After 13 Years Of Marriage, He Cheated On Me

   You are obviously one of the few decent men left. You did everything for the woman next to you, but she did not appreciate it. Now she may be very sorry, but late - she had everything on a baking sheet, but she staggered. You are a real man and I admire you very much, know this ... I hope you will soon come out of the hole you are in and find a person who really loves and respects you; to appreciate you for what you are .. Go out more, meet people, make new contacts, don't just get depressed. Everything will be fine sooner or later for you too, have only hope ... I would be happy to I have a friend like you :) I wish you success ..

   Start fresh, sometimes when you do your best you are wrong. You will think for a long time why, how, where I went wrong - there is no answer. Just change yourself, accept your life like that, forgive yourself and don't bother. You are still very young, you have time for everything and you will achieve it if you want and believe. I wish you success and happy days.

   Look what a friend! There is no unpunished good in any way you want it to be. You did everything for her and she didn't appreciate it. She was just brought up that way. Nothing can go back, so go ahead, but if you have children, let it go home, and you watch your life from now on.

   What you can do is go out more, make new contacts. Then believe me, you will feel really better. Don't shut yourself up at home and stop asking yourself "why", "how", "where is my mistake", etc. I say it from personal experience and I was in your situation with the difference that I am a woman and I have a child by this man who cheated on me after 8 years of marriage, but ... you raise your head and continue to live even though it is difficult for a man to do so, but eventually life goes on. It is very natural to want someone next to you. A person really needs someone in such moments to give him a warm hug, to give him a hand and I am sure that you with these qualities (ideal man) will find the right person. Good luck ... and head up :)

   I am a woman, but I experienced the same. After 13 years, I found out that he was cheating on me, but I guess he had done it before. I did my best, I gave birth to 2 wonderful children, but the man is just one who still doesn't have enough. We divorced a long time ago, I was in a great depression, but I was being treated. And the doctor said, "The best medicine is to meet the right person." He turned out to be right. So you will probably never understand why she did that, she may not know, leave her and move on.

   What I think is that you are not so perfect and I think that there is a reason for cheating on your wife. You men always brag about how many. you give for your beloved, but in fact you are many. far from the truth. I think you did something to get her to do it. I don't think a woman cheats just like that, and I think a woman always has a reason when she gets there.

   I'm sorry that number "six" is ahead of me, but I, even though I'm a man, think like her! For me, it's your fault! I will not go into long comments, but I will tell you only one verse from a very nice song, by Vesko Marinov: "... wine and a woman cheat when they don't have real drinkers ..."! Think about what it's all about, but it's your fault!

   Number 6, it's not like that. I am a woman and I have a friend who is perfect and amazing. However, I am about to cheat on him and I will probably do it, simply because the other is also perfect and amazing and completely different. We fell in love with each other a lot. I have no will to dump him. And I have remorse, but they are not enough.

   yes, I agree with number 7 and the ageless hit of Veselin Marinov "... wine and a woman cheat when they don't have real drinkers ..."

   There is one rule. If a woman starts to play on someone else's ass, you get rid of her. You have to be paralyzed and a bigger hammer than the other to keep it. If she comes back to you, be proud that you are more important and keep her.

   Well done number 10 :) You are the person who understands things :) Come on bye and good luck to everyone :)

   I sincerely admire you! No more decent men anymore! I'm so sorry you feel terribly hurt! But leave her and forget! And what are her damn answers for you ?! Keep going! It seems impossible to you now, but know that you will find a beautiful and decent woman again! And at the same time one that will appreciate everything you do for her! I did not have what you gave to your partner, and I appreciate it very much! You don't deserve a woman like her! Forget her! Keep going boldly! Go out, make contacts, write to yourself on the Internet .... you will always meet the right woman for you! This one of yours just wasn't this woman!

   I am number 10 again. Under the influence of number 12, I read the letter again. And here I have missed the fact that you have no children. My wife and I did not have children for 7 years. Now we have, but then one of the many doctors advised my partner that only a foreign man will catch. The in vitro method did not exist then. Think about it. Either give your wife a chance, or go boldly. You will gain weight and you will not have much choice in the future. At most, aim at a whore and raise her children.

   Number 6 and 7, and you're right and you're not. I am a woman. I have a great friend, but we have broken characters with him and we often fight. He looks at me like a painted egg, but when we argue he raises my blood pressure. Well, we both have children from previous marriages. One day I was so fed up that I found a lover on the Internet. So I love him terribly, but he makes me angry. And he loves me because he caught me and forgave me. That is, next to the author, something is lame with you, and if you truly love her, you will forgive her.

