Strong Attachment.

   Get rid of them both if you don't love them?

   Hahah, you're crazy. Imagine getting engaged to such a persecutor and such a mistress on your head. Your life will be hell. Meet normal women who will appreciate your and your own freedom and will not kill complexes, as the two young ladies do. Success!

   You are obviously a womanizer, you are trying not to break off your relationship with these two, and they need that for a little hope .. Explain clearly that you are shit and you don't care and don't hurt the girls !!!

   Well, if they agree there is nothing wrong: D! It's not a disease ... two ducks in love!

   I approve of your idea! But first, agree with the "mistress" that there are no blunders and drive like that. Many people will comment here and will probably dissuade you, but don't listen to them on the right track, brother. There are such lucky men who do not have one and you will be settled with two.

   wow, I had a friend like that, not a boyfriend, and the moment we were going to have a relationship, it's good that I listened to my heart, to leave .. You just don't show any respect .. and it's very difficult when you love such a person, but I left this man .. because he just wasn't honest .. just like you aren't .. Choose one and what do you play them with?

   Are you serious about getting engaged to one and the other to be your mistress !? !? And only because you don't want to hurt them? Ah, you said you were trying to get rid of them ... Anyway, sooner or later you'll hurt them, so make sure it's better early, not spinning them in a vicious circle for years, just to your advice that you didn't hurt them may be pure. This is best for both the girls and you. So they will find men who will love them and enjoy their affection, and you will find a woman who fits your criteria for normal behavior. It is very wrong to stay with someone out of pity (I'm talking about the idea of ​​marrying one and the other being your mistress), would you yourself want a woman to stay with you just because she feels sorry for you and doesn't want to hurt you, but not because he truly loves you?

   "And since I don't want to hurt any of them, I'd agree to get engaged to one and the other to be my mistress." Seriously? !! The poor man alive to mourn you, such a sacrifice ... and I became attached, very strongly. Where can I find you radiant, my life? You're not going to leave me like that, very attached and lonely, are you? !!

   One of them has been following me for about 6-7-8 years, I was still in 11th, 12th grade when things happened between us. I love her very much, noo ... that's another topic.

   Dude, I knew one. As she told you, she was dying for the one who left her, but the moment she came across a man attached to her who was looking for her and demonstrating serious intentions, she evaporated in less than a month - she no longer loved him. And you think how to make them both happy - maybe it will happen - everyone will know that you are not only hers and will die for you. I don't know ... it sounds a little scary to me.

   haahaha the last paragraph broke me; dddddd see if they hear you speak, especially if they read the first sentences of the last paragraph and both will disappear like bullets: D If you want to lose them just tell them. YOU say you don't want to hurt any of them, but if you let one be your wife and the other your mistress, do you think they won't be hurt when they find out. After all, the truth always comes out;) .... Otherwise, there are such people, yes, but instead of rejoicing and appreciating that they feel this way with you, you call them abnormal ... Just evaluate what you have by your side.

   I don't see anything disturbing in the situation, you just don't want to hurt them .. it's normal :))! I don't understand why you are looking for advice here, all women will come to you ... start acting and don't complain, don't be stupid!

   I know a lot of such first-person women, some of whom break Facebook passwords, emails and constantly rummage in your phone, while others overwhelm their jealousy and anxiety, and most often kill them to punish their partners with provocations and accusations. For these women, I can tell you a pattern: Such women feel best with men they do not love. No jealousy and clinging - no negative emotions. They usually realize this after 25-30 years of age. M37

   I can't agree with number 12 that the truth always comes out, many men have lovers and so for years you just have to know how to hide. If they both can't live without you, they'll come to terms with not letting them leave you.

