So, honestly, I don't know where to start. I just want to say that I don't want answers like, some hara have bigger problems than you, grow up, because the fact that one's problem is less makes it no less of a problem. I have had a girlfriend for a long time, we have known each other since 1st grade, if I'm not mistaken, I am currently 16. We have always understood each other and we have had common interests and opinions. But lately (by that I mean the last two years) I've noticed how our opinions are starting to differ, which is normal, of course. It all started when it came to fat people, I don't know how we got to this topic, but it happened. She told me that fat people should not exist. Since I'm not one of the weakest (well, I'm not 100 kg, but I'm not very light) I was affected, of course, but I didn't say anything. He's been cutting my jokes lately. I know my sense of humor isn't for everyone, it can't be. But she's terribly rude to me. I made a joke about God and she told me it was blasphemy. I also made a joke about Hitler and she said, "Oh God shut up,". I know this seems to have nothing to do with what I wrote above, but believe me, there is. I have been suffering from anxiety disorder and depression (to some extent) since I was 13/14. I recently met someone who helped me learn to love myself. I'm not so worried about what I look like anymore, etc. I'm starting to regain my confidence, which I doubt I ever had. She noticed him and seemed to want me to go back to my old self. We were sitting with another of our friends in the hallway and it was about our fingers. She thought I was deliberately feeding my other friend's hand and said, "Look how beautiful our hands are," and didn't even look at me. Now he keeps sending me pictures of his fingers, as if trying to tell me that long thin fingers are more than just my,, sausages,,.
I don't know if I look too deeply into things, but I have the feeling that she is trying to lower my self-esteem again to be like her - without any self-confidence. I've been thinking about this for a long time. I also asked for advice from my online friends, who, unlike her, are always by my side, no matter what. I don't know if I'm acting like a bitch in this case and I'm too sensitive. What did I do wrong? I know I'm not perfect, I'm even terribly far away, but why should he treat me like that? He ignored my messages and started writing about other topics, constantly asking me,, but were you stupid,,. I act like a spoiled bitch, I know. But I just need help, do you have any tips? Oh, I also want to say that from now on I don't accept, talk to her about it, because no matter how much I don't like someone, I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. There is hardly room for other advice, but please help me. Thanks in advance if anyone leaves an answer. I also apologize for grammatical and spelling mistakes, if any. And it certainly is. Anyway, I'm sorry if I sounded rude somewhere, it wasn't my intention, thank you very much! if available. And it certainly is. Anyway, I'm sorry if I sounded rude somewhere, it wasn't my intention, thank you very much! if available. And it certainly is. Anyway, I'm sorry if I sounded rude somewhere, it wasn't my intention, thank you very much!
1 madi_stclaire12 answered
I think he envies you. She may be prettier than you, weaker, and so on, and you may think she can't envy you, but I think she is. She's angry that you're better now. You've been comfortable with her so far, but once you've started believing in yourself, she's trying to crush your self-esteem again. I may be wrong, I'm not saying that's for sure. Don't get caught up in knowing each other for so long. You can tell her how you feel. I know you wrote that you do not accept such advice, but there is no other way to fix things. I understand you don't want to hurt her, but you hurt yourself. If you talk to her and she continues or even starts to do so, it means that your friendship has already been destroyed. It will be placed in its place. If she is a strong believer, this joke may have offended her. I am very glad that your life is getting better. Don't let negative people affect your happiness. That's why I don't think she's a real friend — if she were, she'd be happy to be happy, not angry. You don't say anything about the person who helps you change for the better. If he is a boy and you like him, for example, she may also like him and behave that way. Success!