My Wife's Parents Hate Me!

   You happened to "shoddy" matchmakers! To be alive and healthy, if they had chosen a man for her: D You will tolerate you are already married, so as I read the whole seed is against you! If you love your wife so much, fight, if you don't leave until you have a baby! They will make your life hell! Good luck man and know that if you have your own home, friends and job nothing is lost

   Hello, Author. I'm sad for you, because in my story you seem like the right person. Of course, everyone has flaws and you are hardly an exception, but you have come across a very nasty scenario. Any partner who allows his parents to confuse and influence him and who does not put his partner first is a nightmare. If this does not change, unfortunately nothing good awaits you. What can I advise you, but you ask me, pack the woman's luggage and tell her that if she is not happy and listens to mom and dad, go to them. Either she regains consciousness, or she's on her way. It's good that you don't have children yet, don't wait for them to come to solve things, then you won't have good options. F31

   He kicks in the ass and goes to mom and dad. I did so and I do not regret it. Better 5-7 years lost than a lifetime. Think about what this woman or someone else gives you, put pros and cons

   I have witnessed such absurdities, and how it hurts when such idiots come from your own family and how a mother speaks to her son-in-law against her daughter. So you are one degree happier. Well, the advice is one, kids! Although this is not a guarantee. Or straight godfather in the eyes. And the other option, intimacy with the woman, but on a level. No comments about the parents, as if they don't exist. And I can't understand these women. How they want to give birth in their old age. Being 50 when your child is 20 is not a good option. Think of antiquities.

   "More advanced plans" than a child? You're both idiots, but mostly yourself because you wrote this thing.

   Things are not going well, divorce her. Unfortunately, even if you are very much in love with someone, if that person's parents are nasty, nothing right can come out. Sooner or later they will be able to scold you, so ...

   G33 My parents are something just that they work and have always worked an awful lot of craft professions plus a garden at home. My mother knows everything and gives a shit about everything and we don't have a neighbor to talk to, she has a fight with everyone. My father has self-confidence and loves to tell very exaggerated stories and is very much looking for some scams through acquaintances. And I know his stories in a dream when someone pushes me, but you sit staring blankly and crunching the salad on the table and thinking it's over faster. But they are my parents, they have many shortcomings, but if my husband criticizes them, I raise a strong scandal, because we see our parents very rarely and I behave perfectly with his, ok, they are not so simple and impudent, but still it takes effort for them to feel good for 2 weeks in the year in which they visit us. My husband is very annoyed, for example, he said that he does not want to see "these people" in his house anymore, and I have gone wild and become aggressive towards him, because no one chooses his parents, and until 6 years ago they were my family and I relied entirely on them. The trick is not to give them food to do intrigue, it means to play a role in front of them and in front of her in which you are super positive and everything is great. When such people dig a crack, they start to handle and they will break your marriage. They got something and from there they started setting up your wife. For example, for my husband, my father, without realizing it, says things like he couldn't change a light bulb, I make sure my husband doesn't hear it and I don't feed the conversation in the direction of repairing the house, because my husband has another job and earns enough a lot of money to pay people who turn on light bulbs. For dogs it can be too lazy to clean the apartment or they lack personal space or the responsibility itself, we are super easy without a pet. If the apartment is hers, the parents can also hint that the dogs have gotten dirty and this coincides with her opinion. I would advise you once again not to say anything bad in front of her about her parents, just a nice oven and see if the situation will change.

   So first 2 dogs and then children. What is advanced at the moment? Excursion, cat?

   Author: Well, we just don't want a child yet, firstly, because I'm on the verge of career development, secondly - she asked me to wait a bit. We will not become parents at 40, but until 31-32, why not? The century in which you have to have a child by the age of 20 is long gone. I was a little wrong, I admit. Otherwise I don't know what to do ... things are getting worse. She gets excited when I say something about mom and dad.

   Well, they told you people. Hint to her where things are going. Who are they to confuse you? You collect luggage and gas, you have nothing to argue about. I also understand that you are younger to wait for things to get better, but in your case, perhaps the better option is divorce. It will take you up to a year at most, during which time you are looking for a more stable woman.

   People like her who listen to their parents about everything just don't have their own insides. If they had something inside them, life, value, or something like that, they wouldn't listen to their parents about everything. She is now taking a defensive stance by showing you that her parents are the strongest allies in the war that will begin with you. Expect such a thing. In my case, my mother-in-law set me against the ex-father, not that they seemed to love each other and live together. Seen from the side, this was very strange to me. Women, as weak beings, are constantly looking for allies, but what are their allies for? Shouldn't you, your parents and her parents be one where there are no allies? !! If the interference of outsiders in your relationship begins - stop, look around and analyze what is happening around you. Maybe now you are witnessing the beginnings of something very bad, which will be difficult to get out of. And with these mood swings in extremes, "I want a dog, I don't want a dog" shows that in any quiet moment, something horrible can share with you (part of the war). I've been through a problem like yours, and I've heard the same remarks: "There were a lot of decent people around our daughter, but with her character, she lost everyone." These remarks, comparisons, fears lead to one bad thing. Be smart and sensible and avoid war of the complex family with you. and I have heard the same remarks "There were many decent ones around our daughter, but with her character she lost them all." These remarks, comparisons, fears lead to one bad thing. Be smart and sensible and avoid war of the complex family with you. and I have heard the same remarks "There were many decent ones around our daughter, but with her character she lost them all." These remarks, comparisons, fears lead to one bad thing. Be smart and sensible and avoid war of the complex family with you.

