Hello, I am a girl in my early 20s and although I often travel to Bulgaria, I live and study abroad for most of the year. Some time ago I had returned to Sofia for a few days and quite by chance I met a boy online and since then we have been writing to each other, but we never managed to see each other and postponed for the next time. We write to each other regularly, almost every day (he usually starts the conversations first), we used to chat for 7-8 hours and we went to bed at dawn. It's a lot of fun and it's obvious that we both enjoy it. So far so good, not much left until I get home for longer and in the meantime we can keep in touch and have video calls that are closest to a real experience. The problem is that I'm not convinced if I'm the only one who has an "interest". I am a busy person, I work and study at the same time, I play sports, I am social, I like to travel, which means that apart from him I don't have time to deal with others in this way, but as far as I know he has more time. Does the fact that we write to each other every day looking for me and spending hours talking talk to him that he doesn't deal with anyone else? When I like someone and start investing time and emotions, it means that I dedicate myself to the person. I have no expectations, I would not take him into account if he writes and meets others, but I want to have some attitude and know if I myself should be open to other possibilities. Lately we have started to touch on sexual topics and there is a fear that he may be mainly sexually interested in me, but he looks good and in that case he does not need to spend all this time writing to me as he can find someone more nearby. My questions are: In your opinion, are his intentions serious, are there meetings with others and is it advisable for me to be interested in others myself, and not to be so devoted? If I ask him directly, I don't want him to think I'm holding him accountable. Thanks in advance!
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