I'm sorry, bro, but since feminism entered people's social lives, things on the love front have collapsed for everyone, and now the mass of people are unhappy one way or another. You just have to get used to it, or you've got to set yourself the goal of making more money and buying "love" one way or another.
Familiar... I don't know. For the first time, men should advise you, but knowing that most women have endless claims and bad behavior, and being a virgin won't be your only disappointment. Love is rare, most relationships are based on sympathy, sexual attraction or only one is in love with the other. Watch MGTOW videos, they'll open your eyes to a lot of things.
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You create a romantic idea of women, based probably on a mother's image or some other idealized female image. Your desire to be understood and kissed is the little boy's desire to be hugged and kissed by mom. Your desire to be loved is your desire to be loved by mom.
So, first of all, you have to understand that women aren't your mom. Women want you to want them - sexually, emotionally, intellectually, every day! But the basis is sexuality. Women enjoy it when men want them, especially if they want a groomed well-looking man. It's biology, it's innate in us. Our brains work like this. You have to want a woman on a sexual level, and then there will be kisses and walks in the sea.
Start exercising or going to the gym if you don't work out anymore. It'il boost your testosterone and help you feel better. Take cool photos and take advantage of the modern culture, namely - online dating. Read about pick-up a little (not everything there is valid, but there are useful things).
If that doesn't help you in a few months, it's time to pay for a prostitute. The desperate situation requires desperate measures. You may have to go to a few different prostitutes to like someone more and feel pleasure from sex, to feel how your male energy is activated in penetration.
Otherwise, number one is right that all these modern problems inherent in the last 1-2 generations are the product of feminism, but he is wrong to blame only him. The main culprit is also online communication. People now have access to a huge number of potential partners online. Our brains have evolved millions of years during which a person could not see more than 100-200 people in their lifetime. Now just by going to work, you're going to see more people on the streets, not to talk about people online at all. There's a saturation of the sensor, our dopamine system is lying. There are centers in our brains that don't really recognize anything from imaging. You can watch or imagine an erotic scene and you'll trigger the mechanism of sexual arousal, although there may be absolutely no preconditions for sex around here. These are just different layers of the cerebral cortex. Online dating deceives us that there are nicer, more attractive partners out there for us, so now we may not indulge in serious demand, we can stand alone and the partners will come to us, we may get some frivolous relationship to satisfy the nagon and so on.
I personally can only welcome you to the club and reassure you that the pain of knocking 25 is going through. I've been digging into this a lot because she's obviously sick to me, and what I've found out is that no one's going to give you meaningful advice, and absolutely no one will understand you. You'il listen to the likes of "Be confident," "Go to the gym," "Do your hair" and my favorite - "Just be yourself." But in general, those who have bitten off the persimmon have no idea what it's like for anyone of the opposite sex not to like you, because you're just unattractive.
I also support comment 1, although I still can't stop myself from going to a beggar, I think that's the only way for people like us.
And forget about that nonsense that there's someone for everyone- a lot of men die like that without having a wife in their lives.
Think about what you could change in yourself so they can start to like you. Then take your first step. Meet girls and more people along the way you will find more acquaintances and friends.
Success! G17
I'm a girl/woman at 22, and just like you, I didn't have a first kiss, no intimacy, but for sex, let's not talk. I put myself in this situation. I want a normal young man to take me down with a sense of humor, upbringing and intelligence, not some pumped-up handsome guy with a lot of money and a little brains. It's the easiest thing to go to bed with someone, and it's extremely difficult to have an intimacy that, in your last three sentences, I understand is what you want. I totally understand you, and I know how there are times when you're happy with your choices and times when you feel like you can't take it anymore. It also definitely affects self-esteem. You know how much you can go on like this, but I think you'd better wait. It's banal, but there are passengers for every train. Maybe in years to come you'il meet the girl for you, and it could be next week. Don't despair. :)
Well, what I can advise you to do is reflect on the reasons that you think somehow led to this situation. Maybe you're too shy, you're ashamed to talk to women. Or maybe your way of communicating with girls isn't right. Pay attention to your appearance. So when you look in the mirror, do you like yourself? If the answer is no, change what you don't like. Something simple and banal as a change of hairstyle can mean a big difference. Do you play sports? If you're not playing sports, it's about time you started. You don't have to soak up five hours in the gym and pump muscles, there are all sorts of sports, choose something to like. Thus, in appearance you will be more attractive, and you will increase your self-esteem (and this has a positive effect in communication). And the most important thing is that you are interested in girls. Don't wait for someone to come and tell you how much they like you, because it's too possible that this never happens. There are a lot of girls who think a man is the one who should be interested, and even if they like you, they won't tell you if you don't take your first step. Conclusion: start looking, don't wait. Make a profile on several dating sites. I have two friends who until very recently were virgins (in different circumstances). One's 25, the other 28. Well, they're not virgins anymore. So relax, you're not the only one.