   Author, you have no problem with your parents-in-law - you have a problem with your wife! No self-respecting woman will allow her parents to call the man "pickle" behind his back or humiliate him in her presence. She is very angry and snorts when you raise the topic, but do not give up - it is right to say these things to them and take a position. If she is not inclined to stand behind you when a situation arises and you need it, then what is such a woman for you? She doesn't respect you, she doesn't stand up for you. Apparently she still experiences herself as the girl of mom and dad and they are the authorities who set the tone in her life. They wouldn't allow themselves to be treated like that if they didn't have you for a mold, or if they were worried that if they offended you, they might lose their daughter. It allows this to happen. He closes his eyes, is silent and continues to please them - well, they simply test the border and stretch their legs according to the rug. She is the person who should signal that such behavior on their part is not OK and that it should be stopped, just as you should protect her if her relatives attack her. If she doesn't understand - let her go back to where she came from, and let them choose a man. By the way, do not accept any financial help from them, because in these circumstances it will be carte blanche to continue to interfere with you and to direct and set it against you! I hope you do not live in their home or bought with their help? If she doesn't understand - let her go back to where she came from, and let them choose a man. By the way, do not accept any financial help from them, because in these circumstances it will be carte blanche to continue to interfere with you and to direct and set it against you! I hope you do not live in their home or bought with their help? If she doesn't understand - let her go back to where she came from, and let them choose a man. By the way, do not accept any financial help from them, because in these circumstances it will be carte blanche to continue to interfere with you and to direct and set it against you! I hope you do not live in their home or bought with their help?

   I don't think you have to keep quiet and pretend there's no problem. That way the father-in-law will go further and further, your wife will do nothing about it and you will be more and more unhappy in this marriage. Parents go as far as their own children allow, and your wife allows them too much. If he loves and respects you, he will in no way allow them to insult you, to talk behind your back and to intrigue between you. If you were a mature and independent woman, you wouldn't let them interfere with you. Shouting at someone because they do not want to be insulted and interfered with is also not a manifestation of love. Are you sure you want to live your life with this woman and have children from her given that fathers-in-law will be the eternal presence in your marriage? Because of her behavior, you are actually married to them, not her. In the next scandal on her part, I would just tell her that I would not tolerate this humiliating behavior anymore, pack up and go to Mom and Dad, and I want a divorce. I know people who have done it and do not regret it. Their wives chose their parents. Now they are alone, and the men enjoy a normal family and children. I also have experience. The parents-in-law did not want to marry their son and tried to make our lives miserable on day 1. Every day they came home uninvited, rummaged in the cupboards, gave unsolicited advice, plotted and tried to set us against each other. There came a time when I could not stand such behavior anymore, and I sat down to talk to my husband and calmly explain to him that I love him, but if marrying him means tolerating his toxic parents every day, I do not want to I enter into this marriage. So instead of my wonderful husband, I was married to them, we had no time for ourselves, to do something together, only nerves, tears, no time for love. He neither shouted at me that I was talking like that about his parents, nor did he take offense. And he didn't feel well from all this interference. We got along and diluted going to family parties, locked the door and didn't open it when we didn't invite anyone, didn't share any information about ourselves. Eventually, they became even more angry, turned all the relatives against us, and wanted to see only him, without me. This was the icing on the cake and we totally broke contact. We are very happy now. I am sad that I do not have parents-in-law, but I have learned to accept that they are as they are, they will not change and begin to love and respect us, communicating with them does more harm than good. However, your wife does not seem to have any problems with the toxic behavior of her parents, and I do not know if there is any salvation for your marriage. Maybe a conversation with a psychologist or family counselor? In neutral territory he will not allow himself to scream, and mom can set her up against the fact that you hate them, and the psychologist is a neutral professional who knows very well that the priority of an adult should be the family he has chosen. , not what he was born in.

I personally would be a jester to her and I wouldn't bother. You sound so decent. In 0 time you will find a new one without having to put up with her old mother. and the psychologist is a neutral professional who knows very well that the priority of an adult should be the family he has chosen, not the one in which he was born. I personally would be a jerk to her and I wouldn't bother. You sound so decent. In 0 time you will find a new one without having to put up with her old mother. and the psychologist is a neutral professional who knows very well that the priority of an adult should be the family he has chosen, not the one in which he was born. I personally would be a jester to her and I wouldn't bother. You sound so decent. In 0 time you will find a new one without having to put up with her old mother.