   Let me give a little feedback to get something like a dialogue. Number 2 - I didn't say I didn't love them. I don't know what I feel for them, my emotions are love, indifference, anger that they are so dependent on me, depending on the periods. But I'm not saying that my problem is that I love them or that I don't love them, but that they are very dependent on me. Yes, I tried to get rid of both, especially in times of anger, but I failed. Number 3 - I can not imagine the rest of my life, each performance confronts me with a situation in which there is at least 1 injured. At first, these two ladies seemed completely normal to me, then they both showed a similar character. Why should I meet another supposedly normal? Number 4 - How he defined me as a womanizer, the girls I was with counted on the fingers of one hand. Namely, that I do not want to hurt them to the extreme, I feel responsible for their behavior, I give them a chance. Number 5 - the first with the one I am now knows that I love very much and the second, does not tell me anything, rarely shows jealousy. The second does not know about the first, she would probably suffer if she learned. I don't want to hurt her. It doesn't seem normal for me not to have been seen at all for 1 year, and then to be loved as much as before, even more. I can't love them all the time, even if I'm with them. Number 6 - sometimes it's quite difficult to be with one or two. Number 7 - I don't choose the girls, they choose me. And yes, I try to be with only one, but the other does not allow me to do so. Women have terrible psychological weapons and use them fiercely when they want to achieve something. Number 8 - I tried several times to get rid of them, I failed, they found me again, we got together again. I let them find someone more decent and I even told them to do it - The first attempt came back, she begged me to be with her again. The second did not try at all. She even did a scene, and I told her I wanted to break up. There are already injured and I think there will always be, but I don't know how to make sure there aren't. And I would not go with someone who feels sorry for me, I would never be humiliated like that, I am the strongest in the relationship. Although lately I think maybe I'm not the strongest. Once they get what they want, I can't resist. Number 9 - a good joke! : D Number 10 - tell your story - I actually wanted to know someone in my situation how things went with him. Number 11 - That sounds scary to me too. And I want them to be more independent, I just don't know how to teach them to be independent, withdrawal did not solve my problem. The first one tried to be with someone else, I gave her the freedom, but she came back again, she dumped him because she wanted me. Number 12 - read my remarks to the previous comments. Number 13 - You are the only one who asks a question, and this question comes close to the essence. I am looking for advice and rather answers or purposeful questions. To have someone so attached to you at first seems just incredibly cool. Many people dream about it, and I'm going to complain. That two girls were in love with me. It sounds ridiculous - but it is NOT - because to me this attachment of theirs has gone to extremes and they are happy only when I am with them, they cannot make independent decisions about their lives if they do not consult me. They expect me to set their goals in life. Without me, they seem to go with the flow and perform only routine actions. There are almost no conversations between us, when they talk they do it only in simple sentences. I have to get their words out with a hook. They do not have their own opinion, their opinion depends on my approval, if I could tell them, they would be most satisfied. If they are given an ESE on who am I? (Which includes a brief resume, what the man is like now, and what he wants to be). They will write the first part in the shortest possible version, and for the second they will probably write - I have to ask him, my goals are to be with him. That's what worries me, that I have to determine their lives, and when it's long, it's deadly. There are two more comments but they haven't come out yet - I'll answer them later. when they speak they do so in simple sentences only. I have to get their words out with a hook. They do not have their own opinion, their opinion depends on my approval, if I could tell them, they would be most satisfied. If they are given an ESE on who am I? (Which includes a brief autobiography, what the man is now, and what he wants to be). They will write the first part in the shortest possible version, and for the second they will probably write - I have to ask him, my goals are to be with him. That's what worries me, that I have to determine their lives, and when it's long, it's deadly. There are two more comments but they haven't come out yet - I'll answer them later. when they speak they do so in simple sentences only. I have to get their words out with a hook. They do not have their own opinion, their opinion depends on my approval, if I could tell them, they would be most satisfied. If they are given an ESE on who am I? (Which includes a brief autobiography, what the man is now, and what he wants to be). They will write the first part in the shortest possible version, and for the second they will probably write - I have to ask him, my goals are to be with him. That's what worries me, that I have to determine their lives, and when it's long, it's deadly. There are two more comments but they haven't come out yet - I'll answer them later. If they are given an ESE on who am I? (Which includes a brief autobiography, what the man is now, and what he wants to be). They will write the first part in the shortest possible version, and for the second they will probably write - I have to ask him, my goals are to be with him. That's what worries me, that I have to determine their lives, and when it's long, it's deadly. There are two more comments but they haven't come out yet - I'll answer them later. If they are given an ESE on who I am? (Which includes a brief autobiography, what the man is now, and what he wants to be). They will write the first part in the shortest possible version, and for the second they will probably write - I have to ask him, my goals are to be with him. That's what worries me, that I have to determine their lives, and when it's long, it's deadly. There are two more comments but they haven't come out yet - I'll answer them later.