   I think that weak people cheat, you give yourself time - it heals!

   Man, what age do you live in? Women who have been married for a long time are not virgins (as a rule). What if she cheated on you? Something was wrong with you. The most important thing in this case is: THAT SHE STAYED WITH YOU, NOT WITH THE OTHER. So for her, you are the important one, not him. And please stop pretending to be a "pinched" lady. What happened happened. You are neither the first nor the last. If you are guided by the maxim: It is human to make mistakes - it is divine to forgive, forgive and forget.

   FROM THE AUTHOR: I want to thank everyone for their work on the comments, and I want to say that there is not much change in my life, I continue in the same spirit. You could even say worse, I broke up with my girlfriend, but now I'm in love with another, but she doesn't seem to know, in fact she knows, but nothing seems to come out of it. I read all the comments, I don't like someone and I think they were written by women who have cheated on their husbands a lot, they shouldn't comment on this topic, I don't take advice from someone who has trampled on the marriage covenant, that they are not caught him does not mean that he is great and you see he can give advice-no thanks. The truth is that I am very hurt and I can't breathe, I don't know what will happen to me, I will probably be left alone, I see in every woman a man who can potentially hurt me,

   Hello hermit, you will probably immediately guess who wrote this to you (one piece). How's the mess in your head? It will hardly be okay soon if you keep thinking about all this and asking yourself these stupid questions. You know my opinion well, but I decided to write something here anyway (I'm a "freak") I have to tell you that I found it and read it shortly after he handed me the straw. I felt very stupid - humiliated and used, I must have turned around for that and started to get annoyed, jealous and burden you. Then when I thought about it, it felt even worse - because of what you and I are going through, and because of your stupid wife, who if you had "stood on your ass", all this would hardly have happened. You wonder why she did it, she won't answer you, but I would tell you this: the man is like that, she is obviously capable of loving more than one man. She had everything on a baking sheet and still couldn't stop. And obviously they were very much in love and couldn't do without each other to leave you helpless, to drag him to your house and villa and to share about it with his mother ????? I must tell you that many women have never had such a man and will never find one (including me), and you are very good and dedicated and able to make every woman feel good about you (and to you kill the stupid complexes out of your head). But in order to be able to start loving again, you have to stop thinking about her. And your love affairs are not love affairs at all, they are rather some kind of insanity. Until you shake off all this and "erase" it from your head, you will hardly be able to create a strong and lasting relationship again. She wanted to come back, but she will, such another will not find, moreover, that from now on there is hardly anyone who knows what choice in his life, after a failed marriage and inability to have children. She must be a nice person and she gave you a lot, but she also took a lot from you. Don't make the mistake of looking for a woman like her. People are not the same. And don't you dare go back, because I will come and beat you up. It's not worth it, it will be stupid to say the least and a sign of cowardice, and you are not. Courage and look ahead… .you will not be left alone ..... look soon the twins have appeared :) And if you need to cry on someone's shoulder, you know where I am. PS Izv. for the rough tone, if you feel like that and read this: http://lusiantonova.blog.bg/viewpost.php?id=134170 She must be a nice person and she gave you a lot, but she also took a lot from you. Don't make the mistake of looking for a woman like her. People are not the same. And don't you dare go back, because I will come and beat you up. It's not worth it, it will be stupid to say the least and a sign of cowardice, and you are not. Courage and look ahead… .you will not be left alone ..... look soon the twins have appeared :) And if you need to cry on someone's shoulder, you know where I am. PS Izv. for the rough tone, if you feel like that and read this: http://lusiantonova.blog.bg/viewpost.php?id=134170 She must be a nice person and she gave you a lot, but she also took a lot from you. Don't make the mistake of looking for a woman like her. People are not the same. And don't you dare go back, because I will come and beat you up. It's not worth it, it will be stupid to say the least and a sign of cowardice, and you are not. Courage and look ahead… .you will not be left alone ..... look soon the twins have appeared :) And if you need to cry on someone's shoulder, you know where I am. PS Izv. for the rough tone, if you feel like that and read this: http://lusiantonova.blog.bg/viewpost.php?id=134170 you will not be left alone ..... look soon the twins have appeared :) And if you need to cry on someone's shoulder, you know where I am. PS Izv. for the rough tone, if you feel like that and read this: http://lusiantonova.blog.bg/viewpost.php?id=134170 you will not be left alone ..... look soon the twins have appeared :) And if you need to cry on someone's shoulder, you know where I am. PS Izv. for the rough tone, if you feel like that and read this: http://lusiantonova.blog.bg/viewpost.php?id=134170

