The Clock Is Ticking ...

   After 30 it's not impossible, it's possible, but I personally look at them with a different eye

   "... but if you even mentioned a wedding briefly, there is a grumbling about how weddings were nonsense ..." He is right here. Weddings are nonsense. They often lead to the end of relationships, because thoughts like "you see - I'm already married and my partner is tied in a towel, so I can do whatever I want and be calm." "Since they're nonsense, why do I have three engagement rings? I don't understand ..." He wants to tell you, "Don't worry. You're my girl. There's no other. I have no intention of looking for another." I guess it's 3 because you've been arguing with him about getting married often. These desires of yours make him think that you doubt him and through the engagement rings he may want to prove to you that his intentions towards you are serious. "He also doesn't want children at all, he avoids this topic as well." There are already differences in your views on a common future. I think this is your biggest problem to solve. "He still throws his clothes where he falls" There are messy people, there are also tidy ones. Compromises are needed by both. It is not a problem. In time, if you have a child, you will see what it's all like to be messy. "forever someone else is to blame for his mistakes, does not tolerate criticism" This is also a real problem. With this attitude he shows that he cannot take responsibility. Here you are right. "constantly in his spare time playing on the computer" This is not a problem. If he is a gamer, then he will not cheat on you. Gamers are addicted to games, not dating sites and apps. He is right here. Everyone has the right to a hobby. Everyone has the right to decide how to spend their free time and relax. "

   Complete mold. What are you together for to clean and cook for him? I don't think you're old or that you'll ever find another. You decide, but my advice is to dump this poisonous man. How will he say that you will not find better than him? Don't think about Brad Pitt? I would even recommend you read a book - the poisonous men of Lillian's voice. And I was in a relationship in which I was constantly told that I was getting up for nothing, and I had finally believed it. Well I managed to get rid of it and now I feel more than good. Good luck and hope you find your way.

   "... isn't it better for him to let me find happiness and understanding elsewhere? “. Why are you waiting and not leaving him? When you're unhappy, dump it. If you want marriage and a family, haven't you realized in 10 years that this won't happen? I don't think you have a normal psyche and intellect.

   I don't know how you endured being the mother of a grumbling and immature child for 10 years. With marriage proposals just keeps you, empty promises, giving empty hopes. Maybe because it's your first. Lack of experience makes you fear that you can't catch another, and lack of comparison prevents you from seeing how bad yours is. That's why it's good to have at least a few connections behind your back. Not that it can't work out with the first ones, but you really need a lot of luck. You didn't take it out. But at 30 you still have time. If you are beautiful and take care of your appearance, it will be very easy for you. You just have to be active. There are many people who do not have halves or are in hopeless relationships like yours. But if you hesitate for a few more years, things will change. Therefore, act!

   The only thing I can advise you is to put the cards on the table and talk to him seriously. To say in plain text what his intentions are. And if he twists - leave him. Not that you are too old, but time really runs. And from 30 to 40 -literally flies.I personally am firm about weddings, but I realize that it is more important to have a child.After 30-35 years, she usually gets pregnant only for trouble.

   Yes, many men are free, catching nothing. Ah, why don't you do it in a small circle, why doesn't he want a child?

   And what is the perspective? These are 10 years without any development. And you are already worn out! He used to have a desire, but now he is running away. How much more time do you have to waste? You are comfortable until you meet a thrill. Then in no time you will have a marriage and a child! I am rude, but I saw it with my own eyes! You don't have much time to act if you want development ... Whether with or without it! You need to get out of your comfort zone. And most of all you! I guess you understand what I mean!

   Hello. Thanks for the objective review of what was written. I did not expect such adequate answers, in the interest of truth. It is good for someone to tell you things as they are from time to time, without detours. Number 2, I owe you a special special thanks - to take the time to review everything in detail and analyze is a great gesture. Interestingly, I never wanted a marriage and I didn't mention it. The first time he offered me was when I returned from a long stay abroad 7 years ago and asked to part, because for all 6 months I was there, he did not call me even once. Because I was super in love with him at the time, and hurt, I said yes. As I write this, I realize the situation ... Well, one makes mistakes. Thanks to everyone again and ... I hope I get better in some way in the future. All the best!