Hi, I'm new here, but I hope you can help me with your story. I am almost 19 years old, the best age. I graduated this year, I have to continue my education in another city. Everything about me can be said to be fine except maybe my personal life. I know what I want to achieve in the future, but happiness is not complete, because the person with whom I had to share my successes left just then. The boy and I, with whom we were together until 1 and a half months ago, have known each other for a year and a half. We were together for almost a year. During this time we did not fight, we respected the space of the other, we did not invest. Everything was going well. Of course, it was harder for me because I had to prepare for exams. Sometimes I was tired, but I always found time for him. He understood me and always treated me with care and love. So until 2 months ago. Things started to change - he got colder. My future was clear, but I wanted him to be a part of it. We made plans to live together and study, but then we realized that we would not be in the same city. He would probably stay in ours. It didn't bother me so much, because if two people love each other, they will always find a way to see each other. He said his feelings had changed, that he was crippled, that he clung to me, he didn't want to hurt me, that he was so used to me, but we'd better break up now than it hurts later. Of course, he was also influenced by his friends. So we broke up and now we are supposed to be friends, but what friends, given that when we see each other, I still love him, and he does not dare to look me straight in the eye properly. We exchange a word, but only if I take it. His parents got along very well. He sometimes gives me an example of him, which obviously influenced him as well. A few days ago we accidentally saw his mother, we both talked and she called me how sorry we were that we broke up, she expected us to get together, and I answered "hardly". He probably wanted to know what I thought, but if anyone wanted to get together, he had plenty of time to show it. I learned that he was admitted to another city 100 km away. from mine - still not so far away where I will be. I know there is no point in hoping for something, I have to move on, to overcome things, but it is difficult for me. The mind tells you one thing and the heart wants another. They divided our time, some people around us, but in fact, come to think of it, perhaps only he allowed these things to have an effect. Whatever I could do, I did, just like they said, set someone free, and so on. And now that I have to rejoice, I am missing something, my heart is empty and I feel that I am missing something. So sometimes I want to look for him, but I won't do it because I'm proud and I'll probably catch his eye, and I would never let that happen. How to deal with this I know I will meet many people on my way, but now I want him. and I would never allow that. How to deal with this? I know I will meet many people on my way, but now I want him. and I would never allow that. How to deal with this? I know I will meet many people on my way, but now I want him.
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Darling, I have the same problem, the developer told me that he loves me endlessly and that he will not go to study. And then we'll move forward together until I'm done, we'll be together, and so on. And now it turned out that he would go to study for 4 years and then walk and sail for another three to earn money, there is no point in that. I told him I wanted to break up because it would hurt a lot when he left. And he, but I will come to myself with what. So ... he was ready to leave everything for me and I then really believed that he loved me ... but now no! The thirst for career money has always been a big "stroke" for people and that's why everything breaks down spiritually, that's why today our society is made up of robots who know exactly where they have to go and what they have to do without thinking ... because they just have to do it!