship. I think that as you describe things you have gathered with some "Turk", today there will be claims for your naked navel, tomorrow for some fat, another day he will tie you up at home and forbid you to see even the most your best friends - do you want all this to happen to you ??? I do not want to draw general conclusions, but the mold next to you is probably a complex - at his age I had 2 children, and he caught up with a 24-year-old, even with claims to be wedged or dressed like my grandmother. Save yourself girl and find someone to enjoy your youth! Of course, read my previous questions, if you think you are independent, if you can handle yourself, cut and focus on someone who will not count your cigarettes and pennies - tomorrow he will have claims,