When You Have The Perfect Partner, But You Don't Have The Heart To Appreciate It.

The Story

Hi! You're a 22-year-old woman. My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. He's 26 years old. I am a third-course student and study in one of the major cities in Bulgaria. The first and second year, I was in a dorm. I've been traveling every few weeks. I want to admit that I didn't miss him when I wasn't in my hometown. And it's happened that we haven't seen you in over three or four weeks. I'm sad that I'm writing this topic. Last year, he decided to move in with me and get a job so we could be together. I didn't mind because I wanted to live together for a while. Let's see if we can match, because it's one thing to go with someone, it's another thing to live together, right? We found a place, we moved in, everything right. We fit perfectly. He helps me a lot with household chores. He washes dishes, clean, sometimes he cooks when I don't have the chance. He doesn't drink alcohol, he doesn't smoke. He always listens to me and never raises my voice. In short, the perfect man! So far, all right, but my hesitations are coming. I don't want it sexually anymore. I wonder if I'm asexual. To be honest, I fell for a boy two years ago, but I didn't dare do anything. I even wanted it sexually, while with my friend I could not experience such a feeling - excitement. Otherwise, I enjoy it with him, we talk about all kinds of topics, etc., but I have no desire for sex. When I graduated from high school, I thought I'd put an end to it, but I didn't laugh. I'm cowardly and very hesitant. My worst qualities. I don't know what to do now. I have to decide because I'm not 16 anymore. I'm a woman now. I shouldn't waste his time and mine. I'm afraid I won't find a man as perfect as him. When I've heard my friends talk about their men beating them up, harassing them that their men were drunks, spending their money on bullshit, etc., and my man doesn't have that stuff. I don't know what to do. It's very hard to leave the person who does everything for you. He always shows me his respect for me, he always tries to feel good. And no, don't think it's a jerk or that I'm in charge. It's a man on the ground! I'm just not sure about my feelings anymore. I hesitate very quickly. One time I'm going to tell him the truth, the next minute I'm saying to myself, "you can't do more stupidity to leave the man who loves you with all my heart... " His family and I get along a lot. They love me very much. What do you think? Would it be fair to me if I stayed with him? I don't think I'm going to find a better one than him. But will I be happy anyway? Will I be satisfied with my choice? I think we should split up, because now we're young, not years, life and health, if we already have children and then I'm sure we should have split up.. but I don't have the guts. I'm a coward. I often think I shouldn't be selfish, that I should leave him for himself. So he can find a woman who truly loves him, and not so much to think about himself what's going to happen. People who have fallen into a similar situation, what have you done? Do you think after years that you made the right choice? Do you regret staying with the person who loves you and you weren't sure of your feelings? I know there's no right or wrong path. You're just going in the same direction and whatever it is after all. Thank you to everyone who will bother to read my story and give me some advice! :)))

Last Updated
June 20, 2020
Author:
happy_time_