I'm such a woman, a little older than you. I work part-time from home as a freelancer, so I have more time for household chores, and someday I have to babysit. My husband makes enough money, and luckily I don't have to look for high-paying positions. If there is a financial opportunity, I think it is better to devote a woman to the household and the children, rather than to compete with the man in making a career. Many women are maximalist and want a successful career, a cozy home and well-behaved children, but usually there is no way to make it work. That's why we need to prioritize and focus on what's most important to us in life.
Rarely will you find such a woman nowadays, not because it is not nice to be a housewife and a mother, but because men have too much social freedom and after 10 years you will be sick of the perfect housewife and mother and ask for something young and fresh.
You leave your wife, and she, unfortunately, has sacrificed her career and is entirely up to you. What woman would want to make a situation like this? Very rarely, decent men remain, so women, without wanting to, have to assume male functions.
Did it ever occur to you that women are human, too? That they have the right to dreams, plans and development? That not everyone was born to do a moussaka and do laundry while she waited for you to come home from work? No, right. For you, every woman has to do that, whether she likes it or not. Did it ever occur to you that it's not always about money, it's about personal development and satisfaction? No one in society will value you for washing the floor perfectly and will always be the "wife of", but not a person with goals, dreams and plans.
Yes, there is, but we are small:) 20 years old. I am and I am very family-friendly. I want to have three kids in a few years. There's nothing more important to me than that. No money or career will bring me happiness, nothing, just a fleeting ecstasy and there
So cleaning and cooking are basic skills that every single adult should know. I don't know why this should be a woman's priority. It is thus placed in a man-dependent position. So it's increasingly difficult for you to find a woman like your ex, except in the Anatolian Arabic latitudes. The proms here are over.
No, i won't! We're already career ies who seek freedom and support ourselves if we can. Without relying on mom, dad, big brother, boyfriend or man. Children and households do not provide the most important thing for a modern woman - freedom. I do not care how much for my appearance, I am not a muffin, but I work more than 12 hours sometimes because I develop my own business, and it requires time, attention and diligence. Yes, I am waiting for an empty apartment, with a refrigerator that is filled with products for fast consumption once a week, but I take care of myself. That's fine with me!
author, you'il probably find a Barbie gold digger attracted to the money you say you make. She's hardly going to be the perfect housewife you're looking for.
You want a appendage waiting all day for you while he's polishing the floor and scrambling the mange. It's going to be hard for you to meet these demands, just looking for a woman who works, but she's not obsessed with work and cares about family.
Number four, just make sure you find a man who's ready to support you for life, that's going to be fun otherwise. I knew such a chick, got married early, never got a job, she didn't have a job either, she had two children, and after a few years the husband dumped her for her colleague, who of course was younger and more groomed. And to see how you look at children with no money, no internship, no work habits. It's so much fun! Now he works in two places and clean entrances to have at least for food and bills. It's a beautiful life, if you ask me!
Among the young? Absurdity! The consumerist spirit and the feminist doctrines have brainwashed them so much that nothing comes into their heads. Look, when they transfer their thirties, they come to a different mind.
up to 3: it's like if you clean the apartment once a week you have no goals, no dreams, etc. My mother graduated second while she was a housewife and worked on her new specialty.
It's up to the man. If I really want to be with him and he asked me to do that, I'il agree.
Alpha, 29 years
Author, "woman" also means personality. You're practically looking for a food processor. Hire a retiree from the block who'il happily run your household and cook for you for a modest fee. For 200 BGN every month will call off, because it's almost another pension! I'm not a bad housewife. I like to serve a delicious dinner and my husband lick his fingers. I like to keep it clean, I change bed linen every 5 days, I keep order - every thing is in place, I love decorating, creating beautiful things around me. My husband is pleased, he is expanding, but he is saying, "In a home, a woman has to set the tone by which she will live, from there it is all a matter of organization." And really, very often he shops, I cook, he puts on a vacuum cleaner, I clean the bathroom, he cleans the table, I wash the dishes. Or vice versa. Then we go to the movies, to the theater, to dinner with friends. During the active part of the day, we both work. Personally, I combine four commitments: editor in a daily newspaper, a staff writer in a magazine, I translate books and I am a PhD student at the university. He's proud of me. He prides himself on being creative, skilled and successful. When he decided to start his own business, I was behind him financially. One year, I was providing the family's needs until things worked out. You, author, now you think that when you get paid well, that's always the way it's going to be. Life is a variable. Tomorrow - for reasons beyond your control - they can kick you out of work, I've seen a lot of cases like this. And what are you and your slave going to do, who doesn't have any work habits, relationships, contacts, reputation in the industry? Because we're talking about "slave." That's what you call a person with no income of your own, depending on you and busy working for you. And if you get sick, what happens? And if you die, where does she go? Family is team discipline, mate! Everyone should be ready to support the other. Otherwise, I, if I were a rich heiress - for example I have 10 apartments that I rent - I would paint at home, write books, cook different specials every day and wipe dust for pleasure. But I can't afford it.
