A Modest Life?

   You are very lucky, but I fully understand you, I am 25 years old. woman, I earn from 2500 to 3000 per month, but like you I always come across men who want my money and expect me to pay everything! Before the last one, even I took him to a hotel, he would still give me money for the room, he would not be there for half a year, and he would take over 2300 a month! I'm tired and I'm sitting alone, I have one with whom we have great sex, but that's it! I want to say that there are those of both sexes who are just waiting for it. And I want a serious relationship and to cuddle my boyfriend every night, I don't like to travel at all and I don't feel like going anywhere. I'm a homemaker, but I'm not lucky and that's it.

   Your style of writing and words as home sounds like a much older person. It is as if you live in the past, in old perceptions and understandings of a small closed settlement. You are obviously a good person, but somehow you interfere with yourself. Relax a little, change your style. I think you'll find me a woman like you if you go on organized hikes in the mountains. It includes people with a profile similar to yours.

   Obviously you're a more serious person, it's not bad ... to be looking for a wife from the age of 20 ... quite a serious person. Look, there's nothing wrong with traveling! It's a good thing, and you're not too old at 30! We just think this life too much instead of living it! It seems to me that you are pressing the woman next to you. And no one likes to be pressured ... Things happen by themselves when the time comes

   Unfortunately, the media and the Western style made women feminists. From housewives and mothers they became everything but what they really should be. I can give you advice. This is a woman from another continent, if you want you can always try. I do not guarantee you 100 percent happiness or true love, but over time it can happen. 1 is probably a real mother who will want children from you ...

   1, if you only attract such, then the reason may be maaaaalko in you. And in real life I see that there are many like you who think that men do not get up, but they themselves do not see themselves from the side and have a high opinion of themselves. This is burdensome and a normal man does not want to be emotionally burdened with such a woman and as a result they catch a curtain, which does not sleep that his wife pays for the hotel and he clutches it and then the woman roars what the men were like, and the reason is entirely in her, but how can she admit to herself that she is too demanding, putting on her glasses, how perfect she is and how she deserves the greatest man. I know you from other topics, it is no accident that I wrote these things.

   Women wanted to see the world, to have a little variety in your relationships. I do not excuse anyone. I knew someone like you, almost from the door for the child already, for marriage. If I offered him a trip, for some variety, he wouldn't want to. And I said that there is time for children, because there really is. Two people meet, see each other in different situations. Nobody likes hasty things. And I want to travel, because then I don't know if I can. Not that when a person gets married and has children, he can't, but it becomes more complicated. This is not about super cheap destinations, but just to see something new, at least that's what I think. I don't justify the consumerist way of thinking, but you're obviously an introvert, and they weren't. You see something abnormal in the journey, while for them it is a breath of fresh air. In the end, it's up to the person-what they visit and see,

   To number 5. I don't think I'm "mega demanding" at all. I don't like men paying my bills, I've been supporting myself since I was 18 and I hate women looking for a man to look after them. Everyone I've been with are modest, normal men. But there is a limit! To pay I hotel I think is not right, we had to split the price. And I don't think I'm perfect at all, and I'm not looking for the "biggest" man, I'm looking for a serious one, not to cheat and to understand each other. And still work something, not be lazy.

   If it's not a fake, which I doubt because there is no girl to use words like go home or go crazy, I will ask the author if he has ever lived in a village and for how long? If he enjoys it there, I will recommend my village in the Balkan Mountains, as much as he wants empty houses and weedy yards and streets, with about 50 inhabitants with an average age of 70 years. There is no pub, no shop, no doctor, no church and no bus to go through. There is nowhere more modest. And a young, attractive, intelligent woman who wants to live as a poor pensioner, you found yourself, success in the search!

