And I Thought It Would Be Different ...

   Oh, I think to a large extent your problems are purely hormonal. When you stop breastfeeding and your period comes, when the baby is big enough for regular walks outside, you will recover. I do not believe that you are particularly pleasant to others - not outwardly, but purely as behavior. Your husband is wrong, but you don't need to be intrusive either. Get a small stroller with which you can handle yourself. Very important - tell the grandmothers that you are grateful for their help, but at the moment you do not need. You will call them, otherwise, let them call if they want to see their grandson, because you may be outside. And another tip - once you tolerate grandmothers, learn to use them - sign up for a gym and let them look after your child at this time. You need time for yourself, it will work very well for you. Even your husband will support you. Remember one thing from me - children are our responsibility, they are not here, to solve our family problems and make our men love us. You have done wrong to make the child an end in itself, but you have time to fight postpartum depression. Seek a psychologist if you go deeper. A woman has already killed her baby and herself. Don't be the next!

   And the bad moments will pass. You are happy for your baby to be alive and healthy. Talk to your husband. If it's the way you think it would be, it's better for both of you to split up. If he tries to change, then there is still something to fight for. Otherwise, I have moments when my husband annoys me with everything, even breathing, but there are also those when I can't do without him :( I think it's normal. Otherwise, I'm very bothered by the hernia. And to myself. I weigh but ... what to do. And for everyone I'm Ferhunde or the worst of the series, because I tell myself what I think and I don't accept anyone's advice for my children. And my son became a very cool and well-mannered kid :) Good luck and take matters into your own hands, especially because of your beautiful child dear. And for himself. Even from your post it is clear that you are desperate :( ~ Ramona ~

   I have no words, I don't know what to tell you, endure it a little longer for the child to grow up and then decide what you will do ...

   My comment is more to my husband. Why make fun of him - that he has a child and a wife. After this child appeared after years of experience, for me he is a desirable child and such behavior by all relatives is just stupid. Help, but not with stupid advice, but real, physical. And the husband should take matters into his own hands and look after his child, and not listen to this and that.

   You seem very confused. I don't know if anyone here can help you, your story is told from above. You are depressed. I don't know if you will read and take my comment seriously, but I would recommend you to consult a specialist. Obviously, you need help to be able to take matters into your own hands.

   aaaa why don't you stop experiencing yourself as a victim of fate and look at things from the point of view of others ... they will make fun of him - not because you are fat and with a child, but because you take him from work as if he has a neck strap you are. Don't think of him as a man under a slipper - this protects the man! And parted a little with the child. Do you have parents, matchmakers? You fix it in the morning, little one, you prepare his things in a bag and a tapara, a tapara with your mother. You leave it to her and go out .. OUT, ... among the people, with a friend .. for an hour or two ... you talk about clothes, movies, music, sex, FORBIDDEN topics: - how unhappy I am - the baby last night cry - my husband hurts me - I don't have milk because of our scandals Second idea - find a way to get rid of the tension from yourself. If you need a diary, share how you feel, describe your dreams, etc. BUT don't fill the pages with "and today is the same Hell, can't stand it, I feel so bad, he doesn't understand me, I'm still bad for everyone" NOW I want you to repeat with me: I'm happy. I have a wonderful gift from God in the face of my child. Thanks! I love my life. I have everything I need to be happy. I am at peace with myself. I am in good health. I am confident that I am valuable and unique. I am not perfect and I do not expect to be. I only want what is best for me, today, here and now! If necessary, compose your own things. Self-affirming phrases have a HUGE effect, choose the same time, repeat the same thing every day and while you do it, relax your mind, imagine that you are dancing in a flower garden and somewhere next to you you hear your child cooing sweetly, imagine, that the wind ruffles your hair, that you run free, that you laugh and FEEL this image deep inside you. STOP blaming this one, that one and most of all yourself ... YOU ARE UNIQUE, VALUABLE, HEALTHY and YOU HAVE A CHANCE today to be the first day of the rest of your life !!! Think about it! You will either break up with your husband or you will not. Your child will either grow tall or not, tomorrow someone will actually know what will happen to him. NOW, however, is something else, the present moment, this hour, today is YOURS and YOU HAVE THE POWER to make it the way you like it. So - you get dressed, you put on make-up and go out to see this wonderful colorful world, you don't talk about problems, you discuss the weather, spring, how happy you are, you have fun, you listen to funny stories, your girlfriends still have something to tell .. some joke, some confusing situation ... You close yourself in agony and it's time to stop so you don't regret it in time! Good luck and hugs Plam

