Hello. My friend and I have been together for 4 months, but we admitted our feelings a year ago, but it was not possible to be together until then. He has something like an 'ex' girlfriend he has seen several times, as they are from different cities, as well as ourselves. Well, no matter how many times I asked him about her, she tells me that she hasn't had feelings for her for a long time, that she last wrote to him 7-8 months ago to tell him that she was going to work abroad, that they haven't written since, now we were together and I had to see with my great curiosity ... they write to each other every week, every other day, but they still write to each other and he claims that it is not so ... How can I tell him that I know that I have seen, he writes to her quite killed with 2-3 words, while on her side are words like the sun, I miss you ... I don't know what to tell him ..
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The question is not at all whether he has feelings for her, but that he is lying to you. F29
Another trap of curiosity. To make sure your friend isn't lying to you, you stick to the old adage "verification is a supreme form of trust." And now you are in a stalemate. You know you were lied to. Option 1: You are silent, he makes a fool of you, you start to realize that even when he says "Good morning" he is lying to you. Option 2: You raise the issue and go out in disbelief, disrespecting the personal space of the man / boy / next to you. Both options do not suit you. That is why you are writing here and asking us how to re-express your jealousy without offending yourself. Emmy, there's no way. Your boyfriend obviously hasn't finished with his ex. And she hardly knows about you. I guess you're not more than 16 years old. He has no two opinions on the matter that he is not right to lie to you. But you are not innocent either. Learn, that in life, if you want a relationship, you have to have the trust of the other party. You obviously lack this and it is not worth it. Don't expose yourself the best. I don't want to justify it, but have you ever wondered if it's your own fault that he lied to you? For example, if he had told you that his ex was writing to him, would a scandal have followed, accompanied by a little roar? Isn't there an option in which he is just trying to protect you? An option in which there are no feelings for her? Be careful not to be blinded by jealousy. F24 in which he is just trying to protect you? An option in which there are no feelings for her? Be careful not to be blinded by jealousy. F24 in which he is just trying to protect you? An option in which there are no feelings for her? Be careful not to be blinded by jealousy. F24
Talk to him and ask him directly why he is lying that he is not writing to her and why they keep in touch. People generally do not hide things for no reason. Given the phrases you've read, this girl is obviously obsessed with him and he's probably playing her, and you in the meantime. Given that you are all from different cities, it is easy for him to arrange things so that he has connections with both of you without encountering each other.
I'm not 16 or younger, but it doesn't matter, if when I asked him if they were still writing, he had said 'yes in time, rarely, if we meet on the line' it's completely different, I would still be angry but at least I would know that he was not lying to me that they were not writing to each other. He treats me wonderfully, we have a 9-year difference, but they don't feel it in any way. I can't complain about that. And the fact that I don't trust him completely has a reason, it's not because of infidelity or something like that, it's different. You guessed it, I've seen all the other chats, there's not a single girl there except his sister and his mother. Obviously, you can't complain about this one yet.
Instead of puzzling, why not talk to him about it? By the way, unconditional trust when you have any doubts can play a bad joke on you, because you will be tied to any nonsense he gave you as an explanation. Given that your relationship is so structured that it's hard to be together every day, how do you know what he's doing the rest of the time? Not to mention the age difference - if someone 9 years older than you behaves properly at your age, something is definitely wrong. Either he's a great actor or he's not mature at all for his age.
If he answers her and lies to you, I don't know how you trust him, whether he has feelings may depend on what their relationship was, what happened, why they broke up, no one can tell you 100% that you don't know what to do, you're obviously afraid, for me tell him calmly to show you his messages with her last and pretend to be hit and catch him and ask him why he is lying to you. If he deleted them ... he takes care of himself