   M37, you are wrong - jealousy simply has nothing to do with love, but is the fruit of the desire to possess, of your own insecurity in your own worth, the fruit of complexes and a desire to obsess ... and yes - disrespect and distrust of the partner. He who truly loves will never hurt the personal space of the person next to him. One person is jealous or not. Even if they do not love, the jealous are jealous. I agree with No. 15. If you are smart, you think strategically, no one can reveal you even in the modern world.

   Number 14 - Mine do not show strong jealousy, nor do they threaten me in any way, I have made it clear that I would not tolerate such behavior. When they want to get something, they use weakness, I feel crooked and they usually get it. Number 15 - I don't know what to say, maybe you're right.

   You sound too confident. The affection you write about, in my opinion, is very close to the mother's. One is not jealous when one does not love. Maybe you give the security and attention that every woman needs. In this situation and this lack of jealousy, there may be only one reason. If a person is committed, then you have no right to be jealous, you accept things as they are and you enjoy every moment, every meeting, no matter what period.

   Look, now it's one thing to have sex with a girl and it's quite different to marry her ... one will be your mistress and the other your fiancée, it sounds a little unfair to me! If you don't want to hurt either, you just have to talk to both of them, call them, see them, have a normal friendly conversation with them. If you don't succeed after that, you can leave with a clear conscience, it sounds very selfish to me to sit down and talk to a person, to explain to him that you can't be with him and for him to start shaking, that's why don't feel guilty .. you will be guilty if you haven't done it yet. Having to be so attached must come face to face, it can be more difficult but so right and respectful!

   Abe, how can you look so much like the person I was with some time ago, but your story is a little different .. it's strangely simple, everything ended tragically but they are just for me :(!

   Aha, number 18, it has already become clear to me why you did not manage to get rid of it, but try as you intended and you will see what will happen next, you are not wrong ... I understand you.

   that's where your mistake is, that you have to choose your girl, not wait for them to choose you. Why do you succumb to their manipulations? Why don't you look at the honest side and follow it? Take a good look at who is honest, who is good, who is really the one who does not manipulate. Look for the truth. Don't be fooled. Look for your heart and what IT tells you.

   Number 23, because he has to choose who was honest and the like! You are not one of the women that you are currently trying to give him intelligence! Better to fight with both or play them both! That's more honest in my opinion!

   H 24, what does "honest" mean - combed, underlined, garlic ...? !! Otherwise, I don't think it's fair what you suggest. But the author knows, let him decide for himself, because when he leaves, he will finally fall from the two chairs on the ground and only his ass will hurt. That's HONEST!

   To choose only one of the two, but he has feelings for both, will certainly hurt only one if he drives it as you think is fair. Nonsense is what you say, how will it happen if he tries not to learn, it depends on him..for example I could handle! Besides, he says that he tried to get rid of both, which means that he hardly has much to lose. If he fails, he will find a decent girl and there will be no such type of problems, I don't know I would take a risk, everything happens in this life people are separated, divorced to be with the right one.

