Hello, I want to share my story, which some people will probably think is abnormal, but I am writing precisely because of this need to share. I'm not necessarily looking for advice, let anyone who wants to comment on something do it. I will read everything, I just hope there is not much cynicism. I will be 22 years old in a month. I never had a boyfriend. I'm not tormented by the thought that I didn't have it, because I don't feel old yet. But sometimes I feel very lonely, the feeling is unpleasant - cool, scary, hopeless as if. I am a believer and I know that God will bring me together with the person who needs it. I'm just a little tormented that it hasn't happened yet. I was in love, but unshared. Three boys also tried to get closer to me, but I didn't feel the same attraction. And I made big mistakes with two because I lied. It happened while I was abroad. First one met me on the street, he was very stubborn. I agreed to go to the movies, then we met again with his friends. I enjoyed it and the boy could have a conversation, intelligent and funny. I agreed on a third meeting, in private. We were with them and it so happened that we went to bed together. "Forced" me to have oral sex. I say "forced" because I didn't want to do it, but I agreed. I have no excuse for myself and I can't blame him. He then told me that he was not looking for a girlfriend and just wanted to "have fun". And she was there with him. Unfortunately, I had obviously not broken my head enough, after a month and a half, another such specimen was found. I had doubts about him too, but I was inclined to do the same with him. Even he was much more unpleasant to me afterwards and I had a hard time with the "adventure". To this day, I am disgusted by what I do and I don't want to be wrong that way anymore. However, I still hope that my man will show up. I want to ... I would even get married, even though I'm still young. Thanks if you took the time to read!
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Romantic and sentimental sweetheart :). Before you succumb to "marriage" ... learn to say a resounding NO. There will be many more who will try to take advantage of your naivety. And look what kind of miserable people are like, first the whistle, and only then he told you that he wants to have fun. Here, in such a situation I would grin to my ears and say "great, without that the little one smells bad and I was wondering how to tell you that I don't want to repeat". Do not draw wrong conclusions, I am a happily married woman, but I have experience before him. And I would react like that now, knowing the male world better. Since you have no experience and you are an easy target, I will try to direct you a little. A man who from the first-second meeting starts to hint at you about sex - a JOKER! He is not interested in your essence as a person, as long as he is not interested in your essence, it means - or he just wants sex, or he is desperate and ready for any opportunity ... until he finds the one he will fall in love with, he will want to know more. Talk a lot, give topics and listen. The complex ones, those who just have no interests, or those who just don't care what you have over the "hole" pretend to be good listeners, don't talk, pretend to listen to you, and usually just wait for the moment to stop splashing and lifting your skirts. The man with self-confidence, interests, hobbies, goals in life and interest in YOU, will speak, share and give you all the opportunities to get to know him and wish not with the body itself, but with your heart and soul. This is the triumph of the man in love, to be wished with the whole being of the woman. Draw conclusions from the conversations - do you fit in as individuals, where do you diverge, whether something you can live with without having to make serious compromises with yourself. Also watch how he reacts to the things you say. The first impressions are always important, because once in love, we begin to see even the big defects as something "sweet", and then when this state of love passes and the curtain falls, if there is no trust, love ... I'm doing this with this one!! Go out with the boys, have fun, study them. Whenever something happens that you don't like, it damages your dignity or you just don't like it, raise your head and say a categorical NO! The first impressions are always important, because once in love, we begin to see even the big defects as something "sweet", and then when this state of love passes and the curtain falls, if there is no trust, love ... I'm doing this with this one!! Go out with the boys, have fun, study them. Whenever something happens that you don't like, it damages your dignity or you just don't like it, raise your head and say a categorical NO! The first impressions are always important, because once in love, we begin to see even the big defects as something "sweet", and then when this state of love passes and the curtain falls, if there is no trust, love ... I'm doing this with you ??! "So sympathetic, don't be in a hurry to get married, that someone who is stuck will stick to you quickly and you will" burn out "young and naive. Go out with the boys, have fun, study them. Whenever something happens that you don't like, it damages your dignity or you just don't like it, raise your head and say a categorical NO!