   Darling, it is clear that you are in severe postpartum depression - the stress of pregnancy and childbirth, the change in your figure, the same type of daily life and, above all, the insufficient support of your husband can ruin every young mother mentally. I would advise you to talk to your husband, to explain to him that this is YOUR long-awaited child and he needs both of you. Understand that he will cancel you in your care, so that you can go out and have social contacts. Do things together. I hope things get fixed quickly and that there are only smiles on your faces and that of the little baby :)

   Exactly at such a moment (as well as during pregnancy) the woman must be understood, in the sense that others should not treat her so badly. It's not easy for her. She needs a lot of support, care, careful to be her husband to her. However, this will affect the baby. After she reduced her breast milk due to stress ... what conclusions can we draw? This child must grow up healthy and always be a sieve. Now he needs the most care and to always have clothes, to be warm and to be breastfed well and to be raised with love, a lot of love. And this man is obviously not happy that he has a child. His wife, it wasn't easy at all. And birth and everything. It is at such moments that the woman should and should have the most support. Too bad and really sad. It was at this beautiful moment for her, after such a difficult pregnancy as she described, and her baby, alive and well (well done) and ... such a bad attitude now ?? ; (Don't give up, don't give up, author. You have a beautiful and completely healthy sun. It will support you and it is the meaning of your life ... after your husband left you like that, just at such a beautiful moment .. Take care of your child, take care of him, don't leave him, don't despair Just this is a difficulty You know, life is full of difficulties, obstacles, but don't lower your head God knows our possibilities and never would faced a difficulty that we can not go through. http://vbox7.com/play:9002d2db Watch this video. I'm sure it will help you. Good luck. Don't give up !! And to clarify, I'm a boy. after your husband left you like that, just at such a beautiful moment ... Look after your child, take care of him, don't leave him, don't despair. It's just a difficulty. You know, life is full of difficulties, of obstacles, but don't lower your head. God knows our capabilities and would never confront us with a difficulty we cannot go through. http://vbox7.com/play:9002d2db Watch this video. I'm sure it will help you. Good luck. Do not give up!! And to clarify, I'm a boy. after your husband left you like that, just at such a beautiful moment ... Take care of your child, take care of him, don't leave him, don't despair. It's just a difficulty. You know, life is full of difficulties, of obstacles, but don't lower your head. God knows our capabilities and would never confront us with a difficulty we cannot go through. http://vbox7.com/play:9002d2db Watch this video. I'm sure it will help you. Good luck. Do not give up!! And to clarify, I'm a boy. 9002d2db Watch this video. I'm sure it will help you. Good luck. Do not give up!! And to clarify, I'm a boy. 9002d2db Watch this video. I'm sure it will help you. Good luck. Do not give up!! And to clarify, I'm a boy.

   After childbirth depression, this can sometimes shake you for a year after birth. It happened to me a year after the birth that I recovered on my own. I used to think that my husband's sister wanted to kill my baby, that she was deliberately holding him like she was going to lose him at any moment. I told myself my husband didn't like me and I thought for hours about his every word, what he wanted to tell me. The treatment: talk to your husband, share with him all your thoughts and feelings, regardless of the fact that initially he will tell you only to instill.

   It will go away. Smile in defiance of everyone and you will see how they will smile at you. Trust me.

   You are shaken by postpartum depression. Calm down, it will pass. Start losing weight, stop cramming for the last time and stop justifying your greed with breastfeeding. And breast milk, what do you think so much - there is also AM, just hope you are not one of those cuckoos who are convinced that if they breastfeed their children until the age of 7, they will create the new Mozart or Einstein.

   It is clear that you are depressed. But I don't believe you're so selfish about your husband. So ... cheer her up. The child is a priority already. Watch him, go out with friends, answer the silence with silence. One sunny day you will do the shaking of your husband that you are talking about. Then you will pack your bags. No one is obliged to tolerate such an attitude. Ashamed of him, leave him. Show everyone that they can't ruin your self-esteem.

   And I will tell you the following - thinking all day only about YOUR problems, YOUR feelings, YOUR troubles - do you know what you are doing? You are harming your child. At the moment you are as alienated and cruel to him as your loved ones are to you. Admit it - you do not enjoy being a protector of this creature and you are not filled with the feeling of giving him warmth, you do not put yourself in the place of the poor little one - how much he needs a real mom, tender, good and happy from that, that he has it ... And that is Man, the most important person - and the most vulnerable. Think about it. PP Your husband is a freak, after all. Let's not lie. I think he's looking for a reason to break up, but he's doing it in the lowest and most fraudulent way. And your mother is like any other mother, don't blame her.

