At 26, I Don't Feel Ready For Sex

   You seem to be afraid of life and growing up, and maybe you are thirsty for attention - whatever your reasons, it's time to grow up, not only because you become funny, but because you despise not only sex, but also family. Don't gossip about your virginity - it's something intimate that you have to share with an intimate friend, not society. Nobody cares what you are, but you are already an old girl according to his folklore and if you don't wake up it will be too late. As much as we don't want to, we all grow old and then grow old. You're in the age of aging right now, not growing up, and even virgins are getting old, wrinkled, and squirming, so I don't know what you want to prevent with your "action."

   Do it and then you will not want to stop! You will want and want to have sex to catch up with the years. Come on, good luck mom. : Д

   everyone is scared, especially those who started having sex at 14, according to folklore, but we are in the 21st century, we are not in a village despised for a family - nonsense on wheels, almost everyone nowadays is in no hurry to start a family before 30 so you're not late anywhere. old girl at 26? !! - he / she just broke me, you can start a family at 50, when then!

   Why do you think you're not ready? !! This mental barrier, which prevents you from deciding on this action, you set it yourself. You suggested it. You are ready to enjoy masturbation, but you do not want to relax in the hands of another. And until when? This means that you have not had a relationship with a man, you do not know how to behave with him, to flirt, to be intimate with this man. Don't expect that when you turn 30, things will change if you don't do something about it. The intimate act is not scary, just at first you will not be so happy, but then things will change. Follow the natural development of the individual. You are a sexually mature person and at these years it is most favorable purely physically to continue to have heirs. Of course, this does not happen with a magic wand. Another question is whether you want it. And so, success in your endeavor. Be more determined. Leave your girlish demeanor in the past and become a lady, ready to be sexy and beautiful for her beloved man.

   Number 1, I think that if the author was male, you would write different things. Is it normal to have sex by force? !? I ask.

   First, you obviously haven't met the right person, and second, you're really afraid to grow up and take responsibility for your life. The fact that you are a virgin, well OK, but at 26 to make faces and behave like a child speaks of an unconscious fear of growing up. And you know that you can't stay a child forever, so try to force yourself to be more mature, at least in society. When you are alone or with close friends, you can drool as much as you want, but in order not to be looked at strangely by people on the streets, at least try to have a little more mature behavior outside. If you can't overcome the problem, go to a psychologist. I'm not an expert, but this behavior seemed to be called Peter Pan Syndrome, if I'm not mistaken. Otherwise, we all want to stay children forever, but alas, it does not happen.

   Girl, get drunk and things will work out. Then you will howl like a dog for sex.

   You answered yourself. If you're not ready, don't do it. No one is forcing you. I also don't feel ready, I may never feel, and that doesn't mean it's wrong. Most people are afraid of them. They are afraid to grow old, they are afraid to die without doing certain things, they are afraid, but they put on a mask (of adults, adults, conscious), otherwise they write ironic and malicious comments. They look through your eyes and think - "if I were 26, how ** is I wouldn't have missed, boy, it's good that I'm not her place". People are always afraid that they will not live their lives to the fullest, and in the end it happens. They die without living, thinking in their lifetime that they live to the max. Do what you feel inside, never rely on opinions, never. Be yourself and live happily.

   Aren't you asexual? No connection, but I know.

   Number 4 and are you aware that you are attacking number 1 with wit? For example, after 30 and a few problems with conception, the author is 26, she still has no friends until she finds herself. problems if years try and disappear will be old will not be so easy nothing so I think that nothing is wrong he said number 1 and at 26 to have a husband and children is normal though and the author is still a virgin and she is afraid not She feels ready, but she could have said it a little bit like that, because it affects the author that she is getting older.

   Yes. I know the type of people like you. The only way is to behave more normally and catch a normal friend. When you have sex with him, you will already feel like a woman. But you have to tighten up and make a change in yourself, because if you are 26 and continue like that, you will go a virgin. =]

   Don't worry, there are those at 30 who are not ready yet.