   Buy a home yourself and find a girlfriend who will want you to move in together. Another time, in the first few weeks, say you want a long and serious relationship. Be precise and clear. Women, at least those who are worthwhile, respect that. And this with "we are still young, there is time!" is a very nasty attempt to slip away. The girl wanted to "live", but not to commit. If he settles in with you, then in time everyone will know that he is with you, and if he decides to leave, he will have to move out, answer questions "but what happened" and so on. She just didn't care, because really, she didn't want anyone to be with you for a long time ... In which there is nothing wrong if everyone's intentions are clear from the very beginning. And no, you're not "wrong" that you want a quiet life. Unfortunately, most people are "crazy" and don't feel happy if they don't have the most expensive car, the latest smartphone and the biggest house in the biggest neighborhood. The other is that it doesn't matter if you're "home" when it comes to travel. I know couples who travel the world and are in Dubai in January, on vacation, and in the spring they go hiking in different parts of the United States. Their marriage did not stop them. Not to mention that they live together!

   7, so you have no real idea about yourself, because your comments exude something else. Or you shout, you are very accurate, but the reason is in almost all men. Even in these two comments you contradict yourself. But you better not realize that you don't deserve a normal man anyway. Because if you realize, you just saw how you felt and how to lie to someone decent who would burn.

   I didn't know if these girls were financially involved in the trips, or were they entirely dependent on you? And if they did, what's the problem? Why do you want to live modestly at all, if you can afford to live modestly? Set aside some amount for savings if you are afraid of the future and set aside an amount for entertainment. You know the story of the secret of happiness and a spoonful of oil. The truth is in the balance.

   Number 11, you made her a whole psychoprofile of 2 comments. Of your two, I can do it for you - you are omniscient, you know everything and you can, but in words. Women are to blame for everything, mostly because they reject you, and there is reason to reject you. Oh shit, safe from people like you!

   by the author: First I want to thank everyone. Especially at number 2, because he gave me advice and guidance on how I could possibly find a person with my views. 2. Thanks for the kind words! I started hiking and I plan to continue like this. 3. I wasn't necessarily looking for a woman, I just wanted someone with whom we could agree on life. My first relationship lasted three years, then I had several relationships under a year and finally one of almost four. 6. I'm not against travel. On the contrary - once a year for a week to go on vacation is even nice. Even if you go to a nice place on a Saturday or Sunday, be it a campsite or a hotel - wonderful. I just want it to be more modest - a picnic trip, a family hotel, the trip is not to an island, for which only the tickets cost us 3000 BGN and when we put a hotel and pocket money in the end I have to wonder how to invent this money and get stressed all year round. I know I make good money, but you still have bills. I want to take a more responsible approach to myself - to set aside some money in a situation where I get sick or something bad happens. 9. When I say "village", I do not mean a lost village without roads. There are many nice villages that are close to the city, with good infrastructure and easy access to places of entertainment such as cinema, theater, restaurants and what not. You do not need to live as a retiree but just in the cleaner air with a good view and yard. 10. For the home - I am currently doing so. I'm saving some money to start with, because with these connections my savings went to the movies that I was even in the red because of the last extravagant vacation. By spring, I should have enough money set aside for down payment and fees / taxes for the purchase. For a serious relationship - yes, I want a serious relationship, but children are not the most important thing. I could live without children. Rather, I want a quiet life and a person with whom I can share it. Finally, just to clarify. I do not imagine a hermit's life, but just a life in which I do not want to have a brand new car, the most modern phone and I am happy to go to sea in Bulgaria or Greece and not to Hawaii. Rather, I want a quiet life and a person with whom I can share it. Finally, just to clarify slightly. I do not imagine a hermit's life, but just a life in which I do not want to have a brand new car, the most modern phone and I am happy to go to sea in Bulgaria or Greece and not to Hawaii. Rather, I want a quiet life and a person with whom I can share it. Finally, just to clarify slightly. I do not imagine a hermit's life, but just a life in which I do not want to have a brand new car, the most modern phone and I am happy to go to sea in Bulgaria or Greece and not to Hawaii.

   In principle, so am I. I don't like to travel much, I'm more of a housewife and my family is a priority. But your story made me smell something wrong. I can't determine exactly what, but it seems to me that something else is happening. By the way, most of my boyfriends were big. For example, they kept paying me and even wanted me not to choose a slightly higher class of things. However, I did not go to spend their money at will, but I was pleased with this attitude. I felt cared for by a stable man, instead of being a burden that reluctantly counted pennies and gritted his teeth, most likely because they knew there would be sex in the evening. You obviously somehow manage to attract mainly lovers of life, or you turn them into such. Maybe you're indulging too much, maybe you're too easy to do things you don't really want to do, and you get on your head. If you want a certain way of life, just stick to it. So there is no way to keep women with other interests around you.