   Number 19 - Trying to be confident, even though I'm an anxious person on the inside, I don't see it on the outside. The next thing you say (about maternal attachment, for me more paternal, I'm the man.) Worries me a little, because that would mean a kind of parental and intimate feelings in me and in them merge. Which disgusts me a little. But maybe you're right, they are more than 5 years younger than me. I hadn't looked at him like that. But the statement that in me they are looking for their father, by the way, by nature, I am very close to their fathers. And I, on the other hand, see them as younger sisters that I have to take care of, and this, mixed with intimacy, disgusts me. I hardly give them security, because I often have my moods, I don't have a specific character, although I try to give them the necessary attention most of the time, they are important to me. I try to satisfy most of their needs. But at some point I like it, then I can get to the point of repelling them. After a while, as it turned out, I return to my original position, to support and meet the needs. And enjoy you every moment with me. Number 20 - Sounds easy doesn't it. It's not. I tried, it didn't work. Talking openly to them, and the reaction was to shake, and I could not leave with pure advice. Number 21 - Tell us a little about what happened. Number 23 - It's complicated! Number 24 - I don't think anyone will dump me, so far they don't show in any way that they would. And if it happens that they dump me, I will feel sorry for maybe 1 month, then I will rest for a while but for 1 year. I will have a girl like that again. So when you find yourself on two chairs on the ground, it's okay to stand up,

   This with the third chair made me laugh. You certainly do not lack self-confidence. If you find the answer to the question with jealousy or rather its lack, you will have the answers you are looking for. Until then, just enjoy the moments you have with them. If you both don't mind, you can think of a threesome or not. :) :) :).

   Look what if you're my ex-boyfriend, with whom we didn't have a first relationship, and he lied to me that he loved me for 5 years and dumped me before my state exam, and told me that I had bothered him, and misled the other man, stay well, I've been living on my own since I was little! To be honest, I understood that I am looking for a person who loves me and I do not want any fake people around me to play with me ... Stay well. I looked at frivolous people .. and I learned from my mistakes, but not only did I learn, but I also corrected them .. And now I am not only independent, free, but I also know what true LOVE is, and yes, I am very , a very honest person and I have never prayed for a connection to anyone! It's beneath my dignity .. You misunderstood me something .. or they put some wrong things about me in your brain .. And I apologize if you're not this boy ..

   From number 21. I can't tell :) you are not the same person! You are more mature and conscientious and he ran away and left me to suffer. I understand when you want to end a relationship (and ours was not short) if it is assumed that you have any feelings, this is not the way, and he obviously had absolutely nothing, otherwise I do not explain to him what he did. I can't understand his cruel treatment, I have done absolutely nothing to this man. In fact, not all men are like him, you feel responsible for both and you look for ways to cope even though it doesn't work for you.

   Number 28 - :) Number 29 - Your boy hurt you a lot, he shouldn't have done it. I'm sorry and I apologize on his behalf! But it's good that he behaved like that, even though it sucks because you've achieved a lot since then.

   №32, You don't have to apologize to me on behalf of a stranger! You are not guilty and do not take his guilt, because you did nothing to me .. I have always been very responsible and with a bunch of obligations, but he went too far, because not only did he dump me just before my state exam, but he listened like he was set up by his new mistress to insult me ​​from another country, even this man I had never had a first relationship with. № 32, so I wrote to you, just be honest and be with the one you love, but be honest too .. Good luck and don't be fooled by people, but choose the right one, but really try it to see if it's really right, yes don't pretend ... because there are things that are done to the right ones, look behind the actions, have you heard the actions? Morality watch ..

   Author, you apologize on behalf of a stranger, you want these two girls to be more independent, you wonder how both are happy - which is not yours, but their job ..., it makes an impression that you systematically take on strangers responsibilities - this is generally bad and speaks of a problem that will cause you a lot of trouble.

   If he has given them any reasons or hopes for a common future, I think he is responsible. For example, I will let you close to me realizing that you can fall in love and what you will do next with this love does not interest me ..

   Number 34 - I understand what you're talking about. I hadn't thought about it, I needed a little reminder. And yet, bending over is part of my character. But at least I could figure out where I was wrong. I can't promise to change it, even if it means staying in that situation forever. The advice so far will not change my behavior, from there they can not change the situation I am in, but it is good that I understood the reasons why I am in this situation.

   Not bad as an option but I would drop them both: D: D: D. However, I pity this girl that she will only be a mistress, while the other will certainly be very happy. Dude, one piece of advice from me, don't hurt the girl, try to keep her happy: D so she doesn't get sick. Write to her how the relationship developed.

