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2 the1_and_only1 answered
Abe, dear girl, you have the most conscientious friend in the world, and instead of rejoicing, you whine. The boy thinks about the future, one day to have a job, to be able to earn a living for his family. Honestly, I wonder what kind of people will become, those who soak in restaurants. This, by the way. What a gift you want, that's why you called him. Do you ask him how he pays for his studies, tram tickets, patties? All this costs money. You don't have to buy clothes, shoes, do you? Instead of being a sensible friend, showing understanding and not waiting for any Armagans, you started whining. And if you really want to be his companion in life, you have to accept his mother. She is the woman who came with the best of intentions - to celebrate the three of you. You could take out your best manners and use the situation to be nice to them. And you're sulking and waiting for a present, you don't want the mother, and she, the woman, must have paid the bill. Be reasonable.
3 krisi_kiss answered
This is not correct. Maybe there is no time, but at least for some small gesture to you or for one wish, isn't that enough for him? If on purpose it is a very vicious reaction. The way he answered you is also unpleasant ... Has he done that before?
4 badgrace998 answered
No darling, I don't think it's normal to behave like that, let alone on your birthday! Your friend doesn't love you enough. I would not forgive such disrespect.
5 morbeau answered
Hello, unfortunately something like this happened to me, even more unpleasant. The man I live with has been together for a little over a year, we have a one-month-old baby, but neither when our son was born, nor for Christmas, nor for the New Year did I receive a gift. This made me very sad and sad. Not that there are no possibilities, but I can't explain it. He told me what expensive gifts he made to his nephews, even now he bought them presents for Christmas and for me the woman who gave birth to him and looked after his son has nothing, I am not for the gift but for the attention and to feel that I am important for him. I wonder what all this means ....
6 tammygold answered
Your friend is complete shit, and after this incident I wonder how you didn't pull one for him !!! And whether you've been together for 3 years or 3 days, the least he can do if he cares about you is to call you, to greet you nicely ... and if he really can't really separate you 1 -2 hours to be with you on your holiday, he will apologize to you at least. Not to mention that everything is up to the desire in the end, if a person has a desire, he finds a way, if not .... I guess you know what he invents :)
7 cravingasian answered
What decent person would refuse a loved one even for 30 minutes. And I would be free all day. And to exclude the fact that who knows what surprise I would give her.
8 no__limits69 answered
horror tell him that either he will take your time or you will stop altogether
9 jaxxxhammer1 answered
Number 2, what nonsense are you talking about. The fact that you do not have self-esteem does not mean that the girl will not demand at least on her holiday to spend 1 hour. We were students too, and we graduated quite successfully. And a gift does not necessarily mean something very expensive. He could have taken a flower, a card, a souvenir ... In my opinion, he was offended by his mother's name day and now he "gives it back to you", which, as I guess, you remember, is super stupid and childish behavior. And yet you have decided to take revenge. And whatever we talk about, there are people who don't even celebrate name days, it's not such an important holiday, at least in my opinion. I have had a birthday twice since I was with my friend. We both quarreled right on my holiday. So know that some people are selfish. Talk to him and tell him he hurt you.
10 ujr1234 answered
Refusing to see you on your birthday to study is one thing. So the two of you could then go and get some food together after his exams and it would be much sweeter for you, BUT this would choose your mother in front of you and tease you about her name day on your birthday and instead of her and him they take a gift, you take it for her, you see, for the name day! However, after a 3-year relationship, it is right for both of them to be informed when your birthday is and to prepare something for you, even if it is small, insignificant and modest - it is important that the gesture is from the heart. I don't think this boy and his family care about you. However, a 3-year relationship doesn't go away like that, tell him how you feel if you get an apology and "compensation" from him - a gesture, even a small one from him, with which he aims to take revenge on you and make you feel special. However, if he does not react, he starts to defend himself, to make you guilty or something like that, just leave and forget about him, because in this case he is not suitable for you. Raise your criteria about your boyfriend and your relationship, you don't have to put up with behavior you don't like and find it offensive.
11 baby_mia_kisses answered
Number 2, you're very confused. The girl is hardly upset because of the lack of a gift, but she just had to make a gesture towards her, if she wants a flower. However, the gesture itself is important, to show that a person is special to you. And who's talking about soaking in restaurants, it's just about the girl's personal holiday. I would tell the author to think about whether she will feel good in the future if her partner neglects her because of studying or whatever. If you want to show someone that they are important to you, you would give them at least 10 minutes of your precious time and make the moment special, as long as you want! Good luck, sweet girl, and don't bother about people who don't deserve you. Doriana
12 ilbiricchino answered
2, my friend, among other things, gave me things he made himself. Is something written, quickly processed and printed, but it came out for free. Everything is to your liking.