Of this type are the biggest devils - "smart and funny". How do you connect with them? Supposedly intelligent and beautiful girls, on the other hand ... You wait for them, at least a month or two, maybe more, and if they care about you, they will stay, and if they are just for the other reason, they will leave. It's simple, don't you have patience? If it was the first such topic, fine, but it is a ubiquitous phenomenon. Do you have any rules for the second meeting? Do you read from the same magazine? I can't put everyone under a common denominator - there are girls who want to experiment, others like to do it, others something else. But the normal and sober, who do not want to be thrown away like rags, I can not explain what provokes them. "I didn't want to, but I bowed" - who drives you? Do they force you to drive? I understand how he exhorted you, even if you pulled away - with kind words, tricks, tricks and things happen, but why? When they are stubborn, test them. Wait, if it doesn't last 1 month, it will go away on its own and you will have made a conclusion. "But handsome, intelligent, well-spoken, cute" - this does not mean that his intentions are not just to "fix" you. At discos, you can't find a serious partner in such places. They take off for one night, go for coffee and the next day the work is baked. She runs after him to look for him, he has none or he still has it. It's like taking a hammer to beat my fingers, expecting to be fine, but when I start hitting them, things take a different turn. For girls who experiment or don't confuse them with how much they were, I understand. But their conscience will not bite them, they will not write on such a site, except to irritate a moralist, but nothing more. You will not trust everything they tell you. You will pull, do not agree with everything - he wants a second meeting, tell him that you will think. Are you afraid of missing it? In that case, you take a fully realized risk equal to what I described with the hammer. If a boy likes you and has feelings for you, he will wait as long as necessary. You are afraid of missing someone and hurry in order to keep them, and the opposite happens. They lie to get what they want they lie. They tell you what you want to hear, and you rejoice and think of being the only ones. Older and lonely women, too, make the same mistake - hurrying so as not to get rid of the last train, fearing that loneliness comes after it. Are you afraid of making mistakes? Now, author, I will tell you a story that I watched recently on TV, quite real. A large crowd of people had set out to celebrate a saint in Russia. The focus of this march was a few people with their "little stories". All believers like you. One was a programmer, already old for a family (about 30, maybe, maybe more), he had never had a wife, alone and already like you wondering if the miracle would happen. There was also a girl on the march - with mistakes like you, the boys had taken advantage of her a lot in her village, they even raped her. At first they were given separately and by several men and women you do not assume that they are already a couple. Then they told how they found themselves. Exactly on a previous such worship. They met, talked, and she said that when he invited her to the tent, she was surprised because he didn't even mention anything about sex, no hint. Then they get married there in a Christian way and as it is his turn. Do you feel the difference as far as I was able to convey it? He who just wants to fix you doesn't care what he tells you. His goal is to get you into bed, maybe with thousands of lies - it's no coincidence that there are parables about the dog and the bitch. He will bring down stars, he may promise you water from Mars, but his eyes are colorful. He wants to try this one, that one. Just by opening your face and you'll see who shares ass and tits, even women share ... weird, so everyone. You will watch, you will be observant. There are also women who think that they can "tie" a womanizer, if only theirs. They put the hedgehog in their pants, then cry, are jealous and suffer. When there is a hole in front of you, you cannot close your eyes, imagining that it will not be there and pass calmly, expecting that you will pass. Do not hurry, this is the most important. Wait, study the behavior, make a sober judgment about the individual, do not rely only on beautiful faces, smiles, sweet stories and promises. Think. And no one and nothing can force you to do something against your will. Even if you are somewhere alone, if you feel that you are not ready or just that you should not do it, you leave and so on - "but, please, just a little, but I want to be with you, but it really made me very big impression compared to the other girls, please let me do it "if you do not let go, a jerk in the balls and you will have at least 5 minutes to leave in peace. and nothing can force you to do something against your will. Even if you are somewhere alone, if you feel that you are not ready or just that you should not do it, you leave and so on - "but, please, just a little, but I want to be with you, but it really made me very big impression compared to the other girls, please let me do it "if you do not let go, a jerk in the balls and you will have at least 5 minutes to leave in peace. and nothing can force you to do something against your will. Even if you are somewhere alone, if you feel that you are not ready or just that you should not do it, you leave and so on - "but, please, just a little, but I want to be with you, but it really made me very big impression compared to the other girls, please let me do it "if you do not let go, a jerk in the balls and you will have at least 5 minutes to leave in peace.
