He And His Online Dating

   From things like "you've built too much together," do you know how fast and bad it falls on your back? 5 years are nothing ... People build 15 and still have no faith ... You have no idea what kind of people life can confront you with. And your current friend just crossed him out - nothing good is waiting for you with him.

   Men may be just pigs at times, but there is usually a reason. I hope you're not offended that I'm defending him, but think about whether you're happy. Usually a man resorts to such things and especially to the Internet dating when he feels like under a slipper. He may not really realize it, but simply feel that way without him defining it. Because on the Internet he can appear as a man, as something more ... that is, to be a man literally and figuratively. Even just writing, it makes him feel good. And I guess going out with her even better. He doesn't need to do anything more, the communication itself is pleasant. This usually happens in relationships where the woman is a little more dominant and more "male" in the relationship than he is. Think about whether this is the case and whether you make him feel under a slipper. If not, and I'm wrong, I apologize a lot. I leave the other comments to other users. Good luck.

   Once a cheater, always a cheater...

   Hello. I will not give you advice, everyone decides for himself. I'll just tell you my story, and you draw your own conclusions. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We were together in joy, in pain. Marriage without shocks, there was love, understanding .... Until the last 3 years. He started hanging out on the computer around the clock. At first, he said he was just playing. I decided that he needed it and left things like that, waiting for his "desire" to pass. By the time I got home from work and saw a forgotten Skype on. It was as if someone had hit me on the head with a brick. It turned out that the man has an 8-month online relationship with a woman. I read all their correspondence. I will not describe the pain I experienced reading how much they love each other, how they want to grow old together, etc. In order not to become verbose, I will just say that I gave a second chance. He cried, he assured me, that it's just for fun and stuff and stuff. I quickly regained my trust, we've been together for so long, our marriage was perfect, until then, of course. After this case, he became even more careful, even more caring, in a word, it brought us closer. As time passed, he started playing again. He needed that. I acted like a man again, I left him again, trust is important ... Until this August, when he just didn't come home one day. What was my horror when I saw that last year, he wrote to over 400 women and downloaded everyone who answered him. From January to August, he turned out to be "in love" with two of these women. Until the last one appeared - the third. He jumped into the relationship without thinking. He threw a 10-year relationship in the trash and jumped into a new one. Without giving me an explanation, without apologizing, without regretting what I did. It's as if he and I were roommates, not a family. I will not describe to you what happened to me. I literally collapsed, I was devastated, shattered. I'm probably too dumb a duck if I haven't noticed the indications, but I keep thinking, two people when they love each other, there should be no room for doubts, suspicions, etc. I was between hell and hell for three months. He didn't want to talk to me, he just went out and went to her. I couldn't stand it. I packed my bags and left. That was the best solution. Yes, I still suffer, yes, I roar constantly, but I also try to emerge, because I know that I have already given a chance and he did not justify it. And because when a person starts looking for entertainment, other than a hobby, sport, and says that his entertainment is like writing with different people ... RUN !!! RUN GIRL !!! What of the fact that you have built a lot, we too, what of the fact that you love him, me too. You for him, you are already property and you are not interesting, he is looking for another. YES, it is very difficult to make a final decision, but better now than when the other one appears. That way you will not be betrayed, you will not feel humiliated. I wish you success and I hope you make the right decision.

   You will make a big mistake if you give him a chance. Even if he stops doing it now, it's only a matter of time before he starts again. And these antics of his were certainly not friendships or acquaintances. He may not have slept with them, but he certainly at least hoped so, which means that as long as he's sure you won't understand, he won't hesitate to do so, even if it's not through a website.

   I went out for a long time with a boy who similarly lied, denied, but did not remember his lies. 90% of his words were lies. After we broke up, I realized how much it bothered me. In my opinion, if it is important for you to be honest, think carefully about whether it is worth being with him. He doesn't waste too much time, it's pointless. He won't change. He obviously likes living that way.

   "only time will tell ..." - what do you expect time to prove to you? Once he has started staggering from the beginning, you will continue to be alone at home, especially if he makes you children. Once you feel that he is not literate in your relationship, you better find a modest and serious man. Time flies, you don't have time to give vain chances to a person who doesn't deserve them. Then do not write other topics, about your wasted time and killed life.