13 janette_sexy answered
Number 2 killed me .... how did the girl come out guilty? !! Come on, I understand that she thinks so much about her future (which I doubt very much) that she doesn't at least wish her a happy birthday. I'm sure that if he had at least congratulated you, if he had called to say happy birthday to you kindly (for example), you wouldn't be angry about a gift. After all, he totally ignored you, you almost forcibly took him out to celebrate, and instead of congratulating you, you were teased ... well, it's normal to be very angry, I would have remarked to him in your place, at least, after all, you've been together for 3 years, if you don't spend at least 2 hours seeing each other ... you'll forgive, but that's not normal. How many times do you have a birthday in the year - 1 and should he fail it ... talk to him and explain to him that you are upset if he doesn't care and you don't, obviously you are not for each other, if he understands you, celebrate it on another day. PP And Happy Birthday on Crutches :)
14 9090pope answered
darling, accept my birthday greetings from me and don't be sad ... I think this is a personal and important holiday for each of us and one should celebrate it properly .. and your "friend" no longer invites him, I don't even think it's worth being together ... everyone is more or less selfish, but his act is devoid of education and respect, and what's left for something more serious .... greetings ... ZARA 36
15 dannadoll answered
Number 2 screamed !!! Author, these people do not sleep for you! It's just that this friend of yours is either the hellish egoist or I don't know ... Even if you don't have a birthday, a person, if he loves you, will make gestures of attention to you (I don't mean gifts, namely gestures), and when on your holiday ... And I had such a boyfriend, who only sang for me for his mother and ruined my 18th birthday with his nonsense. And what the fuck did I give him and come on, arivederchi, go to sleep with your mother like you can't do without her for a moment: DD. On the other hand, since then for 4 years the men with whom I have behaved wonderfully and without having a holiday. I wish you to meet someone who is worth it :).
16 sugarmag97 answered
And my friend didn't give me anything for Christmas or New Year. It was a vacation, and he excused himself for not having time to look around. He had written at least one card. I gave him 2 gifts. Until now he hadn't forgotten to give me a present for a holiday, but apparently I'm tired of him for a year and a half and he doesn't care about me and our relationship at all.
17 veber1997 answered
My boyfriends also behaved like that, but my husband constantly surprises me and appreciates my personal holidays :)
18 much69hot answered
I will tell you my story. When I gave birth to my first child, neither my husband nor his parents gave me anything, given that I had complications and barely survived. They didn't make me feel special in their eyes at all. Of course, at this stage, I was just happy that me and the child were alive and well and we jumped the ladder. Then, I realized that this was not normal. She also told my husband. He told me he had no money, so he hadn't bought me anything. Well, I would have enjoyed a book too, but no. After 1 month it was New Year. He didn't give me anything for the New Year or Christmas. I waited to see if he would remember that he hadn't given me anything, but he didn't say a word about it until the end of January. At the end of January, I told him, after which he went and bought a gift that he had better not have bought. So, day after day, I cooled down to him emotionally, not because he didn't buy me presents, but that's just a manifestation of his negative traits. Gradually I realized that he was not brought up to respond to the needs of people special to him, even at that time I did not feel special to him. I want to clarify that this was 15 years ago. Eventually, I prayed wholeheartedly in church to meet another person. And when that happened - it wasn't gilded watches, jewelry, perfumes - just like another person. This relationship, which he of course understood, changed a lot in our relationship. And paradoxically, most of the change is in a positive direction. Now do not miss a holiday. Of course, I can never change him to my liking, he is a complete man, but I managed to show him many things he was not taught. As well as the fact that love and the people around us are not a given. When I met him, he wondered how services could be done without benefit. Now he makes them himself. Probably everything about your man also comes from the mother and she obviously has a great influence on him. Unlike me, who was blinded and in love, you are aware of this and I want to tell you that this partial change that I have achieved has cost me a lot of nerves and tears. Think about whether you should cause it to yourself. This behavior is not normal. It is very difficult to be ignored. I tell you from my own experience. Eventually you start to ignore it and no one benefits from it, and the children suffer. Think while it's time. To take a peasant like him. who was blinded and in love, you are aware of this and I want to tell you that this partial change that I have achieved has cost me a lot of nerves and tears. Think about whether you should cause it to yourself. This behavior is not normal. It is very difficult to be ignored. I tell you from my own experience. Eventually you start to ignore it and no one benefits from it, and the children suffer. Think while it's time. To take a peasant like him. who was blinded and in love, you are aware of this and I want to tell you that this partial change that I have achieved has cost me a lot of nerves and tears. Think about whether you should cause it to yourself. This behavior is not normal. It is very difficult to be ignored. I tell you from my own experience. Eventually you start to ignore it and no one benefits from it, and the children suffer. Think while it's time. To take a peasant like him.