   My dear, Obviously you do not know what you want, that and from whom you want it. I have the feeling that you are not looking for an answer to the most important question for you, "Where to now?" Is the most important thing "why did she cheat on you", and what will change the answer to this question ?! Will your wounded ego get satisfaction ?! And what of that ?! I may be wrong, but first clarify with yourself so that you can clarify with the whole world. As banal as it sounds - if you do not know what you want, then how do you expect someone else to know ?! Life goes on and will not wait for you. So if you want something - just take it. Things are not complicated at all, except that people (probably to look smarter and more interesting) comply with a bunch of conventions and then suffer. There is a book - "Fate is an innocent killer", I do not remember the author, but I will quote him - "Time heals ..

   I wonder why you wonder so much about a woman? She lacked emotion, most likely. I can't believe that there are still people who believe in monogamy and the sanctity of marriage :) Number 10 has added something about the foreign man and the possibility of getting pregnant. In my opinion, this is a possible motive, because a woman always strives to find the best father for her generation and subconsciously seeks it. And if you truly love her, let her fly, if she loved you she will come back to you!

   Well, what can I tell you, a person is never insured against this. I am a woman who has cheated and who has been cheated on. But when you meet the Man, nothing but you two matters. I mean, even if you've been together for 13 years, maybe you just weren't for each other, and it was only a matter of time before you realized it. People have said "Every evil for good", it is definitely so. Maybe it's much, much better to break up, because maybe now is the time to meet the woman of your life who will be with you, just you, and no one else. Good luck.

   Thanks on 22.

   It's been 6 months now ... what happened? Did you get together, did you meet another woman, are you okay? Tell us! We want to hear a happy man come out of the hole.

   He must have returned to his wife and is in an even bigger hole.

   Darling, nothing is eternal - feelings, loyalty, love, passion .... fades away. One is not insured against anything. It is more important to leave something behind - if you have children, you will never feel lonely.

   I am a woman. I was married for 6 years. I cheated on my husband even though he said he gave me everything. He was not jealous of me. He didn't touch me. But he never showed feelings. I needed to feel young and wanted. to be besides a mother and a host - a woman. To wake me up at night to fuck me was to think it was too late. To be sexy FOR HIM. to make me jealous. to love me. He was crushed because he thought he had given me everything. I can't deny that he was a good parent. I think the same of myself. he left me even though I still loved him and not less and we have 2 children. I begged him and I was really ready to fight for his trust all my life. 1 year after the divorce I found out that he had a relationship for 2 years. when he came to ASK ME FOR FORGIVENESS he didn't even admit it. THERE ARE ALWAYS 2 SIDES OF THE MEDAL. and everyone has guilt.

   Hello, I am a woman married for 10 years, I have 2 children, it is not easy for me, my husband is one of those who, when he comes home, sits at the table and says dai. I take care of the children all day and in the evening I go to bed killed, I acknowledge your help in the household at home. But you know I think you're boring about why your wife preferred to date others. My advice is to look ahead and live a little. I think she wants to come back to you out of interest SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ,,,,, REMEMBER HIM FROM ME. sorry for those words of mine. With the next one I have a social life, I go out more together with friends, I long for that. be a little more open and wild. Good luck to me.

   Hello, unfortunately in life only after we lose someone, we realize how valuable he was to us. Or vice versa, and then we feel helpless that we cannot say the words that are the true expression of our feelings for that person. The feeling of guilt is also huge. The case of your wife and how parents are another proof to save the disappointment of their daughter and to blame you-husband; ingratitude is huge to your loved ones, in the end the big trouble makes us angry. And pain. And if you had children after all, nothing in life is absolutely positive and negative; Good luck, I didn't help, but at least I gave my thoughts to your confession - Success and luck.

   but just by reading everything and being filled with many. anger)

   Dude and I have a similar story. DON'T WORRY AND LIVE

   Number 30, don't quote Oscar Wilde, or if you do, at least do it right and finish your quote. Number 27, do you have a language and can you speak it? That makes us supposedly more sublime. We developed our speech not to talk about clothes, men and Gergana's new boyfriend, Rihanna, and I don't know who you are yet, but so that you can stand in front of your partner and tell him what your problem is and find a solution. Number 21, when you commit to someone, you automatically promise them monogamy. These are the rules, as you want someone to take care of you and support you, you accept and this became the coin. Otherwise, go to sleep with whomever you fall for, but be honest with these people before you do anything. It is simply and clearly said: Look what I want you for sex, not for a relationship, does it suit you? This sentence will not kill you, nor will it make you sick. And everything will be very easy for you. To the Author: I'm sorry about what happened to you, you probably have some guilt for what happened, but she has a mouth to say ... Anyway. I understand how you feel, you follow the same maxim as me: Closest to I am myself ... even the Romans said it ... and they are right. And yet ... hope dies last. I hope that after so much time you will be better and you have already learned to believe. honey

