Do I Have To Be? Grateful?

   Why are others against it? And yet she raised you, why not help her?

   Help them, if you don't help them, know that it can happen to you too. No matter what they have done against you, they must be helped, yet they have accepted them, they have raised them. Imagine if they hadn't taken you from home what your life would have been like :) You should be grateful to them :))) 12 year old girl :)

   And what are you going to do - and I'm like your position 1 to one - I give you some money, they see that I have some clothes, that I eat something and pretend that they are asleep - and not so. E. and them in d. For-let your sister take care of them. If they have given your sister more — let your sister take care of them — don't help them. Help them as much as they have helped you. I will do so with ours - if I don't die by then - I'm thinking of committing suicide - I'm 17 years old.

   What help do they want from you?

   Hi, I think you should help them because they raised you, not you grew up in a home and you should be happy about that. :) it doesn't matter what they did, everyone makes mistakes, but I think you should help her, don't respond with evil!

   She is your parent. She was not right to separate you from your sister, even if they were not blood, they accepted you, so she is your sister, but here is a word "forgiveness", think about what they did or not for you. As a child, how did they treat you? Either you give it or you don't, that's it. It's your conscience, but your mother is a mother, an adoptive parent or not, it's your mother. She raised you, she made you human. Your husband and son have no right to ask this of you .... your choice is personal. I personally would forgive, but I'm still not in your shoes as they say .... ~ Ramona ~

   Well, do as your heart tells you, not as your husband and son sing ... After all, people have raised you - are they your shelter, parental care, probably love and most of all a chance in life! How many others do you think would do it for you? They may not have been perfect in everything - everyone has flaws and chips to carve, everyone fights their demons, but at least they tried. Even the "dishonest" deeds of transfer and rent in your opinion have made them for another person like you - for your sister, not for yourself. After all - look after your family. This is your priority now. And if you have time, opportunities and desire - help a little (your parents, not your sister!). Your sister has to take care of herself - as you did. Another (healthy, upright) person to carry on his back - is not right. A sick parent is not left! Even if it's not biological ... (as long as it doesn't replay something)

   Of course you will help them! After all, these people raised you and helped you. Well, maybe not as much as you expected, but even a little help is good out of nowhere. These are your real parents - the people who gave you a chance in life to live more normally. More normal than other disadvantaged children. They may not have built a palace for you, but you still have a roof over your head. Be grateful for that! And what could be more noble than to show that despite your expectations of them, you are ready to lend a hand. Do it and you will feel more wonderful than ever! Greetings, Good Wolf.

   Do as your intuition tells you is my advice. But I wouldn't be so attached to watching a man (I guess in bed) who has always separated me from my sister. What if your sister is alone, isn't she small? Let her hire a nurse if she can't do it alone.

   You know that at some point you will be more sorry if you don't help them now than if you help them. The inner satisfaction when you help is incomparable. The laws are: You do good - you get evil You don't do good - you get evil / maybe your mother is sick right now for this very reason? / What is the conclusion? It is better to be good and to help, so at least we will have inner peace. And what about the parents who raised their children with a lot of love and gave everything for them, and the children, as a thank you, abandon them, do not take care of them and try to separate their parents' money and property during their lifetime? These parents continue to love exactly these children ... This is life. So smile :) Om

   I wouldn't help. They have openly divided you into their own and others' and have shown it most demonstratively. So in a two-story house and an apartment, you played in rooms, you paid off loans, you supported a student, and they spread in affluence. And now, when they are already old and weak, they are looking for an old woman's washbasin, so as not to spoil the care of "their" child. Since the native princess can't do this job, let's call the "foreign" to itch the unpleasant part and then where did it come from.

   Very interesting question .. It's like being on the market and everything is calculated in money and real estate. So, you give me how much you are and I will love and respect you for exactly this amount. No more, no less. Have you heard that the mother takes more care of the child, which she considers to be weaker and wrong? Not that he doesn't like the other, he just trusts him more that he can handle the difficulties better. Come on, go back in time and remember - did she take care of you and love you when you needed her? Then did you notice this division of mine and adopted, or did you take care of you equally with love? If the answer is yes, then stop bargaining, like a mercantile person. If you have the opportunity and desire, help them. If not, to be alive and healthy and at least to have a little gratitude for being taken care of. Money is not everything.

   I support number 11.

   Parents are not parents to leave you property but to raise / nurture you. They are not to blame for your difficult financial situation, after coming of age you are to blame for not finding a lucrative job / you and your husband /. You have to be grateful to them for what you are, because if they hadn't watched you for 20 years, what would you be. Whose property would you think of now? Would you have achieved what you were at all if it weren't for them? The properties they want to leave, they helped you for the first home, what else do you want? Your husband and son have this conviction because you have set them up over the years (perhaps without realizing it). A parent is not obliged to provide for the whole life of his child, be it his own or adopted. The fact that they have adopted you does not mean that they are obliged to provide you with prosperity for the rest of your life and to raise your children. You are still their daughter because of what they have built of you. You say you have a child, so you know how to look after / bring up, how every day you build a character, a way of thinking, they have given you this and this is so much and they have helped you with money, so you have to help them with all your might.

   They are rightly against it, but just because they didn't treat you well doesn't mean you should be disgusting. You treat them like a human being, and it doesn't matter how they behaved. Just be human.

   I completely agree with №11. Why are they calling for help only now? Aren't they alone and their beloved daughter is with them? They do not need money, but they also need to sell their apartment in Sofia. Don't they live in it? We all know how much a Sofia apartment costs. As a pet daughter, she can't handle hiring an assistant. You've suffered enough! Now is the time to rest and help your child. I say that children should be taken for adoption in order to look after them with quality, not to serve us. If I was, I would go and see them, but ... that's it.