19 loraandmazy answered
Number 2, you have a serious problem.
20 33ralph answered
not sweet girl, this attitude is not normal. If he behaves like that now, imagine if you become a family. He may even slap you. My advice is to run away from such selfish and motherly sons. Well, won't he invite his mother to your bed, what is this on your birthday, not yours but his mother's coming. Men who love do not behave like that.
21 lanary_naughty answered
Oh, now that he behaves like that, if you become a family and have children ... I don't think what the picture will be. Here, a woman wrote. After being tied up with a child / children, men don't even think about supporting courtship. And for cover, they may be shocked that they are bored in the relationship. Well - because they stop having goals in this regard. Fuck this one and the family to take measures in time, otherwise at some point he will forget that he has a wife and has found a new boyfriend.
22 janecherryy answered
Number 1 your friend is shit, or he just doesn't sleep for you. I tell you quite frankly, because mine is the same. Number 5 and yours is the same. And number 18 is extremely right, over time a person cools down, then realizes how many nerves and tears he has lost for someone who did not care all the time ... or just like that
23 realnathalie answered
Horror ... mine and I are a little over 3 years old. He was also unprepared for my RD, just to say that in previous years he surprised me ... this one didn't. However, I'm a little ankle-deep or I don't know how to say it, but I got angry with him because it was justified that he didn't have the money to take a gift from me earlier (ie, it was all about wanting to take his rent money and surprised me, as I surprised him) So we quarreled, I in the evening, before 12, I met RD alone, I roared .. But I also drank his nerves! I can spend hours wandering around Sofia in different places to buy him a present, but he doesn't! Oh, I'm already starting through the millet, it's just that men seem to be safe and you forget all the nice gestures ... look, you are the fattest for foreign women ... I have accumulated a lot for these men, so much of them are rubbish!
24 anniiesclub answered
Yes! and I have experienced it. but we obviously fall for simpletons. educated boys / men are not interesting to us. I didn't miss my friend's birthday. on my last holiday he told me that he didn't care that I had a birthday .. there was a financial problem, but I don't justify it .. I already refrain from gestures .. how my years went by only! to always think and care for him, and for him not to appreciate me at all! I do not justify these men ... AND WHILE WE, DEAR LADIES, STAND AND USE US, the more cunning women choose men who respect them ... apparently we do it ourselves.
25 _caylee_ answered
Girl, have more respect and personal dignity! This young man does not deserve your worries!
26 angel_ino answered
Author: 1 year has passed. We're still together, just because I love him so much ... Again on my birthday - nothing ... he didn't want us to come and celebrate at home with my family. It's not spring at all on my birthday ... I didn't have a present ... nothing. It was only on Skype - happy birthday .... On his birthday - I gave him a blouse with a special emblem of his favorite band, a photo from the graduation ... I'm just a man who likes to give love and make his loved ones happy. .. after a few days we quarreled because he was rude to me .... I exploded, I behaved very badly with him really damn bad ... I sincerely apologized to him and bought him some expensive candies - and he did nothing- He told me that nothing I deserved it ... and he wants us to break up .... he's behaving super awfully on the phone, we're hurting a hell of a lot. It's damn hard for me. It's not for my gifts, it's not for my money .... his demeanor just isn't human and that's it. I don't deserve it. But I just can't look at anyone else anymore, I'm very upset, disappointed, and I'm 26 years old and I doubt that I will ever meet a suitable person for me. I can't look at anyone.
27 alex_daniel19 answered
I am very interested when I ask if it is normal for him to behave like that, the answer is already clear. Would you behave like that with a man if you loved? is the answer is clear
28 alohacum answered
Girls, do not experience yourself as a victim of circumstances. If this one is not suitable, if it is rude and disrespectful, if you do not like it in bed, if it is not gentle and kind - just separate and let everyone go their own way. If he ignores you today on your birthday, tomorrow you will have a child, he will ignore him, and you do not know how much it hurts to see sadness in a child's eyes. Sometimes people just don't get along and that makes them irritable, even nasty. With another girl, he may be the most considerate in the world. With another boy you will be the happiest and so ... Let everyone seek happiness, isn't that what we live for in the end? To be happy, to love and be loved?