   Guys, does that really scare you ?? I'm the same wow I think I need to change .. hmm

   Guys, does that really scare you ?? I'm the same wow I think I need to change .. hmm

   Author, if you plan to keep them both to make it easier for you to go ahead, you can lie to them. I didn't understand which one you would agree to, but hide from her the fact that you keep seeing the other, say that she is the only one, think of something. And the other she can't help but know, she will understand and say that you actually love her, but you do it out of regret, you will only make sense out of regret ... if she agrees to be your mistress, stay like that, if not ... yes look after your work! Abe, you can't be honest with both and hope things get better without casualties.

   and in my opinion put yourself in the place of one, put yourself in the place of the other .. Make a situation - imagine, unreal in your mind the following: - 1 hour: You are the first and everything that happened to her happens to you. How do you feel? You hope for love for a long time ... and it is shared, but a new one appears ... and he gladly accepts it. -In the 2nd hour: You are the second. And everything that happened to her happens to you. How do you feel? You go with a new one and find an old connection. - In the 3rd hour: How would you react if you were the first and if you were the second? everyone wants true love! Are you a positive character in the movie ??? Or one where one wonders which one is the real one ??? It is one of the two, but see it with your heart! The honest attitude, the one that did not want you, but gave .. without looking for anything in return ..

   At the moment, even if it seems to you that there is no way to fix it, I will tell you that you are not right, it all depends on you. You determine what your life will be like, there are no impossible things, there are impossible people! Sometimes one is confused by the opinion of others. Don't listen to your relatives and friends at all, they think well of you but they don't know what you really want, you know who you want to be with. You can't have the same feelings for both, imagine them ... what is it that when you see you feel a thrill. Who is the one who loves you, it is very easy to establish, the one who while you were together reconciled with the little one and did not have any requirements for you, accepted you as you are.

   At the beginning, when I read what you wrote, I thought that you want to rotate them both, but then I thought about it and realized that it is not easy for you. 2 years ago I had an acquaintance about to marry her boyfriend, but he abandoned her and married another, a few months later she committed suicide! She wasn't mentally unstable, but I don't want to be rude to say what she did and exactly how it happened. People still associate the boy with her, and her parents look at him as a murderer. A story with a fatal ending and I don't want to scare you, but one has to anticipate a similar option, it's extremely terrible, but you are assured just in case. You look like a decent person, and I'm sure you'll find a solution to the problem.

   I had a similar case - the man lied to me for years that he loved me and we would get married, but since he worked abroad, we did not have a real relationship, only a friendly one. When he came, he took another and I called him to ask him what was happening to us, at least to stay friends, but the other was next to him and they started making fun of me. They insulted me for no reason. And I lived through it for a long time, I was sad that I didn't do anything, but the black sheep took me out, I hadn't even had a relationship for the first time, but ... everything passed and I swallowed the humiliation. Not to mention how dishonest he acted, and how I trusted him for anything at all ... but now it's all over and I can only say - God protects the truth and even if you have been neglected and insulted dishonestly, you must continue, because when you are innocent, God has seen it ... And when it is written, we will be given a new better chance. And really what happened - I just got rid of people who used me. It's good that I gathered strength then and took my state exam .. And I even enrolled for a master's degree .. then .. That was years ago. There was a man who respected me, appreciated me and what could be better than that? Friendship, when it is real, survives everything! And yes, I feel like a brother, and I'm much, much stronger than before .. Because God knows that good people can get hurt by worse ones, but He also knows how to help everyone .. It's not good to experience things so hard and suffer, because someone had stepped on you .. Yes, he had stepped on me, however .. from other places they gave me wings, and I became a much, much more valuable person .. and I took another 60 exams .. And the lies that she invented, with her audacity to say that I was even crazy, they came back to her with her stones on her head .. And quite by accident I found out how it came back to her .. Unfortunately I felt sorry for her .. But God is slow, but I DON'T FORGET !!!! And I'm not the one who judges people's actions! Therefore, author I wrote to you, look at the right girl .. All the best to you in your choice and to all people happy summer!

   Author, what happened to the women, so that they don't fight over you: D