   Everything is individual, everyone goes their own way. What is your husband for when you don't need him! Live in harmony with yourself, people's mouths are like huge pits of slop, whatever you do, they will always find pouring slop on the other. Do not take into account the opinion of others. Everything that makes you happy is normal. You can meet your Man at a much later stage. And don't be so honest with your acquaintances.

   From 1 to 4 - unfortunately you are not right - if you were getting older (wrinkled) from sex, we just will not have sex and here is eternal life. It has been proven that a man wrinkles at the same age, has a gene, and wrinkles a man from the sun, so it is very likely a woman who is sexually active, but takes care of herself, is maintained and not exposed of sun lies at the age of 40 to have fewer wrinkles than the Author if the latter is not maintained and so on. On average, people in our country start having sex at the age of 15, 5. Trend - increasing. This is the case in all countries with the advancement of sex education, but it is a shame to 16, 5 years of secondary education and so many. Such as the Author are already out of the statistics, because they increase the average age too much - that is, value some real. The average age of mothers in our country is 27-28 years. That is, it is normal at the age of the Author to start a family, not yet to think whether you were ready for sex or not. You can't stop time without sex - you grow old without sex, but while others live their lives, look after children, then grandchildren, you're still a virgin and finally worms don't make a difference either - everyone has a shelf life in two words. You have limited time on this earth and how you will live it is up to you, but whoever lives in 1st gear will wrinkle and die like everyone else, and whoever lives in 6th gear will simply have lived more fully and experienced more, while people like the Author just sleep their lives for me, but the World continues to spin without them - no one cares whether she is a virgin or not, and when she wrinkles she will just be an aunt and then a grandmother, but she will never become a mother and grandmother without sex. This is the order of things, nature, and we cannot change it. Whether you have sex or not, you will still grow old and die, but the most beautiful things in life - love, motherhood, you just can't experience while you sleep at home and wait for the Prince.

   Thank you very much for the comments. I read different opinions and options and try to understand what the problems are. Because I don't think it's just one. I still have a problem with relaxation. As we are in company and everyone says "Relax", "Have fun". And I can't relax and I'm not having fun. For example, everyone dances, I don't dance. I don't care if I don't know how to explain. It's not very normal to swing back and forth, no matter how much fun you have while doing it. I don't see anything interesting in that at all. I treat men like they are my brothers. I like them as people, I don't care about their appearance. I want to feel good with the person, to have communication. But when it comes to sex, I lose interest. It seems primitive to me somehow. For a family, I don't want to hear even a joke, this is the last thing in the world that interests me. I am not asexual, as defined by an asexual person. It's like Peter Pan Syndrome. Because I keep running away from being tied to people, to places. For example, I change my home every few months. I have lived in different cities abroad and in Bulgaria. Friends change them the same way. I don't keep any old friendships. And I'm not cold. I am a very warm person and sensitive. I don't want to grow up - yes. This is something I dread. I can't imagine settling in the same place with the same people for the rest of my life. If I have sex with someone, I have the feeling that I have to give something that is mine to someone else. Why do it, my body is mine. Not that I'm tight in life I'm not. It's weird for a man to say "have fun," meaning sex. Why does he think this is fun for me? Can't we have fun talking to each other? That would be a lot more fun. Do you know how a man would react if I told him that? I will run through my head. The author