   I do not know!

   Don't try to instill in women that childbirth is as nasty a process as you described

   Very unpleasant! ... It often happens ... you have an idea, about the person next to you, some expectations, but what happens? Something very different! Ha, I don't know what kind of person and personality your husband is, but he doesn't speak well of him, his disgusting attitude! It's even weird! ... A big man, let alone listen to what others tell him, as if he doesn't have a head on his shoulders and his own mind. It is foolish to be influenced by other people's views, especially if they are from evil and deliberate languages ​​(ill-wishers). In my opinion, nothing can justify his behavior, as long as you are together and have a child, and he, what does he do? He seems to be trying to escape the responsibility he already has! ... Pretending to hear us, he saw that your relationship has already acquired a different meaning with the child! ... A man who hurts a woman, and in your situation, is no man at all! If it continues in the same way, think, what kind of father will he be? Will he be able to be a father at all if he doesn't have his own will? His actions are like those of a frightened man, because there are also those who, when a child is born to them, instead of rejoicing that they have become parents, are afraid that their freedom is lost !!! :)) There are all kinds of them. But you have to be a mollusk to be guided by who he was and what he did: D Listen! ... Love is not forced :) Either you love it or you don't? !! ... This is the reality. If you stay with him, only because of the child, and he does not improve his character with anything, it will be a real torture !!! Yes, ... it is good for a child to have both a mother and a father, but not just to have them :) But to grow up in a normal family, where there will be love! If love is absent, it will not be good for the child himself! ... It will be very difficult. So, talk to him. You haven't been together since yesterday, and you're the mother of his child, you have the right to demand from him too, not just him! You are not his thing or object to hide you from view, which sounds very offensive! ... Tell him that if he wants you to be together, stop listening to others. Tell him that what he's doing hurts you so much you can't! Be honest, let him see what is wrong with you, so that if there is a little love in him, something inside him will tremble, and enlighten him that he is wrong in his behavior. That you are no longer just the two of you, that there is a little creature you need to think about :) His demeanor is very immature! ... I hope you wake up! ... If not, you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ to hide you from view, which sounds very offensive! ... Tell him that if he wants you to be together, stop listening to others. Tell him that what he's doing hurts you so much you can't! Be honest, let him see what is wrong with you, so that if there is a little love in him, something inside him will tremble, and enlighten him that he is wrong in his behavior. That you are no longer just the two of you, that there is a little creature you need to think about :) His demeanor is very immature! ... I hope you wake up! ... If not, you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ to hide you from view, which sounds very offensive! ... Tell him that if he wants you to be together, stop listening to others. Tell him that what he's doing hurts you so much you can't! Be honest, let him see what is wrong with you, so that if there is a little love in him, something inside him will tremble, and enlighten him that he is wrong in his behavior. That you are no longer just the two of you, that there is a little creature you need to think about :) His demeanor is very immature! ... I hope you wake up! ... If not, you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ it hurts a lot that you can't do that! Be honest, let him see what is wrong with you, so that if there is a little love in him, something inside him will tremble, and enlighten him that he is wrong in his behavior. That you are no longer just the two of you, that there is a little creature you need to think about :) His demeanor is very immature! ... I hope you wake up! ... If not, you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ it hurts a lot that you can't do that! Be honest, let him see what is wrong with you, so that if there is a little love in him, something inside him will tremble, and enlighten him that he is wrong in his behavior. That you are no longer just the two of you, that there is a little creature you need to think about :) His demeanor is very immature! ... I hope you wake up! ... If not, you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ you know what to do :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~

