Passiveness can sometimes be a useful strategy and a healthy coping mechanism.
But it can become a habit. When passivity begins to prevail in your reactions and determine your approach to life, it can become dangerous.
The problem is that we often do not realize how passive we have become and how evident our passivity for others.
The list below will show you you have got passive tendencies and habits and whether or not you should try to change them.
How passive people look at the world:
1. Leave your future in the hands of "fate"
"Relationships should not require too much effort; If we're one for each other, things will work out. "Sometimes things worked out by themselves, but it's much more likely to happen when everyone in the couple plays an active role in building a stable relationship.
2. Believe that "things just happen"
"Why do bad things always happen to me?" The reality is that both bad and good things happen to everyone. You can sit and wait for good things to happen to you, or you can be proactive and make it happen.
3rd confuse the failure with fate
"I guess I wasn't meant to be (fill in the empty space)." Failure is part of the road to anyone, not the last stop. Avoid this thinking by remembering the good old Trinity-"patience, perseverance and perseverance".
4. Believe that "luck" is an important factor in the success
"Luck wasn't on my side." Luck, as you define it, is not in your control, but the preparation, planning, etc. are. Concentrate on these variables.
How passive people communicate
5. Their language is hesitant and uncertain
"M-Yes, it is possible, basically, in some sense, to be something like that." If you are caught in such sentences, try to speak more directly. Speech patterns are just a habit – and they lend themselves to change.
6. Seek approval too much
"If you don't mind, I would suggest..." If everyone else at the meeting just throws their suggestions and opinions, asking for permission to offer their own makes you look "less than".
7th belittle their own opinions
"I may be wrong – I'm not an expert – but maybe..." When you start the sentence with the assumption that you may not be right, it makes people less prone to lock that you are right. It's literally difficult for them to accept what was said.
8th Hard to take position
"Hmm... Both opinions are justified... " You may be trying to minimize a potential conflict by not getting behind any of the suggested opinions, but it makes you look undecided, hesitant, and even cowardly. If you have an opinion, express it.
How passive people give in to others
9. Place the needs of the other in the first place
"I'd order dessert, but if you want to pay and go, no problem." With this pattern of behavior, you convey the message that the needs of the other are more important than your own, which is probably not the type of dynamics you want to create. If you want dessert, say you want dessert.
10. They say yes when they would like to say no
"I have to get up early tomorrow, but yes, no problem, I'll give you a ride home." You're worried that the other person will be offended or upset if you say no, but it all depends on how you say it. You can be honest and apologize, but still, emphasize your own needs and their importance.