Is It Experienced

   I feel exactly like that. It's been about two weeks since he left me. I have no desire for anything, nor do I want more connection with another. It may be easier, but you will not forget it. These things stay, you just get used to living with them. When you think about it, it's normal for it to hurt. And I like you - one day I'm at the bottom, another not. I behave in front of people as if it's easy for me, but internally it's not. I often dream that everything is as before. Then I wake up and cry. It relieves me temporarily. Then memories come to me again and that's when it's scariest. The memories are the mother ... So, one thing I know for sure - to be alone is the lesser evil. It always hurts after a breakup, especially when you loved a lot. And even more so when only you loved. And loneliness weighs, but is easier to accept.

   Feeling this way means you're a normal person, but it's not good to focus on your age. I wish you the right person, but that won't happen until you shake off the past. You don't have to push yourself, but you don't have to shut yourself in your shell, go out, travel - your appetite comes with eating. Just be careful and don't make this mistake of allowing this person for the second time in your life - sooner or later he will bloom on your door again, but it will only be to smear his ego and open the wound. If you want to believe, but you will not be the first to be sought only for sex after separation, you will not be the first to realize with bitterness that it is only used.

   I have been in your position, as have many other people. It is experienced, more or less difficult, it depends on how strong will and character you have. If you keep thinking that, it will be the hard way. To you, it's like he's dead, he doesn't exist anymore, he doesn't pick the wound all the time, because it will always hurt. As much as you don't want to, go somewhere, go out, get together with people, it will distract you, throw away any pictures, gifts, etc. that remind you of him, erase him from your life and continue. It's not easy, but it's achieved if you want it.

   It is overcome, do not think that you will suffer all your life and you will never be able to love again. Sooner or later we all lose our minds about someone and then it takes us a while to recover. Some experience what happened in a month, while others need a year. Time is irrelevant, it passes anyway. To reassure you, I usually only suffer really badly once, and then everything seems tolerable. It hurts again, but you are already familiar with this type of pain and it is easier for you. I also recently broke up with my friend, who, like yours, talked nonsense to me. He told me that he had no feelings, that he didn't care about me, and even suspected that I had already replaced him. We had spent years together, we shared everything and it hurt me at those words. I am not a flower, but I am true to my feelings and I do not look away. I realized it for a few hours, and then I suddenly said to myself that it was better for all of us. After all, I don't want to spend a day with someone who doesn't love me. I don't think anyone deserves to live in such a lie. It wasn't until I went out for a while, but I tightened up. To be honest, my first trips and coffee were almost forced, I almost forced myself to go out. I didn't tell anyone that I didn't care. I didn't cry, I didn't get depressed, but I was driven by a slight apathy from the world. One day I went out, bought hair dye, then took a bath, got dressed and called friends. I had a good time, my relatives cheered me up. Then at home I was still in the rhythm of emotions and fell asleep easily. The next day I went out again, and the next day I was already planning a trip. Gradually I stopped thinking about that man, who didn't think of me at all. Life went on and I modeled it the way I like it. Apparently something bothered me in this regard, because really after our separation I learned to be calmer, happier and look at things. Not that it was easy, but I really don't want to be in a relationship where they don't love me. You don't want your partner to be with you without feelings. I'm not in love yet. This is my second separation ever. I remember that after the first broken heart I thought I would never feel so strong again. Now I don't put such thoughts in my head at all. I will love, they will love me too, just as you will love and they will see you as something holy and valuable. You are going through an unpleasant separation, but someday you will get tired of suffering and you will listen to the birds, you will stare at the greenery ... there is so much beauty around us, as long as we value it, we feel good and we are moving in a positive direction. Now smile, make yourself a cup of coffee and call a loved one to hear how it is and laugh at some funny story! Don't allow yourself to spend whole days at home in pajamas with the blinds down, it's summer after all. Life and health, with everyone you can visit your favorite destinations again.