   winterfire, why do you allow yourself to judge mature / immature, right / wrong. People act of their own free will, because it is at this point that they need to do so. You see - there is no good or bad, everything is just as it is, because it is useful to us. One of your sentences amazed me a lot: "If he does not change his character because of you" This is not love, nor is it a prerequisite for harmonious friendship and any peaceful relationship that creates comfort. When we love, we love the other person, in general, and we do not change him. Any desire to change the other or even more selfish to change, because of us and our expectations is the first signal that we do not love this person, but one idea of ​​him and inevitably in time the disappointment will be deep. But who are you that to judge of mature deeds and to strengthen in this woman the feeling that she is suffering and that she is a victim of fate, almost. It is very easy to take the position of understanding and empathetic, especially when we have an injured person on the other side and from this "noble position" to judge and kill and hang. Happiness is not in external factors, it is not in people's behavior - happiness is inside us and only there we have the power to change, destroy and create. You get carried away ... be careful! Friendly advice - I've been through this and I know how easy it is to be good and to understand and support everyone who suffers. BUT there is an accusation in your words, therefore something is wrong - there is no purity of empathy. Flame when we have an injured person on the other side and from this "noble position" to judge and kill and hang. Happiness is not in external factors, it is not in people's behavior - happiness is inside us and only there we have the power to change, destroy and create. You get carried away ... be careful! Friendly advice - I've been through this and I know how easy it is to always be good and to understand and support everyone who suffers. BUT there is an accusation in your words, therefore something is wrong - there is no purity of empathy. Flame when we have an injured person on the other side and from this "noble position" to judge and kill and hang. Happiness is not in external factors, it is not in people's behavior - happiness is inside us and only there we have the power to change, destroy and create. You get carried away ... be careful! Friendly advice - I've been through this and I know how easy it is to always be good and to understand and support everyone who suffers. BUT there is an accusation in your words, therefore something is wrong - there is no purity of empathy. Flame BUT there is an accusation in your words, therefore something is wrong - there is no purity of empathy. Flame BUT there is an accusation in your words, therefore something is wrong - there is no purity of empathy. Flame

   Hi Plam :) (number 18 :) Hmm ... maybe the opinion is not on this topic! How did you come to the conclusion that I was judging someone? ... No such thing!!! :) The thing is that people do not act as it is more useful to them, but as it is easier for them :) I know, many people look exactly as you described, that there is no good, that there is no bad, what if there is not? !! What will determine our morality? If there is no good, if there is no bad, then you can do whatever you want? Just because you won't have a measure to say to yourself, oooh, that seems like too much! ... :)) "One of your sentences amazed me a lot:" If he doesn't change his character because of you "" I haven't written anything like that anywhere here !!! I guess you're talking about something else? :) But wherever you took this line, it is not claimed that she should change it, but it is based on the fact that if he loves her, he will change, he will find a way to it! .. . And isn't that so? If one loves another, is he ready for anything? Even if it changes! According to his personal desire and will! ... No one can make you do something if you don't want to! ... :) I don't know which topic you watched, you write in a hurry! The question is why? I know what he said :) And you can view all my opinions, I have not "killed or hanged" anyone else! : D I know my opinions;) "Happiness is not in the external factors, it is not in the behavior of people - happiness is inside us and only there we have the power to change, destroy and create." It's a little strange to tell me, that's right for me! I, in any opinion about love, explicitly say that everything comes from the soul, from the inner limits and feelings. Ha, so for me love has nothing to do with the outside world :) I have a feeling, or that your opinion was not for me, and for this topic, or that you did not understand my words :) And so, almost, you judge me :)) for no particular reason. I love criticism because I take lessons from them, useful for development, but ... what you say does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ or that you did not understand my words :) And so, almost, you judge me :)) without a specific reason. I love criticism because I take lessons from them, useful for development, but ... what you say does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ or that you did not understand my words :) And so, almost, you judge me :)) without any specific reason. I like criticism because I learn from them, useful for development, but ... what you say does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ )) without a specific reason. I love criticism because I take lessons from them, useful for development, but ... what you say does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ )) without a specific reason. I like criticism because I learn from them, useful for development, but ... what you say does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ does not correspond to the topic :) I do not take one position, but many. But what does it matter? When someone has written the topic, he needs exactly one position with which to make the right decision for himself. I think you reacted a little sharply because you take things personally. Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ Perhaps in any topic you have read, you have seen common features in the author's empathy with yours. When you read what I wrote to you, you will understand more :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~

