Hello ... in principle it is strange for me to write in such ... forums about my problems, but I guess at the moment there is no one who can really help me. And today, while browsing the Internet, I found this site and said to myself that a bystander could say something useful. I'm a student abroad ... honestly it's not very easy for me (emotionally, I miss everything), I have a friend in Bulgaria, and while I was studying my first year he was waiting for me ... but everything was hopeful for both of us, that he would come to me for the second year, so that I could feel calmer and have someone close to me, and he wanted to be with me. Now I have finished, and because it is summer, I returned to Bulgaria. I thought it would be wonderful and everything was fine, but the problems started in the beginning. Now I told my mother he wanted to come to me, and she is adamantly against him living with me or helping him find a job. Both she and my father are of the opinion that when he comes, he is bothering me, I will not study and I will spend too much time for him and help him. And for him (as well as for me, he is absolutely right) it is inconceivable that I did not help him find a job. After all, he comes for me, otherwise what's the point if we're not together He lost a lot of things because of the idea of coming. He doesn't apply and collects money for almost a whole year ... and right now I'm right between the rock and a hard place, because our people are firmly against him coming for me, living together, etc., I need him, and they they just think how he would bother me ..... And he told me yesterday that in this situation he would not come with me, he would not hide. I understand that, and yet I think that if he really wanted us to be together, it would give me some time, even at the cost of having to hide for 2-3 months. And I know that our relationship will not last long if it remains as before - from a distance. I can, but not him. And if he still decides to go somewhere abroad, but not to me ... we will not have a way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's been that he wants to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! and it was at the cost of having to hide for 2-3 months. And I know that our relationship will not last long if it remains as before - from a distance. I can, but not him. And if he still decides to go somewhere abroad, but not to me ... we will not have a way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's wanted to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! and it was at the cost of having to hide for 2-3 months. And I know that our relationship will not last long if it remains as before - from a distance. I can, but not him. And if he still decides to go somewhere abroad, but not to me ... we will not have a way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's wanted to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! that our relationship will not last long if it remains as before - from a distance. I can, but not him. And if he decides to go somewhere abroad, but not to me ... we will not have a way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's wanted to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! that our relationship will not last long if it remains as before - from a distance. I can, but not him. And if he still decides to go somewhere abroad, but not to me ... we will not have a way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's been that he wants to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! we will have absolutely no way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's wanted to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! we will have absolutely no way to see and hear each other, because we will not be able to combine vacations, vacations and everything else. And that will be the end. I love him very much, of course, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered like that. I realize he's doing enough, though I doubt lately how sure he's wanted to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! that he wants to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on! that he wants to come to me. But I can't ask him for anything anymore. I don't know ... if you can, give me some useful advice, or tell me if you experienced something like this, how did you get out of the situation? How do I convince him or my parents? Try to be objective ... and thanks from now on!
1 gabbijun answered
I think a lot of people have suffered in just such situations. If I were you, I would call him to me. I understand that they are your parents, but it is time to live as you see fit, to feel its sweetness, to learn even from your mistakes. Parents of that age should not control their life, you are not the little girl. You are a woman who needs to have a man by her side. If you love each other so much, they have to understand it, you have to impose it on them. They need to understand that it is much harder there alone, and it will be better with him. Let him go, and you prove to them that you will study. He has sacrificed so much for you, and you should not give up so easily. Life is a struggle, there are trials, there are difficulties, but then comes the reward - happiness. I would not comply with the opinion of my parents, yet I am a separate person, I make my own mistakes, I make my own decisions. Just say what you think ... Once you have succeeded so far, to study abroad, etc. So you will succeed in the future, even with it will be easier to deal with. Success !