   Look, I don't know if you're to blame for the infidelity. The trick, however, is that when things (if) don't work out, it makes sense to get a divorce before the infidelity. Besides, you have no children. It is quite rude and disgusting on her part to lead him into you and ask you to do him a favor. What can I tell you and she probably doesn't know what she did and only now she realizes. Abstain from your mother-in-law's words - she is not part of the problem. But apparently your wife likes to share everything with her mother. Sweet. :) By the way, I really need a course for chefs! :)) Let's get back to the topic. What would I do in this situation? If I love her so much and if she loves being with me so much, I would just ask her if she agrees to continue together? Does she want me to introduce her to my current girlfriend, to whom we will change the status of a mistress? As for friends ... tell me, that they haven't punched you in the back yet, unlike her. Greetings! :) Ralph

   I have to tell you that after reading I understood, you are softer than your ex-wife. That's why it turned out that way, the person dominating the relationship does whatever he wants. Personally, if I was with you and my girlfriend, I repeat my girlfriend, cheated on me with a person I know. First I beat him like a dog, and then I hang her upside down through the window until he confesses everything. The fact that you considered yourself guilty confirms my thesis about your character. Forget her, the woman in question, you won't find a second like her, but you don't need her either. Be more careful with the next one. When I mean careful, take more than you give, or something like fifty / fifty. You're a good boy, you can handle it!

   It is unlikely that what I will write will be some insight or ubiquitous truth, but I want to share. There is a lot of talk about infidelity, looking for reasons and excuses, but when it happens, you realize that there is no explanation. I am an adulterous wife who in no way wants to leave her husband or, God forbid, let him know! I love him, I want to be with him, but unfortunately he doesn't pay enough attention to me in bed and I guess that's exactly the reason I pay attention to the other ... Because, I want to emphasize thickly, I wasn't looking for a vent or an adventure, just happened. We observe discretion and try to fully experience our moments and compensate for what we do not have at home. I'm not proud of what I'm going through, but I'm also conscientious, because my husband, no matter how much he fits the image of the author of the article, she doesn't realize when she ignores me and how dumb I am when it happens, and I'm a beautiful woman, they say. So I want to tell the author, to realize that somewhere, something has cracked in her eyes and she staggered. The most important thing in this case is that she wants to return to him and if there is a chance and the love is stronger, do not hesitate. It is very difficult to rebuild relationships and trust, etc.

   You are a big DUCK. You did well. :)

   I have fun when I read what is written by people who obviously have nothing to do with the brain ... number 6 and 7 every day, constantly, non-stop .... As for number 17, I hope he (I guess he's a man) lacks everything a woman he fell in love with and benefits from, neighbors, relatives , friends and why not relatives ... however, from the written comment it is clear that he is above these things and I will gladly accept to be trampled by his girlfriend or wife, like a New Year's turkey. Eeeee simple people .... As for the author ... friend, look for a decent girl who loves and respects you and beware of whores that they are very impudent. I was in a similar situation some time ago and I want to tell you that I immediately got rid of the "garbage"

   Very rightly, it is human to sin - it is divine to forgive 1111

   They cheated on me - I forgave, now we look after our children and we are fine,

   "Big eggs!" That was something unheard of! "Cheated." Haha!

   Hello, my wife cheated on me after 11 years of marriage, from our marriage we have a beautiful 9-year-old girl. As with you, my wife had a lot of freedom, but like you, I did not go to parties with her. Several times - he jokingly told me that if I don't go with her he will find a lover to go with her. I didn't pay attention and here it happened - 10 days ago he told me that he was leaving. She told me that she has had a lover for 4 months - her colleague, and he had a wife and a child, but he is not divorced. They have already moved out - they started to furnish it, TV, washing machine, etc. Now that I think about it, I'm not sure if it's 4 months or more. Number 35 is right, obviously you and I are softer than our wives. I asked her if her colleague had abandoned her family because of her - and she replied that it was not because of her but that you had other reasons, and she hadn't left me for him either. I'm also very desperate, I'm eager to compromise, but at the moment she seems very confident in what she's doing. My friends tell me that after the kata they will live together for a while and she will start to feel sorry for me and she will want to come back to me.