29 paul7509 answered
Darling, send him on his way! And never, never, never let anyone ignore you or humiliate you like that! If you make one compromise with yourself, you will make another. Then third, fourth, and so on, until you reach a point where you can no longer get out of this vicious circle. Run while you can! I say it from experience ...
30 melany_smith answered
No, mine takes time off and dedicates it all day to me. However, he gives me the gifts earlier because he can't wait to see my reaction. Besides, it's not me, it's him who draws me. Besides me, he also draws on his relatives, who also give me presents. Throughout the day he pleases me for everything I want and constantly surprises me. We have been together for 5 years and every year we try harder. In my opinion, every woman should find a man who makes her happy. I personally would be a jester to someone like yours. I won't even miss it after that. What will you miss at all? His mom? My mother gives me presents even on his birthday, I'm a kind child too. Think seriously about what you are looking for in these people!
31 d_jet_2step answered
The author's last comment struck me. How else will you put up with it and be together ?? And why do you keep complaining when you see that nothing is changing? Are you a masochist? You cannot look at another because you still feel bound to this ungrateful and ignorant person. Drop it and bet on your dignity. Next you will see that it will not be delayed much. To avoid more disrespect and ignorance, you know what to do! Just don't stay with him and don't feel sorry for yourself; She herself said that he directly wanted you to break up. What are you doing behind his back? I'm sorry for the offensive tone, but it just threw me into trouble. Think for yourself! You stay with him - he tramples you. You drop it - you breathe freely! You remember that tale - better alone than badly accompanied.
32 hani_gee answered
Author, I'm also 26, I've been with the boy since I was 10, and it's as if I'm listening to my story ... I've never forgotten him, including his family. And he should never say, but maybe 1-2 times he remembered. and his family-NEVER! And I started to like it. 10 years is a long time ... and while it didn't impress me a while ago, now I'm thinking a lot. and I don't know how to end this. everything in my life is connected to him - company, habits, etc .. And we don't even live together. if you want to exchange emails, it will be interesting to me, because of the similar fate and similar age
33 knights2001 answered
The second time he acts rudely and disrespectfully just on your birthday and you still be with him? !! As much as you love him, love yourself first and don't stand by someone who doesn't care about you. You are only 26, you have a lot of time in front of you to meet the right person and be happy. Don't ruin your life with people who don't deserve this sacrifice. And don't stay with him just so you're not alone. This is a terrible mistake. You can be much better alone and one day unexpectedly meet love, instead of bothering with a selfish and rude guy. Head up, girl and go for it! Bobby 38y
34 mansboytoy answered
Eeeee, you love him very much. I think so. What do you love very much - his attitude, to be with him by behaving like that? Be more mature, you don't really love him, but you are probably used to him, you are afraid of being left alone or you love the man from the past - as he presented himself to you then. Look at the reality - you are still young and life is ahead of you. Give someone else a chance to make you happy and don't punish him for this one's mistakes ....
35 salemhex answered
Horror! He will refuse all day and eventually come with his mother. There is no worse story than this. I will support the opinion of № 2 about the gift. Not necessarily to give you a gift, but here we are talking about the lack of any gesture, unfortunately for a complete lack of attention. I have no words ... You must have been very upset and cried a lot. A man who makes you cry doesn't deserve your attention, darling. Kofti is that you didn't think of his mother on her name day, but he has no right to tease you about it. Let him sit with mom and don't deal with people who make you cry unless he's happy. I hug you tightly ... F31g.
36 dana_russel answered
Hello! And I had a friend with whom we had a relationship for more than 3 years, and who forgot about my birthday. He was in the country with friends and had lost track of time. HAHA As a rematch I received "Sorry", no gift, not even a flower. I decided to end our relationship - despite this, I cried for a long time and expected a gesture, but alas каза It turned out that the boy was not wasting his time - he quickly grabbed another and is even married.
37 zafiro_bloom answered
Don't deal with it at all! Even if he has no money, he can always make his partner feel good, especially when there is a holiday. There is no excuse for these things! End the relationship and find someone who values and respects you. He pretends to be important and that he doesn't care. When he loses you then he will appreciate you.
38 littleren answered
There are cunning women - we are not one of them. Yes, there are people in this situation and it is quite unpleasant. And what? One to pray for someone's gesture? Hints, talking and nothing. Every time excuses. Pity.
1 ketitopuria answered
So what do you do with people who ignore you? !!!? !!