   Dude, the problem is with you. You set things up so that they look at you as a donor or an ATM. Every successful relationship, marriage, family is above all a partnership between two people with common goals and desires. It does not happen when one parasitizes on the other. At the next chick, first try not to say what salary you get at the beginning of the relationship. Second division of the expenses for going out, for vacations, you refrain from expensive gifts, let's say things max for 100-200 BGN and only on occasion. Third, when they ask you for something expensive - say a new expensive phone, you directly refuse. When it comes to a trip to an expensive destination, you ask if he will be able to pay for it. So, if a chick runs away because of these things, it's better to be in the beginning. Like you, I was quite wealthy when I was young, but I never showed it openly. My wife found out my exact financial and property status a few months before our wedding. Even now he is joking with me that a woman like the one you mentioned will not grow up with me. Keep in mind that in these relationships, things happen the way you teach your partner. Human nature is such that when you give someone greater opportunities than he could have on his own, he always begins to take advantage. Don't give up on that, but be careful how you put things in the relationship from the beginning. Success! always begins to benefit. Don't give up on that, but be careful how you put things in the relationship from the beginning. Success! always begins to benefit. Don't give up on that, but be careful how you put things in the relationship from the beginning. Success!

   I'm a man of 35 and I want to travel and live haha ​​so it's not just women as you can see. And they want live and bleat back and forth on other people's suckers. Catch up with the woman from comment 1 with your money where you earn you will build a castle with servants and you will be happy. Come on health (:

   You have nothing, author, and I prefer a quiet life. Now most of them will start salting your usual "you are young, you live once". Usually these are people who will not make a living even at 60, because they always lack something. Not that travel is a bad thing, but anything in moderation. If a person is not happy with himself, all hotels and beaches will not satisfy him. Unfortunately, the consumer reality has taken over a large part of the world, and in our country people take the example of American society, which is the worst in this regard. There, concepts such as love and loyalty are despised, at the expense of money, thrills and experiences.

   Many people of both sexes do not realize that the goal of cohabitation is first of all partnership, then come marriage and children. I don't see anything wrong with traveling and I don't think 1-2 years of relationship is enough to get to know a person and have children. I constantly see such couples who separate and the woman stretches the whole burden of raising the child. We know perfectly well what the costs awarded by the court are and how much it really costs to raise a child. From your comment it is clear to me that you are not just modest, you are tight. A woman can easily judge these things. The problem was not the lack of travel, but what a woman assesses and how she designs her future. If she thinks that after giving birth to a child and being unable to support herself for a period of 2-3 years and seeing your character, she can immediately judge, that you will put a large part of the necessary expenses in the column "unnecessary". I will give you an elementary example. We women sometimes need to buy lipstick, for example. It will not be necessary for you, but for a woman, in order to feel good and have normal self-confidence, it is necessary. Good lipsticks are not BGN 5. But you will tell her, for example: I will not give BGN 20/30/40 for lipstick, because there is BGN 5. Or why did she like a bag for BGN 100 when there is a bag for BGN 20? BGN from the market / battle. This is what your behavior looks like from the side. In order to start a family, a woman seeks security - whether from her husband or whether she will have one. However, a woman with already established security in the form of an irreplaceable qualification / savings / business will still want to travel and have fun, and she will get tired of your behavior. She may not want to receive material support from you, but she will want you to travel and share the costs, for example. You live in your box, you think your way, but people are different and the chance to come across someone who is willing to tolerate the so-called. your modesty is very minimal. Even if you take a woman from another continent, as they advise above, she will quickly realize that there are better options and lifestyles.

   So many sentences, so many twists ... Couldn't you just write to us: "no one wants to give birth to a baby".

   I absolutely agree with number 9, there is no way a young girl wants to lead a quiet life, the mistake is in you.