Housework in the modern world takes a total of about 2-3 hours a day, excluding babysitting, which is quite another pastime.
I do not see why a modern woman can not use the remaining 5-6 hours (without suggesting that housework can be safely done in the evening with the same success approximately) to study, to practice her profession, to be among people, to develop and earn money eventually, the latter is not even mandatory, that is. not so much to want a career, but a life in the world of people. To me, what the author described seems absurd to me, and I can't even imagine a woman who would agree to such a Scottish life.
I want to add that in past historical eras it was different - then hosts often became women of husbands with interesting and dynamic professions (sales representatives in the wider world, civil engineers also globally, diplomats, etc. etc. ) and therefore these women had interesting lives and representative functions. And now most men are IT specialists, and the life of a housewife with them would be something like a conversation with the computer and no contact (or minimal) with the world outside the four walls. I don't think a woman, if I adore a man, would want that for herself, and if she's going to have a six-year-old salary. Besides, there's no man who loves her and wants the same for her. The author is extreme and despotic in my opinion. And don't look for a woman to love. He's looking for a housewife, whatever that means.
14, how did you decide that most men were IT professionals? I say they're a little bit of a thing. And that a person has no interests other than his profession is his problem, not it is.
Number 10, your mother was a housewife temporarily, most likely while you were little and cared for you and eventually followed her dreams, she found a job she liked, etc. , washing machine and its servicing. You're making a difference, aren't you? It's one thing to be at home for 2-3-4 years until the kids are old enough to go to the garden, it's another to have one day of internship and for the rest of your life to live just to cook, clean, wash and possibly because of the repetition of the repetition of "Little Bride".
When you have that money, pay a woman to come to your house to cook ;) The problem is solved.
I want to fall in love with someone and be able to be together for life. I don't care about my career, but I'm not very good at the household, I can't cook. If you make a lot of money, you can hire a maid.
Every second person here complains that women don't shave it - act :)
I don't see why things are being set as exclusionary. I have a business that brings me good money, I have my interests and hobbies, 3 children I look at quite well, my home shines and is tidy and every day I make sweets at all kinds of pampering for the family. Yes, for a woman who is 9 to 18 at work, it's very difficult, but for women with more liberal occupations and an unorthinking working day, it's not that impossible.
Find an artist or something. But don't take a woman who's just a housewife! You're going to get bored, you're going to lose interest. It will age prematurely and begin to feel bad that it only serves you. One has to have interests, social contacts, something to provoke him to develop. Otherwise, you're dumbing down and you're just starting to be able to talk about kids and cooking. He's getting tired. And kids don't respect mothers who don't work. One day, it will be a burden to all of you. Everyone should also be an independent person besides a partner in a family.
The balance is achievable.
Author, let's think now, if these women, as you call them "careerist," were also from rich and cool families, would they care if they make money after their parents provide them with everything material? Don't you think that on such a condition, they'd find a girlfriend like you, like you, and play nice housewives like your ex-girlfriend with rich parents?
Can you tell us when she was so nice and humble your ex because she left you and went home to Turkey? Why didn't she stay with you and give you children, for example?
No, there are no women who want to be the slave izaura of some complex gagno.
And stop telling that joke that the gold diggers were dependent. Obviously, there's no more independent than them. It's a business, and you let it be a business, and at work you're having fun and leading a super-luxurious life, and at some point these gold diggers are already with education and their own business, not obsolete and dumped. ;) You're always trying to tell the black and white, but no one's blind and deaf, and they see very well what's going on... and the fact that he doesn't like it... gram does not mean that it is what he wants, nor can he change it. ;);)
'at some point these gold prospectors already have education and their own business'
they were fly-in
I'm 14.
I have used IT specialists figuratively - as a collection image for most men who work many hours, are beaten in the evening and do not talk about anything from fatigue. Imagine how she felt in such a company a woman who had not spoken to almost anyone all day because she had done, cooked, cleaned, brought children to schools and gardens, or if she had spoken, she was back on these household-parenting topics and wanted to share something different with her loved one. Who most often does not have the time, strength or desire to talk to her or does so by force. And that's been going on for years.
I'm in solidarity with 20 opinions. In my opinion, children want to have working mothers, mothers who have a life other than family (and supposedly will not obsess over them further into life) and especially - mothers they would be proud of, who have even small achievements. I know women who have had to be such (traveling often men, but with good incomes) and I think it's difficult for themselves and their families. This lack of life outside the four walls, and whether it be luxury housing in big neighborhoods, is always reflected over time.
Personally, my mother has always been a workaholic, which I have been very reproaching her for, but I also like the passion in her work and I am proud of her achievements. Separately, I have always been impressed by her ability to be a good housewife, a perfect cook and a person who can create coziness. So it is not incompatible, even that it is not in the power of any woman, but the existence of such women inspires hope :)))
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