   Author, I experienced almost the same thing 4 years ago up / down if you want to try to forgive. You lose nothing, even if he does, you can still leave him then, at least you won't be surprised "if I had forgiven what would have happened?" The stupid thing is that he has you, he supposedly loves you and holds you, but he sees himself with others. And was it just writing and seeing? If you feel sorry for the author, try to forgive and only time will tell whether you made the right choice or wasted your time. My future husband, because he was rubbing first for one, I found out, I was just with them, he had a job and he didn't, I opened Facebook. from the computer, and not long after one wrote him one, I threatened her and told her everything just so she wouldn't eat a fight. At that moment I hated him, I didn't care about his stupid excuses, only a month later I found out about 2 more and they sang everything, I didn't want to be measured in front of my eyes, I ordered it nicely, and I wanted to leave then for the first time I saw him even roaring a man and explaining to me that he would never do it again. A day or two passed and I was forgiven, but I was constantly watching everything everywhere. I forgave yes, but to this day I don't trust him at all. It drives me crazy all the time. but it hurts me, because he told various ugly girls that what if he was with me, how if there was a possibility that I would not be seen, etc. I never believed him. He didn't lie to me about many things, but I always doubted and to this day I can't trust him. You just forgive you stop caring at some point, but trust is hard to earn. He is already with me now, there is no way he can do anything but work, but I don't trust him. The choice is yours whether to forgive, I succeeded, but the memories do not leave me finding my trust in him, I also do not know if he will ever return. No matter how much he explains to me, and shows that he only wants me, he is still a man, once he has done it, no matter how much he explains what a fool he was, I don't believe him. It's obvious when he lies to me and when he doesn't, but I just always have one thing in mind. It's your choice, I tell you from experience what it's like to forgive first, it sucks then you don't care but you don't believe him anymore. G.20 It's your choice, I tell you from experience what it's like to forgive first, it sucks then you don't care but you don't believe him anymore. G.20 It's your choice, I tell you from experience what it's like to forgive first, it sucks then you don't care but you don't believe him anymore. G.20

   Why are you all so critical? He was wrong, but why not fix it? Yes, he slipped once, but if he loves her, he can realize his mistake and change. Never be so categorical in your opinions, she will decide what to do on her own because she knows him differently from us. Author, you know best what the boy is and whether you want to continue with him here, no one knows him, and no one is a fortune teller to know if he will do it again.

   Honey, I had the same problem, only my husband and I were together for 2 years. My advice - run away !!! Such men do not know what they want and their girlfriend is still bad, they seek solace in another, etc. With my ex I had the chance to see what is happening on both sides. I saw him behave with his girlfriend and lie to her to spend 30 minutes with me. I saw him neglect the woman next to him for a brief meeting in the park. Lies, lies, lies - only men are capable of that. Mine had registrations in gepime, diamond and all other possible sites. The idiot had registered with the same nickname everywhere, or I would never have remembered it was him. We haven't changed at least 20 women since we've been together. He seems to have sentiment towards me only because I would make a joke of him, not him of me. For at least 2 girls I know that they had an abortion from him, and he really wanted children. Want, until they enter 2-3 months and suddenly it is realized that they do not get along with the girl. I broke my hormonal system because of a few birth control pills that I chose to take instead of getting pregnant ... because of supposedly unintentional blunders. For information - for me things started to unfold by accident, at first I did not even suspect all the online activity. I was trusting by nature and I thought that once we were together, I could hardly deal with others. He locked himself in the other room of the apartment, ostensibly to work, and I never checked him. God, what a fool I was! Especially since I know how he is currently able to write to me for hours, using the pretext that he works in front of his girlfriend. It hurts when you understand how many ways you have been lied to, but I wanted to know everything and I wanted to forgive him. I succeeded somewhat ... and said goodbye to my naivete forever. He always dismissed my suspicions with ridicule, and turned out to be a liar. On top of that, it was hard to break up with him because he was after me. Such men are mainly interested in their ego, they want to be with a trophy woman, by trophy I do not mean a playmate, but beautiful, intelligent, to know 2-3 languages, to have a good profession and to be proud. :)) If the author fits in a profile, then she meets the criteria and can be an official friend for a long time. Another question is whether she will be happy. Let him decide for himself, but in my opinion such a man is not able to give happiness to anyone but himself. by trophy I do not mean a playmate, but beautiful, intelligent, to know 2-3 languages, to have a good profession and to be proud. :)) If the author fits in a profile, then she meets the criteria and can be an official friend for a long time. Another question is whether she will be happy. Let him decide for himself, but in my opinion such a man is not able to give happiness to anyone but himself. by trophy I do not mean a playmate, but beautiful, intelligent, to know 2-3 languages, to have a good profession and to be proud. :)) If the author fits in a profile, then she meets the criteria and can be an official friend for a long time. Another question is whether she will be happy. Let him decide for himself, but in my opinion such a man is not able to give happiness to anyone but himself.

   And let me tell you, I'm a man of 40 and this happened to me with infidelity, and I was blind and faithful. I have forgiven, but I cannot say that trust will ever return. I associate every scandal at home with the extramarital affair, but what to do, fate.