   Haha, so why not wait for the prince? So what now, do you know how many there are as the author of the topic "How to find a mistress", regardless of whether he is replaced by a man or a woman. According to people like n1, perhaps the most important thing is to be born there, to maintain the idea of ​​a family. Because it was normal to start a family at a certain age. AND HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY HIDING THEIR TRUE MOTIVES BEHIND THIS "it's normal at this age"? Because they are unable to live independently - they want mom and dad to immediately transfer to the back of the other half. They can't make their own money, or they make enough, but not enough. They are too lazy to upgrade themselves and for that they prefer to catch some more active man, but at the same time kind and naive. They give birth to one, twins and now officially secure the right to behave like sultans, or sufferers - according to depends on the purse of their spouse. Here this applies to women, yes, but a lot of men throw themselves into family life like that, because otherwise it's harder for them, because sex is safe for them (then what turns out to be right, hahaha), so that there is someone to do the work at home that my mother used to do. And these super many people who have made families mainly for such selfish reasons, of course, poison each other mentally, but that doesn't matter, especially for me. The important thing is that they ruin the psyche of their child / children. Your child becomes stressed, or too shy, or aggressive, then at school he can't concentrate, he drinks, he smokes, he does drugs, and all sorts of other abominations, and all because of a mom who got pregnant by dad because she thought that she would not find a better one, and she was already almost 25 - her time was up. And Dad was just too good-natured and neglected himself and his own self in the name of not lagging behind the others (and who are the others, of course) and what he wanted .. are complement me, if you wish :) And topics like "I want my mother to die" "My father is an alcoholic" "My mother is an alcoholic" "I need a job" (a 14-year-old girl) - and many, many more such shocking headlines Do you know number 1 and others? where they murmur like you, how many children have such titles in their lives, CHILDREN !!! So stop blabbering on about how bad and scary it was that the author didn't have sex. Because people who do not have sex are the smallest problem of our society. To have a demographic crisis, but maybe we deserve it - it's time for the Bulgarian woman and the Bulgarian man to start choosing correctly and PATIENTLY the partner with whom to start a family, in order to finally start in Bulgaria to be born happy children who grew up in a calm and healthy family. environment, with parents who really wanted to live their lives together not because of mutual benefit, but because of the similarity of characters and the same views on different aspects of life (I will not use the word love, that many people have different perceptions of its essence ). To the author: You don't care at all. Regarding your drooling - I am sure that you are a serious adult and the proof of this is that you wrote this topic here => you are a conscious person !!! And whoever wants to say and write :) I think you're drooling, because you do not receive understanding from your loved ones and those around you, as well as the necessary emotional support. You better stop asking them for help and understanding. And always remember that just because they are married and sexually active doesn't automatically mean they are better people than you! Work on yourself - maintain your appearance, go to work, progress in the work, get a driver's license, if you don't have one, buy a car - with your own money, which you earned yourself. Be as independent as possible in as many relationships as you can. After most of your friends are married, but find new ones, move to a district town to work if you are from a small town. Get rich intellectual and be a positive person. You will have sex when it is written - when it comes to you from the inside, no matter when it will be "when". If you want a child in the next few years and you still do not want to have sex, you can always go to artificial insemination. If you are so late with the age for birth and you want a child - you can always adopt a baby. Don't worry and don't care about the different ... opinions.

   11, I am aware, are you aware that while writing while? 16, some of the many life at 6th gear have fucked up, for your information a mother without sex can happen - you do not know or have not heard of in vitro? in my opinion, only gypsies who start at 12-13 come out of the statistics, real life is not a statistic! love is not necessarily sex, your philosophy sounds pretty dumb, but it's your job.

   11, I am aware, are you aware that while writing while? 16, some of the many life at 6th gear have fucked up, for your information a mother without sex can happen - you do not know or have not heard of in vitro? in my opinion, only gypsies who start at 12-13 come out of the statistics, real life is not a statistic! love is not necessarily sex, your philosophy sounds pretty dumb, but it's your job.

   I support number 16

   Chat cons of number 1 and the like, chat! During this time, life goes on! Author, how many men will be happy for you! And you on them, of course. But: if you don't keep doing nonsense.

   You are an introvert!

   18 is right, and how many men will enjoy her? are they counting women or women?

   Where are you in a hurry ??? You have time. At least wait up to 40 years, otherwise it will not be complete! Then it's the truth, and when you reach 60, then the real woman becomes a real woman and understands what sex is. And somehow it is more complete and real. Only after 60 years, a person really understands what it is to be close to oneself. It is not in vain that many women give birth at the age of 70. Then they are really full-fledged parents and members of society. At this age, too, the princes have settled down and know what they want. In other words, you can give yourself completely to your partner. Dear friend, don't trust all the sticks they cheat on with sex. they just want it !!! Don't give in to them! Hang out on a level. Congratulations and good luck!