You are obviously a romantic soul but in real life romance does not, and what you dream of being loved, understood, noticed kissing it is only in love novels and romantic films, and in real life this does not exist and the relationship between male women is based not in the name of mutual love and mutual attraction, but in the name of interest and mutual benefit. And romantics like you are an vanishing species, and you have to come to terms with the fact that you'il never have a relationship based on a romantic basis.
Hi, I'm a 24-year-old girl. and I'm in the same situation as you. As less, I thought there was time and that my boy would show up soon.
I graduated from high school and told myself that most likely some intelligent and good boy would show up at universities, but it never happened.
Then I started and work, and time quite quickly began to fly. At work, I met cool guys, but they would come by and go, there was just a fling. I also had a colleague who liked me very much as a character, had a great sense of humour and was constantly joking with me, but the bad news is that he was bound. And so it's been another three years. Then I graduated and found a better job that I really like, but there my colleagues are constantly thinking about how to introduce me to some guys, which is not bad, but at some point I start to feel very bad. When someone's younger comes along, there's a few hints about how I should take it off and how something could work out.
I know exactly what it's like for everyone around you to talk about their girlfriends, and you just sit there and listen to them, not knowing what to say. It's just that at this age it's really time I'm seriously involved, but I feel like it's never going to happen. My siblings are already getting married and they have families, and I still can't meet the right person.
I don't usually have much of a requirement. I just want the guy next to me to be good, smart and be a gentleman.
For myself, I can't say I'm not ugly, they even happen to be whistling in the streets and looking at me. I'm fuller, but not fat. I have girlfriends who are more chubby than me, and they're even married now. Besides, I think if I have a boy by my side, I'il be able to lose a little weight.
I know it's nice to go out more, but I don't have much time, and I don't have a lot of girlfriends.
It makes me feel worse when my relatives start asking me what's waiting for me and that it's about time. I just know they're already expecting some things from me, and I'm letting them down.
The only good thing is that at least all this time has passed for me to learn and find the job I like, and it hasn't gone in vain.
So I wish you good luck finding your girl, and I believe it will come sooner or later.
Author, you're really looking for sexual intercourse. At least boast, you say. Well, that's a prostitute, too. I've had a prostitute like me and spend two hours of fun, but there. You don't need women like that. There won't be any intimacy. There's a difference between sex and intimacy. In my life, my more successful relationships have always been after we had sex with the girl on the first or second day of my acquaintance.
From my current point of view, it's a waste of time, nerves and life, but I have memories.
So for you, you have to be bold, but calm, drooling and, most importantly, enjoy it and it's all about itself. If you want watch pick up videos are useful. The important thing is that you're young :)
I can advise you to start working in a hotel on the sea, maybe ours, maybe abroad, for example Greece.
I was four seasons on our Black Sea coast. So if I'm not very good-looking, or you know who knows what language I've had hits from almost all of Europe, so can you. You relax and don't care. There at least the girls and women went to have fun and leave it there, they went to their homelands with a clear conscience. What happened to the Suns remains in the Suns:) But these sly and short-lived relationships have given me self-esteem with women, and I've made sense that they need a more meaningful relationship. Think about it, good luck
I'm a woman, not very young, married and with children. I think it's high time you grew up and took your life into your hands. And that doesn't happen by waiting for great love, dreams and dissatisfaction with fate. As the others tell you, you changed your styling, but also your thinking. Women do not like weak and insecure men, as well as not knowing what and how to do in bed. And every relationship gets there. If you do it the first time with a girl with no experience like you, you'il both be disappointed, and your problem will deepen. Find a prostitute, and the first time you did it with her, tell her it's your first time. And in sex, things happen with experience and they learn all the time. Relax, maybe have a drink and do it. Watch, if you don't, the setup is important. Further, the appetite comes with eating, as they say. Success!
Don't worry, I was like this for 25 years and I was worried about ever meeting love, but here's the best sweet, romantic boy. He loves me very much and we're very happy. I've been liked by my wife, I'm tall, thin and with a beautiful face, good at heart, smart and stubborn, I've never relied on anyone chicico to pay my bills. He's a humble boy, but he's very kind of sincere, i guess a lot of girls would push him away because he's inexperienced with women, but for me it's huge - because he's been looking for love like me.
If you think these things are learned in numbers, it won't tie you any. You fall in and want a girl, she senses it, and things get simple and on the move. A concept like experience in sex is an assertion of ignorant people.
Don't worry, at 30, you're not going to notice, i'm saying it.
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