   My story is 99% the same.

   A young girl of 20 years. of course he will want to travel. If I don't travel I will die, it makes me happy and that's why I live, it's even better to be with my loved one. Naturally, I pay for my trips myself, no one has ever taken me on vacation. I'm used to supporting myself and paying for everything myself. I want a family as long as the man is serious, but if he doesn't like to travel he won't last. There is nothing wrong with a person traveling, everyone likes the beautiful, that's why we work to enjoy this money, what is it for us, if we just squeeze and miserable. I don't see what you want, even poor girls are looking for the good

   That's right, author! And I love to travel, but by train and to be with us, not somewhere thousands of kilometers away, but to turn to number 2 - I watched "Bai Ganyo" once again, I understood the behavior of the protagonist - that's it, to hit the kelepira! And you had a meeting with Bai Ganyo, who earns 2-3 vouchers a month, but is cramped for one room, because he is not uncomfortable, and this is not whether the girl has money or not and whether she can pay, no is this, not for the money! The man has to take everything, because this is done out of chivalry, out of attention to the girl, and not on the principle "she will pay, and I'm Bai Ganyo, I'll last" that's what I'm talking about! If I were with these Bai Ganyovtsi, I would not want anything from you, I would take everything, not wait for you, because I know that it is neither right nor normal for a man to do so! But the problem is there,

   Love is hard to find nowadays, especially if you are a tight and handsome man with opportunities. Almost all girls want to be like our influencers, to go to cool places, to wear expensive clothes, to ride in expensive cars and so on. Do not give up. I found my love after a bunch of infidelities, lies and empty promises. And yours is somewhere out there

   Author, focus on more modest-looking girls then. You can't have a beauty with a salary of BGN 3,000.