   You need to think about whether you really love this woman and want to be with her, rather than with a light hand and recklessly break up your family. As many people have said above, there is no one to blame for getting here. But from everything I've read, I think you're immature and unprepared for the really difficult things in life. When an infidelity can shake your psyche to such an extent that you break up your family, I wonder where you are, if your wife is hit by a car, gets in a wheelchair, or she or your child gets sick, God forbid, from some incurable disease etc. I don't see you anywhere? !! To me, you are a selfish, offended and immature kid. Be aware and rearrange your priorities.

   There are men who, after 13 years of marriage, find a mistress on the Internet and invent business trips and are there at any convenient moment. The peak of audacity is that when it is revealed, such harassment begins against his wife that it leads to divorce. There is a child in this marriage. And he publicly says that he is a man in need of sex and that's why he cheated. In general, everyone is guilty, only he is not because he is a man and he had needs. Will today's men be like that?

   To the author: Same job, just put another 5 years and two children aged 3 and 5 and 12 together. Everything is perfect: money, sex, friends, home, work .... at home I help, cooking, cleaning, repairs, attention, flowers, to touch and not to say ... for all friends we were the perfect family .. some will they say - it turns out to be perfect, who knows what kind of alcoholic he is and beats his wife ... there is no such thing and I will not explain ... and it happened ... my wife sank into an absolute ... I will not fall in level ... has nothing to do with me ... with a child, with a woman, unmarried, full, uncircumcised, bald, rude, ill-mannered, hot-tempered, impudent, brazen to the point of obscenity ... works as a gasman, pockets in his spare time ... but on There are no equals - of course he doesn't believe in himself, but when he finds an audience ... anyway ... The father-in-law shared that he also had such moments and told me: " It is! Accept it! It is! Accept it!

   To add - I am 44 The wife is 1.75 tall and weighs 50 kg. He doesn't have a big bust and a big ass. And the mistress has a big bust and a big ass. Where were you 13 years ago? Too bad for a nice child. I'm writing here because I know he's coming in and I hope he realizes it. Full complex.

   It's the same with me. I thought that if you invested completely, there was no way a woman could blame. I was stupid to believe it. Everyone is bloody and Napoleon was right. 10 years and Krishna. She actually did it from 2, but I finally found out from a third person. And no, there was no reason. Regular and good sex, good family, excellent income. Practically I paid for everything, I brought home 10-12 times more money than her, she worked for pleasure. He also had a unique freedom to go out where he wants and with whomever he wants, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I help when I return to the household ... And? Infidelity. Also with some complete oligophrenic, completely deranged type working for less money than her. As soon as I found out, we broke up. She went with the children to him and? Exactly 2 weeks :). He managed to endure the joke so much, more precisely for so long he was revealed, because to be a lover is one thing, but to be both a lover and a husband, and father, and bank account, and everything is quite a difficult task. In the third week she kept calling me that she loved me, that she was wrong, even the children started waving as a factor that I almost didn't have to live with her because of them. I can tell you that women are a bottomless commodity. There may be decent ones, but I don't feel like it anymore, I'm 35, I've spent my time so far in marriage and brutal work to make money and not miss anything for the family. Now I have become the person I basically never believed in being - I change my lovers, I choose about 20 years old and I live my life. I catch up and advise you to do the same. And the woman? He breaks down to call again and look for me. One piece of advice from me - take revenge by throwing them away !!! Get rid of them right away, there's just no way they can be happy without you ... colleagues. Why? Because with the children on their heads no lover will take them, or if he takes them like mine, he will run away like a fart in his pants, soon making it a blade in front of all his acquaintances and friends. That's exactly what I wanted, to make her laugh, now all her friends are literally making fun of her behind her back, she doesn't dare to show her nose outside, she has become an aunt.

   Infidelity is normal, 95% of both sexes do it, although they do not admit it, but this does not mean that they love a little more than before, just from time to time, a person needs something different ... Inevitably .. In most cases, this is quite good for a relationship, because it gives you the opportunity to clarify your feelings for your partner, and accordingly either intensify or disappear, but if they decrease, it is better to put an end to it, not to bother both

   agree with number 47, very realistically written, just as it happens in life, no forgiveness author, keep going and don't look back

   I support number 47. Although everything is perfect for them, women sooner or later cheat. In them, logic in action should not be sought. Everything is impulsive without thinking about the consequences. I liked the punishment of 47. I also apply it only that I have no children and no marriage. M 28g.

   I support 47 for his specific situation, but it is not true that all women were k ... you. There are all kinds of men and women. I hope he has not deprived his children of attention, love and resources in spite of everything. Good luck Laura

   13 years is enough