I don't know if frustration is the right term, but here's the behavior of this 65-year-old man: - despite his advanced age and not very clear mind, he still wants to be the head of the household and decide who does what. - Thank God, there are no special physical problems, the problem is mainly psychological. only his nervousness and irritability lead to sweating, tinnitus and other similar phenomena. - spends his day in his highly intellectual activities, which he never manages to finish, however, it is unknown where he has the confidence that he is a very capable and valuable person - at the same time he relies on the daily care of his relatives with whom he lives, his relatives almost like slaves who serve him. instead of being grateful to be cared for and tolerated, he is constantly capricious about the quality of service. - very capricious and irritable, if he wants something from someone, it must happen in an instant and these are all things that for an ordinary person would not be urgent at all, not to mention that usually people do these things themselves. He is able to make them himself, but as if he is below his dignity, someone has to rush to be calm. And yet, there is a much more important highly intellectual job to do that none of his simple relatives could have done (unless it became clear that his long-term work had not reached anywhere yet). It's about, for example, bringing him something that he left somewhere and POSSIBLY knows where it is. So instead of just getting up and taking it from where he left it, he starts to explain quite incoherently where this thing is, respectively, his relative, according to the bad description, tries to find the thing and bring it to him, often the thing is not in the specified place at all and so a person with a problem plays someone close to him and loses his time and nerves for such nonsense. - at the same time, if one of his relatives needs, which he is able to provide, for him this is not a priority, possibly after the 10th request he can move on the issue - he suffers from various delusions, in the sense of not some schizophrenic, just simple things in life. however, he gets annoyed if someone tries to enlighten him on an issue. for example, for him, his relatives (who take care of him around the clock) are almost his enemies, and the saleswoman in the store, who smiles greasy at him, considers him his first friend - it never occurs to him that she smiles at him because she wants to. he bargains with her. do you remember that in such a round-the-clock harassment it is a little difficult for a person to smile at him - he does not ask himself why everyone avoids him and the only ones who tolerate him are his relatives and the shop assistant - he speaks incoherently, sometimes it is difficult to understand what he wants say, irritate your loved ones that they do not understand it. the strangers he talks to are just looking to get rid of him. - Unfortunately for his relatives, his words mean nothing ... you can't count on him for almost anything, but otherwise he likes to promise various things and takes offense if they don't take him seriously. as a generator of meaningless or empty talk is - when a problem arises, despite the goodwill of the people he lives with, there is a big problem to clarify who is to blame. usually his relatives just want the problem solved, while he wants to clarify who is to blame, although usually it is himself. - it is difficult to have a conversation with him, if you tell him / him to ask / ask about something, something elementary from everyday life, instead of answering briefly and clearly, he uses this as an occasion to "read" long lectures, which often do not have much in common. is to show how smart he is and how many things he knows - as if his senses for the perception of environmental information and processing are stunted, and to disguise this "reads" these lectures, if one tries to interrupt and return his thought he starts to get annoyed with what he is talking about, he doesn't like to listen to others talk, he wants to talk to other things and gets offended if they don't listen to him - he makes whites and neglects them - if someone close to him notices ,, that he is going to make trouble and try to stop him, no matter how softly he approaches, he reacts violently and is extremely offended - it is obvious that his relatives love him and can not just charge him and therefore tolerate all this. I don't care if there is a useful move on the part of this man's relatives so that they can improve the quality of life for themselves and for himself. Is there a suitable psychological approach to such people so that one can understand them.
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There is no way, the relatives just have to reconcile and stop fighting. Either to accept it as it is, or to move as far away as possible, to find their own intellectual occupation that is more important to them. You can ask yourself this question: Can you stop the wind? The answer is either you last it or you build a barrier for a covenant. The change in a person's behavior lasts for many years. The person you mention the author is 65 years old, the probability of experiencing some kind of visible improvement is so minimal that it is not worth the fight. Personally, I was in the position of a distant relative and the way they found in the relatives together with the psychiatrist they consulted was pulverized benzodiazepines and other psychotronic drugs in the food. The grandfather slept 18 hours a day in his room it is said.