   Again from the author: Apparently with my story I have created a wrong idea of ​​what I want - I'm not looking for a wife to give birth to my children, to get lost in the countryside and not move from there. I am looking for a partner with whom to build something together. I want to have my own home where I don't have to drive a nail and hang a picture. I want to plan my finances with someone and make responsible decisions and not constantly wonder how to tie the situation. Mostly I'm looking for someone who would be happy even if we don't travel the world all the time but enjoy the little things - to cook good food, go to the movies, theater, go out with friends and play bowling or something like that. sort. This is not a situation where I want to stop taking breaks and look dumb and waste money - I just want someone, who would be happy with his life even if we failed to go on a big vacation this year and would think "we may be on holiday in Ahtopol and not in the south of France, but I feel good because we are together and having a good time" and this is the most important. * * * Aren't there other good things you can do with your money? Can't invest money in the local library? Make a reading club with meetings and invest in attracting people? To organize or create something? Why should everything be consuming the things you already have? * * * To number 20. I think there is a big misunderstanding here. For me, there is a big difference between "responsible and modest living" and "wasting". I will give an example: Responsible and modest life: You are a woman who wants to buy lipstick, you want a specific color and you don't have it - you see that quality lipsticks cost BGN 50 and there are also those for BGN 5. You decide that it is most reasonable to buy quality lipstick, because firstly it will serve you better and secondly there is no chance that it will make you dumb allergy. You buy the lipstick from BGN 50 and solve your problem - you already have lipstick. You can have ten lipsticks already, but they are different. After all, you are a human being - you want to have a choice - it is normal. Also, all ten lipsticks are of good quality and you can use them whenever you want. Waste: You are a woman who enters a store. You see lipstick that you like right now. I think you already have a few, but you're not sure. You will buy ten. One of the different ones, you will try them once and push them somewhere. It doesn't matter if they cost five leva or fifty - it's a waste. Example 2: Responsible and modest life: You want a bag. You have two formal bags, but you don't have a sports one. You see a bag of BGN 20 and a bag of BGN 200. The one of two hundred levs is expensive, but it is strong and beautiful. Good workmanship. You will take care of it and you can use it for years. Maybe when you raise money you will buy another high quality one - so that you have a choice. You will take good care of both and you will have a choice every time. Waste: You want a sports bag. You seem to have one, but you don't know where it is. And there is something spilled in it that is disgusting and has long since dried up. Better to buy a new one. But BGN 200 for a bag is a lot. You will buy this one from BGN 50. You will even buy two. You'll fuck them in no time or when you get home you'll decide you don't like them anymore. You will go to buy two more. You will soon need a new * * * About travel - I will have to give an example to make it clear what I mean: After 3 years of relationship with my last friend and a lot of talk that we want to save money and buy a house, a new year came and we talked about the holiday this year. We are intrigued by the idea of ​​Italy. We found a nice hotel, we planned to spend a week, I had money ready. My friend told me she would pay for the plane tickets, I would cover the rest. This was planned for July in December. A little later, our friends told us that they would go to Dubrovnik in May for two weeks and look for company. She said she was interested and wanted us to go. I agreed - Dubrovnik is a nice place, and Italy we can do it next year. We went to Dubrovnik and it was very nice. It was beautiful. I was planning to go to our Black Sea coast for a week and maybe a few small weekends at a nice hotel. Except that fate had other plans - after we returned I felt bad, we had to go to Pirogov in the middle of the night and it turned out that I needed surgery. I had to pay for this operation and it cost me BGN 1,800. I also had to be hospitalized for almost a month, and as you know, you only get part of your money late. Even during my recovery, she asked me "how are we going to plan Italy?". I told her that with the costs we have at the moment, the trip to Italy will be very difficult. She agreed, but became very sad and began to cry. Not in front of me, but I could see her mood getting very bad and I often caught her crying. We talked about it and she said that she is very sad about the trip, but she will survive it. I decided that I was in hospital anyway - I could take a private order during that time and I did so - I raised money for this trip and after the end of my movements we went straight. We spent more money than planned, but I said to myself "fuck, when we get home we'll calm down a bit and things will get better". Except it didn't turn out as I expected. We went home and she dropped her phone and it broke. We had bought her a new phone a few months earlier, and I talked to her - I asked her if we could buy something in the middle class instead of the high class because we were financially bad - she said she needed a new phone to work (and she did rights) so we went and bought her the best possible device. Now it was time to calm down, because I was already BGN 3,000 back on my credit cards and there was simply no way. A few days later, her sister, who lives abroad called and said that she would come to Bulgaria and wanted to make a trip to Thessaloniki and get together, spend some time there and have fun. Her sister is a wonderful person and I am very happy for her, but the moment was very bad. She told me that she wanted to pay for the whole trip with her own money and was very keen to come. After all the travel and illness, I already had problems at work. I was seriously behind schedule and it would have been wise to stay, but she managed to convince me to come. I agreed. "We are young, now we live" and the work will fix it somehow - late at night, Saturday and Sunday and so on. Her sister arrived a few days later, we picked her up from the airport and headed for Thessaloniki. When we arrived, it turned out that my friend had forgotten her debit card and all the money. I covered the holiday with my salary and went even deeper into a loan. That same August, when we got home, a conversation started about a New Year's holiday in a warm country, and I said that could not happen. I didn't mind going out with friends, seeing family, or even spending money to go to Germany with her sister, but I just can't afford to travel outside of Europe. Until then, I should be back to zero and we plan to raise money for a possible apartment / house. Then she admitted to me that she began to dissuade herself that she wanted to invest money in housing and wanted to travel more. "Housing means you've stopped and you can't change your country if you decide and I want to travel and nothing stops me." For my part, I shared that I need security and unfortunately we parted ways.

   A quiet life and family life in many cases are not the same thing at all.

   Author, from your last comment it is clear that you cannot set boundaries. No wonder they get on your head. As long as you are like that, you will always attract users.

   A humble life is something quite different from what you describe you want, author. You offered a fairly satisfactory standard of living, but the two girlfriends you "had the honor" of letting you unwind were not a commodity, as you describe. That is why it is not wonderful to be so kind and polite, not everyone is able not to see weakness in this, except that in this way you obviously manage to let some women make you a monkey, which you in turn idealize and in no way do you have a real idea of ​​them. If a woman sees that she leads you by the nose without a problem, it is natural to think that every woman can do it, that is, that you do not have a built character.