   You don't have to start a family. You don't have to have sex. It is normal to have sex at 16. It is normal to have sex at 26. It is normal to have sex at 46. It is normal to have sex. It is also normal NOT to have sex. Everything is normal. Do things when you feel ready for them, and if you never feel ready - that's okay too.

   I think, as you say, the problem is not just 1. It is unlikely that people around you or site visitors will fully understand what you mean, because sometimes it is just a feeling that cannot be explained. Obviously, you are reluctant to change your thinking and views, but at the same time you realize that at some point, they will begin to hinder you and distance you from everyone else to a great extent. This can be very stressful and frustrating, because even though you don't have complexes about what you are, you obviously realize that you are not quite on the right track. No one can tell you how to behave and what attitude you have to life, do not let people's opinions press you, but rather think about how far you will go with this behavior that you describe? Can you be really happy and content with yourself, to like yourself as a person by behaving this way? The important thing is how you see your life in the future, whether you yourself think that you need a change, or it is dictated by the attitudes of others. Not everyone can live with the thought that they are radically different from others, sometimes a strong desire to fit in arises, despite their individualistic nature. My advice is, if you continue to be bothered by these issues and many more, to visit a psychologist. Turning to someone who can at least listen to you and give you professional advice is neither a sign of weakness nor a symptom of a disease. I think that even if it doesn't help you much, such a visit can't harm you in any way. It is in an open and honest conversation that you can discover many truths about yourself and know where to go next. Good luck! behaving this way? The important thing is how you see your life in the future, whether you yourself think that you need a change, or it is dictated by the attitudes of others. Not everyone can live with the thought that they are radically different from others, sometimes a strong desire to fit in arises, despite their individualistic nature. My advice is, if you continue to be bothered by these issues and many more, to visit a psychologist. Turning to someone who can at least listen to you and give you professional advice is neither a sign of weakness nor a symptom of a disease. I think that even if it doesn't help you much, such a visit can't harm you in any way. It is in an open and honest conversation that you can discover many truths about yourself and know where to go next. Good luck! behaving this way? The important thing is how you see your life in the future, whether you yourself think that you need a change, or it is dictated by the attitudes of others. Not everyone can live with the thought that they are radically different from others, sometimes a strong desire to fit in arises, despite their individualistic nature. My advice is, if you continue to be bothered by these issues and many more, to visit a psychologist. Turning to someone who can at least listen to you and give you professional advice is neither a sign of weakness nor a symptom of a disease. I think that even if it doesn't help you much, such a visit can't harm you in any way. It is in an open and honest conversation that you can discover many truths about yourself and know where to go next. Good luck!

   Go to a psychiatrist to determine your diagnosis. You're probably sexual or something. I'm not a specialist! You may be fine. I know 2-3 like you, who were around 26-28 for the first time. One got married. There are children, no problem. I hope your case is like that. Not the first

   Why is being asexual a "diagnosis"? As it used to be for homosexuals? - and it is still according to the more simple and complex people. Does it automatically mean that every woman who is "married" (actually the correct word is married) and has given birth - has met the criteria of society is normal, that she is fit to be a parent? Because it is one thing to give birth, and quite another to be a suitable person for a parent. That they and people with severe mental illness have sex, right, if they are "dropped" by the people responsible for them .. ...... SEXUALITY IS A PERSONAL CHOICE !!!

   32, asexuality is not a disease, I think you are a psychiatrist

   35, right? !! And who said that? You? ... It is worse than disease, because disease torments and erases only you, and asexuality erases your family and the whole branch of evolution that passes through you. It is the same with homosexuality.

   You are very behind 32/36 - there is already artificial insemination. And I strongly doubt that you are sincerely and purely concerned about the continuation of the author's family and in general about people with different sexuality from the more common one.

   36, there are 5% of women who do not want to have children, regardless of whether they are sexual or not.

   Hello. It is best to go to a psychologist or sexologist. But in my opinion, if you can't imagine doing it with another person, it's simply because you haven't met the right person. When you are with someone you like very much, without much thought, you will take off your pants. I guess your partners weren't attracted to you enough.