   I haven't given birth, I don't know what postpartum depression is, but I know what it's like to be desperate, to feel ugly and fat and misunderstood and disliked by no one. Darling, you need to find strength in yourself and start enjoying life. Find time for yourself, go to the hairdresser, buy some clothes, go for a massage, if you can afford it. Just pamper yourself, make yourself feel good. And if there are grandmothers to look after the baby, what stops you? And for your husband ... judging by what you wrote, I don't think he loves you. You cannot love a person and insult him, be ashamed of him. If he truly loved you, with all his heart, he would enjoy you and the baby, no matter if you were fat or thin. Have a serious conversation with him, tell him that you are a woman, you need to be loved, respected and supported. Especially now that you've gifted him with a child. Show him that you are the mother of the child and that you and your baby both need a man to take care of you and love you. I am against divorce and separation, but sometimes it really seems necessary. Try to do everything possible to keep your family, but if you do not receive support from your husband, think about separation. I know this is a serious step, I do not want to set you in this direction, but do not give your life to a person who does not appreciate you, does not love you. Do not compromise with your own misfortune, do not condemn yourself to eternal muttering, insults and what not from your husband. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved, you too. I am against divorce and separation, but sometimes it really seems necessary. Try to do everything possible to keep your family, but if you do not receive support from your husband, think about separation. I know this is a serious step, I do not want to set you in this direction, but do not give your life to a person who does not appreciate you, does not love you. Do not compromise with your own misfortune, do not condemn yourself to eternal muttering, insults and what not from your husband. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved, you too. I am against divorce and separation, but sometimes it really seems necessary. Try to do everything possible to keep your family, but if you do not receive support from your husband, think about separation. I know this is a serious step, I do not want to set you in this direction, but do not give your life to a person who does not appreciate you, does not love you. Do not compromise with your own misfortune, do not condemn yourself to eternal muttering, insults and what not from your husband. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved, you too. he who does not appreciate you does not love you. Do not compromise with your own misfortune, do not condemn yourself to eternal muttering, insults and what not from your husband. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved, you too. he who does not appreciate you does not love you. Do not compromise with your own misfortune, do not condemn yourself to eternal muttering, insults and what not from your husband. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved, you too.

   I don't know if what I will write will help you, but I sincerely hope so. To begin with. that I have two children. A 5-year-old boy and an 8-month-old girl. When my son was born, I was very happy, but I didn't know what to do. I felt insecure and emotionally exhausted. The baby roared and I roared with him. I didn't know, I didn't understand what to do. When my husband said something to me, I had the feeling that he was trying to insult me. One night we had a violent fight and he came out and came home after 2 days. Then my son was one month old. He didn't talk to me, he didn't even look at me. I didn't know what was going on, and no one told me I was literally unbearable. Then I thought very seriously about the gap between us, and we loved each other so much that it's not true. I had to look away and see that the problem was not only in him, but in me. But he kept not talking to me and went to sleep in the other room. One night after I put the baby to sleep, I got up and went to him after he fell asleep. I woke him gently and I literally fucked him, then he kissed me and said that he was very happy that his beloved wife was back. We talked for a long time and I realized that men are even more insecure than us. They are afraid of the little creature and the changes that occur. Although they are the stronger sex, they are weaker than us. It's much easier for me now with my second child, because I've been there and I can't afford to fall into such emotional states that rob me mentally. Try to approach your husband differently. Don't tease him, don't complain. Be the woman he once loved again. I wish you success. Magicians that he was very glad that his beloved wife had returned. We talked for a long time and I realized that men are even more insecure than us. They are afraid of the little creature and the changes that occur. Although they are the stronger sex, they are weaker than us. It's much easier for me now with my second child, because I've been through it and I can't afford to fall into such emotional states that rob me mentally. Try to approach your husband differently. Don't tease him, don't complain. Be the woman he once loved again. I wish you success. Magicians that he is very glad that his beloved wife has returned. We talked for a long time and I realized that men are even more insecure than us. They are afraid of the little creature and the changes that occur. Although they are the stronger sex, they are weaker than us. It's much easier for me now with my second child, because I've been there and I can't afford to fall into such emotional states that rob me mentally. Try to approach your husband differently. Don't tease him, don't complain. Be the woman he once loved again. I wish you success. Magicians because I have been through there and I do not allow myself to fall into such emotional states that have robbed me mentally. Try to approach your husband differently. Don't tease him, don't complain. Be the woman he once loved again. I wish you success. Magicians because I have been through there and I do not allow myself to fall into such emotional states that have robbed me mentally. Try to approach your husband differently. Don't tease him, don't complain. Be the woman he once loved again. I wish you success. Magicians

   To the author - what you feel is completely normal and I felt the same when I gave birth to my first child. Don't let the child lose your husband because of the child, my first child is a girl, when he was born he had a lot of colic and a crying baby, my husband retired to another room and so the thread between us broke. I dealt with the child all day and turned my back. my husband. After 7 years we broke up. Now I have a second husband and I gave birth to a 4 month old son and I will try not to let the same thing happen. If you think there is no other reason for your husband to behave like this, I have many acquaintances who have given birth vaginally and have changed to such an extent that their husbands do not want to have sex with them and get annoyed on other occasions, so I gave birth by cesarean section.

