Good day or evening! I'm a girl in 7th grade. One girl and I were inseparable, but then we parted ways, up and down when I was in 6th grade and she was in 5th grade. She actually found other friends who were like her, and she was so happy, so I backed away, knowing I wouldn't to feel the same way with me because we were too different. Some time later I became friends with a girl we had been with since 1st grade - let's call her Sabina. One day she was not feeling well and I decided to share my chocolate with her. She was very happy and asked why I was sharing it with her. I told her that I had broken up with Julia (let's say that's what my previous best friend was called) and that I wanted to be best friends with her and get to know her better. Sabina was embarrassed, and I asked if I was her best friend. She said anxiously that she already had one. I told her that I think we can have two. She agreed. From January onwards, she began to behave strangely. Our biology teacher teaches us the lesson in 2 minutes, gives us the homework, which I think only I do, and then my classmates inflate the chalga and shout. I solve my tasks, and in the background Sabina tells some nonsense to the gentleman that she was married, asks him if he has Instagram and Facebook, he does not want to say, and she convinces him ... Some days we do not talk at all.
When he sees Julia and her new best friend, he immediately hugs them and laughs. I never go out with friends (They don't give it to me before, I was annoyed, but I learned not to be interested in it). Sabina and I used to be inseparable, but only at school, because I already said, they don't let me go out. We spent FVS classes together, the gentleman rarely makes us play sports because he knows that the year is important to us, we get tired and study a lot, some wander around the school, others eat, others tick on the phone. And we both walked around the yard, talking and laughing. She shared her secrets with me and said: - I only tell you, because I know that you are a true friend and would not tell anyone! I was flattered and kept her secrets to one another. I was always by her side. She is very smart, but she allowed 2-3 couples because some subjects - such as geography and literature, are not given to her and she is stressed because she studies a lot for the math exam. When she was given the bad grade, I went to her, I didn't cover up the situation, I was honest, but I encouraged her. Those with whom he embraces and walks around now, of course, did not come.
One day she was complaining to me about a classmate with whom they had been on highs and lows for 7 years, and I was listening to her. He told me: - She is just gossiping, just like her mother! How can I not have any good and real girlfriends! Neither one! I wanted to say, “What about me? But my words went down my throat. It didn't make sense, she thought so, so the picture was clear to her. I don't know if her company made her like that, or if it's because we're different. I have always been melancholy, I am closed, immersed, I like to read. And she was always impulsive, brave, didn't think long, and wasn't offensive, a typical extrovert. One day she asked us to change, because apparently in my rank there were pistols for the control (I didn't know at all, I never use pistols, I have no idea who wrote them - maybe the boy next to me). He assured me that the teacher would not notice, he said to think. And I decided to do the right thing. I told her, "Look, I can't do this." It is not fair. I know you can do without guns. Sabina looked at me coldly and did not speak to me. Shortly afterwards, the class started and we were given the sheets. I felt very uncomfortable, I felt betrayed and used, I couldn't think of anything else and I seemed to be out of control, but I'm an excellent student. But no matter, the next day she acted like nothing was happening, just said angrily that there would probably be a couple. Not only once did the following happen: Sabina and her friend leave, I leave with them, they are silent, Sabina asks me to leave them as soon as I walk away, they start laughing and talking. One time she said she liked someone, asked me to leave, and started discussing with her friend. Well, in seventh grade she doesn't like me very much, but I would be happy for her anyway ... But obviously she doesn't trust me anymore. I know that neither I nor she is to blame, I am not angry with her and I am not angry. He hardly spoke to me anymore, he said to a girl: - Hey, you and I started to pass each other without hugging! - and started laughing and went with the girl. I'm terribly sad, we were inseparable, she started behaving strangely, she passed me without looking at me, she was completely different. Once or twice we exchanged one phrase: - Was she in the new mall? - No. "Don't you go to the malls?" !? !!
Of course I go (with mom), but that's not the point. I feel terribly lonely! I love her very much and I want to get her back. If it is not written, let it not happen, but I want to know at least what happened so that I know how to act and how not to act in the future. It is very important to me, please post! THANK YOU WITH ALL MY HEART FOR READING MY TERRIBLY LONG HISTORY! It probably looks like a soap opera, but I need some advice. IN 2 MONTHS I WILL NOT SEE MORE! I will enter a language school, and she does not want to study languages at all, she does not know what and where to study, but she can go to an economic college, she said. Please help me!
1 adamtots answered
Her right path. These are the kind of friends they take for granted. If you are not her "real" friend, then she was not de facto close to you. You will meet other ones. Don't take it personally, people are just pathetic. This is the case in high school, at university, at work, etc. The unpleasant part of growing up is not the responsibility, but the knowledge of human nature. The good news is that you can always find friends. Develop your personality, lay the foundations of your own future. Only when you build yourself into the person you want to be, only then can you be sure if the people around you are or can be friends.