Am I That Bad?

   To find a person who loves you, you do not need to be a first beauty or a model. You can walk around the neighborhood in an anzung, without make-up, without a haircut and impress an man who likes such women. In my opinion, the right one will appear, sooner or later. If you have a good character, even if you do not attract with your appearance, you will be able to catch the eye of a man who cares about something more than a nice face and body. Success!

   No, it is normal for a man who sees that things are going very slowly to lose interest. A man goes out on dates with a woman because he needs excitement, intimacy, eroticism and if you have an attitude as if you are important and you determine the pace of the relationship and they are slow and gradual he loses interest and leaves. And so am I, if you don't hold my attention I'm losing interest. It's not just you, many women don't understand that they have to try to hold a man's attention. They are focused only on not making things happen too fast and do not understand that they need to show effort and skills to keep the interest. The interest in a man is strongest in the beginning, then it decreases, decreases and if he does not get anything from these relationships and everything is related to the woman feeling good, then he gets bored, he decides,

   You don't come across the right person. Nowadays, a large part of your generation has very distorted ideas, not only about relationships, but about everything around us. It is difficult to find a soul mate, but be patient and at the same time not too naive. Try not to let people play with you and do not become attached to someone who has not shown by action that he has serious intentions. Don't just believe in words.

   Out of self-pity you have no use. Live your life and don't focus on disappointments, no one's life is flowers and roses anyway. Be more positive, build and upgrade yourself, exercise if you want to feel better.

   And what can you improve? Can you look better, me case number 1, 100% written by a woman. And it's not about a tracksuit ... it's just that men never marry a woman they don't like because of their wow character. If you don't attract him, you go to the "friend zone", as they do for us if we don't accept him as a possible friend. Where do you meet new people? How many new men do you meet a week? If the number is 1-2 maximum .. is small. And you have to think about how to change it.

   Author, you say yourself: "I'm not the first beauty, I'm a little full, but it's not a pain to die." and therefore the most natural advice is for you to turn to the group of men who are like you - not the first handsome and slightly plump. With them, your chance to meet a self-similar soul is many times greater. If you aim mainly at athletic and handsome men, it will be a little harder, not to say impossible. But many obese and ugly women want just such efforts to keep men in good shape, without realizing that they (women) do not offer the same that such a man can offer.

   From the author to number 2 Thanks for the answer and I understand what you mean, but the interesting thing is that in this case the opposite happened - he set the pace, things happened quickly and yet not so fast as to get to bed, as we agreed since the 3rd meeting.

   1-2 men a week is not enough? That anyone but the Internet meets 1-2 new people a week is unrealistic. On a conveyor belt to drive them from Tinder ?! Not good advice. Just don't force yourself to have a relationship at any cost. Look for a fellow student if you are studying or a free suitable colleague at work. Let the goal of acquaintance and communication not initially be a connection, but getting to know each other, communication. Good things happen slowly!

   I'm tired of clichés like "You'll find someone who will love you the way you are" or "Every train has passengers." We live in a time when appearance is leading. For men, it has always been, let's not be fooled. When I hear a man say that he is looking at the character and not the look, he makes me laugh. Yes, character is important. But men love above all with their eyes. What to do? Lose weight. Not to become a pincer. Exercise at least twice a week, eat a balanced diet. The important thing is to radiate confidence. Crushed and timid people do not attract anyone. You are 21, life is ahead of you. And among the young the competition is great. I assume you're dating your sets? That's right, but 20-year-olds mostly look at the species. But first of all, you have to like yourself and have self-confidence. Not to fly in the clouds, to radiate confidence. F32

   From number 2 - I also understand you, but the situation is that men leave a woman and break off contact usually because we do not feel that we are getting enough. We feel that the relationship revolves mainly around the woman and how she feels and we are like on an exam, how will we present ourselves, what will we say, will we pass any of her imaginary tests, how will she determine us, in what pattern will we put. She is 100% fixed on the man's behavior and it quickly becomes very tiring, annoying and I want to leave such a relationship. Honestly, I had such a relationship with a woman, everything was constantly revolving around her, we went out, saw each other, I behaved like a gentleman, but at one point I got tired of everything, because for me there was nothing in this relationship. Then he looked for me for over a year so we could see each other, but I always found an excuse until I finally gave up. Women should not be focused on presenting the man, but on how to please him and how they present themselves and how they keep his attention, many women do not understand this and that is why men leave.

   2/10, can I share something with you? I went out with a man I was in love with and every time I saw him I tried to please him. Only he is the important one. Guess if it happened between us ... And not to be some bustard. Alpha, w. 29