   Thank you very much for the answers. As for my lifestyle. I go out all the time. It's just that I've always been like that - social. I have friends, we go out, we have fun. Even, I hardly go home from constantly going out somewhere. But somehow it weighs more on me. I'm happy, I'm laughing, I'm empty, because when something good happens to me, we go to some nice place with friends and immediately the thought comes to my mind: "Hey, now if he was here, it would be great." from there I get an even bigger hole that he is not with me and I was in this place without him. Sometimes I ride in the car and turn away, it's like he's with me, I get dumb. I was promoted, I felt that since he did not know, it was no success. I began to think that if we got together I would tell him and he would be happy. I lose touch with reality sometimes. The bad is, that they really mark once. Then you project every pain on the one you know and you do not suffer a second time. Which makes love meaningless. I don't know, thanks again for sharing.

   It passes, hard, but it passes. Some days you will cry, others - you will not care. Don't let this person near you again. It will bloom again, but only because it is dry. Men do this trick - they think that if you still have something for them, you will sleep with them. For them it will be just sex, but for you it may be making love and hope. The feeling is awful because he knows your weaknesses and will say exactly what you want to hear. And the disappointment then is terrible. If you close a door, let it be completely. You may eventually remain good acquaintances, although for men this is a loophole for easy sex. They do not suffer like us. They don't cry for days, they don't take pictures, they don't watch romances. They go out to restaurants, take down women and sleep as much as they want. They do not close at home, but rush to look for the next one. Do the same as them, of course without indiscriminate sex. Go out with friends, whether for coffee or a walk. It's summer, go to the pool, if there is one nearby, swim, sunbathe. If there's a movie you want to see in a movie, go. Buy a new dress, pamper yourself with something. If you have a hobby, indulge in it. Block your ex everywhere, delete photos, chats, hide gifts. Behave like men do.

   Author, looking at what you wrote is like describing my feelings. But ... my heart was broken 7 times. The first and recently the last hurt me the most. But. 4 is right that after the first time it is somehow easier, but it depends on how much you believed and invested in the relationship. The two who hurt me the most were virgins when we started. So I thought I could trust them and the feelings were clean. It turned out that they deceived me the most and used my trust. The first one had even lied to me that she had been raped, while she had voluntarily got into the man's car with the clear intention of cheating on me. And the second one was ashamed that she was a virgin and used me as a bottle opener, then as a sex toy (apparently she liked sex with me) and a soul mat, until finally she found another one. They both slept in my bed for years and swore love to me. I'm already empty. And like you, I wander like a headless fly. It will pass, but I'm already looking at relationships a lot more soberly, and the naive boy who fell in love seems to be dead. I notice with age the attachment becomes stronger, but it seems that true love disappears.

   Hello, I had a relationship for a distance of 3 and a half years, even a little more, and when it came time to get together, everyone stopped something, we felt that no one could make the legs go to the other and eventually we broke up. He hurt me a lot because he lied to me that he would come to me to try, I don't know if it was real or we were deceived, I just know that this relationship exhausted me too much and hurt a hell of a lot, he is my first in everything and it hurts terribly, now I'm trying to recover, although it still doesn't come out of my head and I'm constantly thinking about it and wondering why it happened. I don't think the day will come to get together, I am 33 years old and like you I am afraid of not being left alone, besides my health is shaky, but I am trying to continue, to recover. I hope we find the man one day, I can only tell you to believe, I know it's hard, but he's lying to me, he doesn't love you. And life goes on and whatever happens we have to face it, don't despair, you have a family that supports you :)))))

   As for me, if someone tells me that he doesn't love me, I won't pay attention to him at all, it's not worth it. Look, if I dump someone and he loves me very much, I'll be sick.

   Wow, girl, you still love him, even though he told you such nasty things. You have to forget it. Every day tell yourself that life is good, that you have the right to happiness, that he is not your man. Attitude, to hear it! You don't have to stand in front of the mirror or any such rituals :) Everyone tells you - It will pass ... You know what, at the moment your heart is in the process of cooling, so it hurts and it will pass just when it becomes ice. Then it becomes easy. You start hurting others for fear of being hurt again ... This is ...