I am a boy. I am 22 years old and I will turn 23 next year. I have never had a girlfriend either. Really sometimes, I would even say quite often loneliness is felt quite, even too much at times and this is exactly my desire to share my time with a girl and spend time together. In the same way, I can say that I fell in love twice, but the love remained unshared. There was no response from the girls concerned and they said they did not feel anything for me. Since then, I still drive alone. Even without any shame, I declare that at the age of 22 I have never slept with a girl, you know, I'm a virgin. I just kissed and hugged a girl and it was once and for a short time, a week, it was something like a flirtation. So with my comment, I can reassure you somewhat that you are not alone, despite, that I comment on the masculine side of things and from a masculine point of view. But we have a lot of similarities and similarities, at least according to the writing about thinking about this particular problem with finding a boyfriend of the opposite sex: D I will follow your topic!
Well, don't wait for him, but look for new acquaintances and so you will meet the right one one day. You are not young for marriage, normal women at this age are married with children or will have a child anyway .. but with this marriage do not be in a hurry, you are not old and you must first meet the man and get to know him well enough to be sure you want to you spend your life with him just don't wait meet new people so you will find him faster anyway and you have to do something ready no one will come to your door to tell you i am chosen for you ..
I read your article, comments 5 and 6. The other comments are long. I have been in love since I was a child and they did not answer me, at this age 20-22 I experienced some of my biggest disappointments in life. They marked me for life, I lost my feelings and became a person I used to hate. If I go to explain, to study then I can write a book, I myself have devoted much of my time to thinking about the way people think. But I'm interested in how a technique I called Wolf Tactics will be perceived. The wolf not only wants to bite and get rid of the rest of the prey, he wants to enjoy the delicious prey as long as possible. Translation: From a relationship we do not want to limit ourselves to single meetings and nothing special, but we want a full relationship (as we want) as long as possible. How to: We need to clarify what exactly we want from a relationship, and the answer extends beyond being alone and being loved. The answer is what behavior we expect from the partner next to us. The wolf has an idea of exactly what he wants to eat and now it's time to find him. Translation: We know exactly what we want, it's time to find it. Where: In the flock of sheep. Translation: In a place with as many people as possible. The wolf must examine the herd and look for victims. Most individuals are particularly agile, they can't get caught. There are also dogs you will have to walk past them. Translation: We have found a place where many people gather (school, company, organizations with similar interests). Most people will not be interested in us and it is not worth trying with them, there are people who do not like us or want to hinder us, we will have to bypass them. The wolf has found weak individuals in the herd and must judge which is the weakest and judge whether it is the tastiest. Translation: Some people will show interest in us with them we have a chance, but we must choose which of them shows the greatest interest and whether he would show the expected behavior. The wolf must gradually approach his prey, letting the prey approach him. Translation: If we have identified a person and want to make him a partner, and he is interested in us - then we need to get closer to him. And to respond to his desire to get closer to us. Here we must have great intuition (knowledge of body language) and try. I mentioned how to choose our goals and create a chance to get something. That's not all and stopping here will probably not work. But I don't want a second chapter - the approach of the wolf to the victim. Translation: How to get closer to your partner.
You are a serious person. I'm glad there are still girls like you and they want serious things in life, not another goddamn thing. I would very much like to meet you, but there is no way. I wish you to be happy. :) Sunrise
And I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I lived together 5 months ago. Yes, there are moments when we quarrel, but I know that he is the man because he has proved his love to me many times. At the beginning, after we met (personally not on the Internet), he waited for 4 months for me to agree to go out, he didn't give up, but he didn't press me either. pressing and with all closeness. Let me just clarify that he is 12 years older than me and is a serious man who has been with other women before me. Subsequently, I asked him to introduce me to his family and friends. We finally talked about family and lived together (and only then did it come time for sex) for a year and a half waiting for me for that moment. So he is looking for a serious man who can take on responsibilities. Success!