Hello, I am at a dead end, because 8 months ago the woman of my life left me entirely through my fault. Unfortunately, I was not given a chance to make amends (I was cheated on). Since then I am sick, I go out with others, I have sex with others, but I see her. She has already continued her life and is probably seeing someone else and she must have forgotten me. My contact attempts were unsuccessful, I was blocked and ignored everywhere, and I gave up trying to talk at all. I threw away all the photos, deleted everything from the phone, etc., I tried to move on by deleting everything, but I can't delete the memories. Women have always been interested in me, I have a business, everything in my life is organized and quite well financially, but without it nothing makes sense to me. I would replace everything I have so I can hug her one more time. I have many friends with whom I try to go out all the time, because if I am left alone the pain crushes me. I have never experienced more pain in my life, I prefer physical pain to the hole it left in my heart. I know I have to keep going and forget it, I try and I can't. I do not know what to do.
1 iamdanielarzani answered
Every separation hurts. As cliché as it is, one really needs time to deal with this pain and residual feelings. Pour it on yourself, don't mask it behind a fake smile. When you are alone, you can safely suffer. You will feel better because the feelings will not be hidden in you and poison you constantly. You can cry, write stories about yourself, share with a loved one or start a sport where you can get angry purely physically. Whatever you think will work well there, as long as you do not accumulate negative feelings, but "throw them away" from yourself. The rest of the time, distract yourself as before. Everything will be fine, everyone has suffered this way. It's hard, you have the feeling that you will never pass, but the better days are coming. But the more you ignore the pain, the stronger it becomes.