   Girl, you should go to the doctor immediately, postpartum depression is a serious disease, it keeps me very long because I did not seek a specialist. The result - we got divorced! Don't let it get you there, take action, I assure you - you won't be able to do it alone. I thought I would succeed, but periods of light alternated with gloomy moments ... and all this is exacerbated by the circumstances - you are isolated all day, with the child, and your husband has not changed his lifestyle, contact with many people and no idea how nervous your life is, between the baby, the pots, the rag, the series - tomorrow - again and again! It was killing me and I was making fun of him ... Talk, share, have sex, travel, do different things together, force yourself to lose weight, but start with a visit to the gy pit for a referral to a specialist.

   These men became very sensitive. Instead of standing behind their wife, supporting her, helping her as much as they can and loving her even more because she is the mother of their children, they roar and are more capricious even than their newborn babies. Behave her like men, not like babies. My advice to the author is the following: Tighten up, proudly raise your head and oppose your husband. Instead of trying to please him and go around him, tell him that you and the baby need care and love. He should carry you in his arms, not get away, as if it is not his duty to take care of his child. It is also his child, not only yours. And the extra pounds will disappear, there is nothing as scary as death. So enjoy your life and health, as well as your healthy baby. Don't let anyone harass or mentally oppress you.

   It's postpartum depression, and hormones are playing now. Read on the net. I support n 23. You are also mentally drained from pregnancy, childbirth, child care ... And you are socially isolated - only at home with diapers, bottles, milk, pots, pans, pants and rags. It can drive a person crazy. I know it from my own experience. And the bad gloomy weather outside is depressing. It is very important that your husband understands you and supports you morally and physically. When it is possible to help him. Grandmothers - leave it to them from time to time, and you find time to go out alone and go for a walk, to see a little daylight. Leave it to your mother for day two and get some rest. Go somewhere with your husband for the weekend, take a walk. Use every sunny day to be outside in the park, in nature and among people-other mothers in the park, for example. Share your situation with a doctor - he will prescribe you something and you will be fine. Think positive and don't give up. This ordeal will pass.

   Well done, № 24! I support your every word. And I will tell the author one thing - respect yourself so that others respect you. That is, the less you obey and bow your head, the more authority you will have. Conversely, the more you allow them to get on your head, the more they will crush you. Find time, one or two hours just for yourself. Every day! This child has a father after all, nothing will happen to him if he appears as a father.

   I was also in such a postpartum depression, I suffered for a long time and my daily life was as I read above ... Diapers, bottles, milk, pots and rags ... I watched TV series to distract myself, listened to music, cleaned, my child had colic up to 6 months, but not so strong, did not cry much. He rested during the day, I had time, but I was lonely. Then he started wanting to sleep outside in the stroller. I went to the park, drove my baby, drank coffee, listened to music, etc. BUT I had no friends or acquaintances ... She would stop when she woke up and we would play ... My husband used to come to us in the park after work, because it was right next to us. It helped me, because from the very beginning I wanted it, neither of the grandmothers bathed the baby, only the two of us, made the milk, changed diapers sometimes, etc. And slowly, imperceptibly, I came out of depression ... I started going out, it was spring, summer ... (I gave birth in January and only at home ...). But when I change the place where I live, I get depressed. I just regained consciousness for 1 year and changed my place twice: x I was constantly crying, I thought that my youth was passing like that between my fingers slipping away ... I experienced many things and got better. Mss Sadness, 24

   Then I started to think of activities that I like. Going shopping, at home I made changes, decorations, bought something for the child, which makes me very happy to this day. Baby grew up, began to understand, and is now 3 years and 6 months. We learn more and more new things, I have an obedient child. I raise her carefully, we take fun toys and books ... We go to two parks a day, to be among children. It is playing. My husband and I get along better than before, but sometimes we fight nonsense. There are times when I think he doesn't love me ... but that's because he's with the child all day and I want the attention to be on us sometime in the evening. Mss Sadness, 24

   On someone else's back and 100 sticks are not enough ... Don't listen to anyone, just listen to your heart ... The gestures, actions, actions of your husband speak for themselves. You already know the answer to all your questions .. And the decision is only yours .. Good luck girl :))