I Hate Myself Because I'm Asocial

I'm a girl, too, and I have relatives. I only have two girlfriends. I don't know now at the new school how to behave like I am. Such. I'm silent, and somebody's coming to harass me. I'm because I'm fat and I feel bad. I had internet friends even though my mom wouldn't give me... It's a long story I published and got a hat. I'm just telling you, don't meet anyone on the internet because there could be a different person behind the screen. Find a job. For example, read books, listen to music. It's just that life is good and without friends because they can give you a go.

I'm the same, but I'm so used to it, it doesn't bother me. I don't think there's anything wrong with being alone, but on the contrary, you're saving yourself a lot of trouble. It's not that being asocial is good, but it's not something to hate. I also find it difficult to communicate with people, especially strangers. I don't even know when I finish my senior year how I'm going to get a job knowing who I am, but it's a separate matter. In my opinion, you should not avoid places like the mall, for example. I don't like going there either, but I'm trying to take that pressure off. When I go outside, I start to film that people are looking at me and making fun of me, and I'm really sick. And I built this behavior in kindergarten. I remember a kid asking my mother why I didn't speak CD that continued in high school, partly at university... but we can't always eradicate it entirely. You can go out more and gradually make friends. When it's so hard for you to communicate live, start online first and then whatever happens.

May I ask how old you are?

I've been almost like you. There's no crazy part about this. If you want to change and become more sociable, start talking more to people little by little, even if they're clumsy attempts or failures. I'il give you an example. I want to learn how to dance. I can't. Yesterday I was for the first time in class. There were only girls there! When the lady started showing and we were doing it, I was the worst. But i didn't care. That's what you have to do- even if it's too bad the first time, you don't have to care. You need some experiments, and it's going to work. You've got nothing crazy, you've got this out of your mind. I'm sure you're smarter than the ones who offend you.

Do you have a problem with sexual orientation?

If you think about this problem, you're taking some kind of step toward resolving it. The question now is in what direction you're going to go and solve it. If you despair and indulge in drugs or alcohol (there are a lot of these people), you're not going anywhere. So think about what you can do to meet people and get acquaintances, then friends. If you're not sociable, you don't talk, you're no more open, there's nowhere for these people to come from. Even if someone talks to you or makes the first step, no matter if a woman or a man is... there's no way things are going to happen. You need initiative.

Start by little smiling at people and try to look them in the eye, not look at the ground or somewhere on the side. Smile and eye contact are the shortest way to communicate. Communication isn't that scary, actually. It's scary what you think people will think of you, because the source of all the uncertainty is our fear of what others think of us. So if you can get rid of him, if you understand that it doesn't matter what someone who is none of you would think of you, you'il be free to socialize, be yourself among people, and meet people like that. Smile. :)

You can't, if you want to communicate with people, you're going to have to communicate with people. It's hard to get out of the confort zone, but there's no other way. Some of you're going to like each other, others they're going to be neutral, and that's in the order of things. I'm going to tell you something that i've been told - To isolate yourself and expect others to come and "break the ice" is selfish. Then I didn't understand it, maybe you'd ask why - because you want others to appreciate you without anything you've done for them. Remember, everyone wants to be valuable, to be important. Interestingly, if you forget about yourself and decide that you're going to be the one who's careful and enstains others, it makes them feel good they're going to treat you differently. And it's not the most important thing what you look like, not always the most loved people are the most perfect. Sometimes it's just those who have the power to do something for someone first or those who show vulnerability. It's only elementary things like personal hygiene, manners, doing things that are okay about the situation or, in other words, you have a flair. A girl who's introverted with a changed attitude to others and herself. Success!

You don't say how old you are, but I think despite the people reassuring you that it's not just you and everything's okay, I'il tell you, no, it's wrong. The only good thing about this case is that you obviously realized it, you weighed it, and you had the courage to ask for help. Those who "support" you and tell you not to worry don't really help you... especially women. For them, shyness is not such a fatal problem. I'm in my 40s and i was also very much like you until my 25th birthday, while a man I very much respect didn't tell me the transformative statement "For a man it's highly unacceptable to be shy, insecure and soft." This could ruin his whole life! .. You've done your best to get over it! Now I'm telling you the same thing with complete confidence about entitlement!!! You'il find your way, but instantly hold on to your hands and start working on the subject. I personally set myself the goal of developing an unshakable self-confidence, not to influence in any way the opinion of others about me, and not to be afraid to communicate with anyone. Shyness is largely due to a lack of self-confidence and a fear of rejection, respectively fear of the opinion of others about you and your actions. Just make sure you stop caring what anyone thinks of you... accept internally as an unshakable belief that you are a wonderful, magnificent man whom no external circumstance or person can affect. Walk upright and look people in the eye. When this becomes your inner belief, you will see how gradually your behavior, your body, your whole nature will change to respond to that belief. But it doesn't work effortlessly... Not for a day. Just ACT and you'il see how miracles work!

Hi, I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. First of all, always remember that there are many people like you, more than you can imagine. And you can always seek advice from them (if you know English, it would be very useful for you to dig up such topics or watch videos). The internet is full of similar cases of people having a hard time getting into their social environment, and that worries them. To get over it first, you need to find out the reasons for your behavior, it will help you be more aware and give you the basis on which to step in to be more confident. The reasons can be many - childhood traumas, complexes of appearance that create the wrong attitudes. Once you find out where it's coming from (and it's not an easy task at all, it requires a full look into your life from a young age to now), you have to realize that these things are in the past and do not represent you. Whatever bad thought is in your head, it's not you. Every moment is a chance to change who you think you are. But remember that this happens gradually and is not an easy task at all. Try not to get depressed for not being like the others, that nothing happens to you. Once you start thinking about it, it gets worse. If you see yourself getting in the way, switch to another wave right away, don't let the bad thoughts easily. And you have to understand that life is about living, and fear of anything just prevents you from being who you want and who you want to be. My advice for starters is to inform yourself more, reading psychology helps, go alone to a bookstore (maybe in the mall to get out of your comfort zone) and buy a book on such a topic. And try not to always drive safe, take a risky take, ask questions, get into situations that are uncomfortable for you, because that's how you grow up. Ps: Take care of your appearance, even if you're not handsome, just keep up, it definitely affects how they perceive people

You've been very rightly advised by some people, you need to adjust a little bit. The loner has some advantages, but in general loses, and a lot. He doesn't have to adjust, but he suffers from his career, his personal life, his income, his future as a whole. I think you're aware of that. Whoever rubs constantly between people, actively communicates, can find the hang and win, in the direct and figurative sense of that word. In isolation, you're doomed to a passive role, in other words, what you've been offered, you accept it, and you drag your yarmulke to the end. It's a very unenviable fate. So, a little less, you have to start ingesting yourself out of your shell. First, start with observations. Don't focus on yourself, but keep an eye on others, loved ones and distants, classmates, colleagues, girls, boys, and try to draw conclusions. They, by being socialized and without inhibitions communicate with each other, does not mean that they do not have any contradictions, problems, that they do not experience discomfort. Look at them, and try to understand what moves them, what they feel, what their ulterior motives are, and what their external style of behavior, the language of gestures, the body, the expressions they use. What are their interests, what their driving motives are. So in time you will be able to identify a niche in which you will be able to fit in acceptable and successful. And if you're already aware of the things that interest them, you can start inserting a line to show them understanding and competence, but without intruding on them, because there's a certain danger of you going to the other. Well, of course, you're not always going to hit the right tone, but with practice, you're going to make it more. So little by little, I'm sure you'il be able to break the wall of insulation around you.